Post # 1
So, after much deliberation, I decided that I hate my arms! Actually, I have known this for a while, but I always assumed that I wanted a strapless dress, so, stupid me, I bought one! I thought enough shake-weights (LOL) would somehow miraculously sculpt my unshapely arms, but… NOPE.
My dress is by Pronovias and is in rich satin and beautiful. I’ve been looking at boleros online for a few months now, and I still have yet to find the “one” for my bolero. SO, I started looking at other beautiful bee’s posting photos of sleeves on their dresses!
Can anybody please recommend me a sleeve-style that would work for my dress? THANK YOU!
Post # 3
In my experience attempting to hide your arms with sleeves only draws more attention to them.
Post # 4
i think you look amazing!!! dont worry!!
Post # 5
I think you look just fine! Beautiful 🙂
Post # 6
You can have any style sleeves attached to your dress or wear a bolero over it. Personally I think the dress looks great the way it is. Sometimes sleeves and straps draw more attention to your arms.
Post # 8
You ladies are so sweet.. I just realized i posted the wrong photo anyway! Here are the unflattering photos of my arms! ugh!
I am thinking, I want sleeves, simply because then, I will stop obsessing about them! Plus, I have this feeling that I will probably obsess about it on the day of, and get extremely self conscious. HMM.
Post # 9
I agree with all of the PPs – you do NOT need sleeves, and they might do the opposite of what you want (by drawing more attention). Moreover, your lovely veil covers your arms, and what I can see of looks great 🙂
Post # 10
You honestly shouldn’t worry, you look lovely. I agree with the other Bees that adding a bolero, sleeves, etc. will only draw attention. I wouldn’t say my arms were looking as good as they used to on my wedding day & with the veil and all I didn’t even give my arms a second thought. Everyone will be focused on how overall beautiful you are to notice your arms.
Post # 11
You arms look beautiful… and your dress is so gorgeous! We all have something we worry about and we’re convinced that we look horrible because of it. You have to give yourself a reality check and a break~ you really are beautiful exactly the way you are right now. You don’t have to wait until you exercise, or change something to give yourself permission to like how you look.
You look elegant, romantic, stlyish… I love the whole look including the sash and I usually hate purple!! DO NOT let yourself say one negative word from now on when you look in the mirror. Try to see the entire picture, the way everyone else will, and not just that one detail you think makes you not good enough.
Post # 12
@sarahbabs: Totally agree w/u that the veil covers the guns. I am planning to only have the veil on for the ceremony but was wondering, whats the etiquette on wearing the veil for the reception too? My reception will be at a hotel away from the church. Do most people keep their veils on? or do they take off the veil post ceremony?
I really appreciate all you lovely ladies opinions re: arms. I just haaaaate it and you guys are totally right about the insecurity that you have, that nobody else probably notices!! I guess I should continue my shake weights during commercials / hit the gym to tone them. UGH. Hate the gym!
Post # 13
I’m in the same boat as you. I, too, hate my arms and still bought a strapless dress because I believed I could sculpt them into guns in a year. So far, no dice.
What I can say is that the veil is doing a nice job covering them. There will be pictures you hate, I can guarantee. Everyone has bad unflattering pictures taken. But I think a lot of them will turn out great and you have nothing to worry about.
Post # 14
I too have been cursed with mamma arms and am searching for a solution to a strapless dress I fell in love with. I’ve joined a fitness boot camp but not sure I can tone enough before the wedding date 🙁
Post # 15
@vmec: Agreed. I too wore a pronovias but it was lace and strapless. I added straps and honestly, I think it drew attention to my arms. In your case, if you are conscious about your arms, I’d go with a bolero. One of my favorite bees had one and it was gorgeous. Way to go Mrs. Jaguar. Here is something by another bee. CupCakeMeg. FWIW, I think you (and your arms) look very beautiful without sleeves 🙂
Post # 16
I think you look lovely- however there are some very pretty lace boleros that I have seen and I know that this body issue will not just go away- I think if you got a pretty lace cover up it would make you feel more pretty on your special day. Either way, you will be beautiful 🙂