Post # 1
The title says it all… it’s almost 3am and I wake up with dress regret. No, it’s not the first time. I’ve been having dress regret for months. But I tried to suppress my feelings. I kept telling myself it would be fine, but I dont think it is.
My dress is Pronovias Leiben. Its a mermaid / trumpet and I am wearing a tulle skirt on top to have a ball gown for the ceremony. My dress just came in and I had to pay my full balance. I ended up with a lace dress, when I am not a big fan of lace. I have a weird scalloped neckline and I don’t think it is tastefully done. Plus I think it’s different that the material on the sample I tried. And I think the dress flares out too early, creating an odd shape. The back is plain. And I think the skirt comes out flat sometimes. Not to mention that the flange skirt is going out of style.
I just don’t love it. And I consider myself fashion forward and my budget was 2x this dress so I feel like I settled or I jumped too soon for a bargain. I feel like I should have paid more for a better dress. Not that I have any in mind… I’m picky and I don’t know any other dress I want. I am a high end designer kinda girl and I don’t know what I was thinking. I also have pressure because my family is so fashionable. They’ve already called me to give me critiques on my e-pics.
Here is a pic of me in it and then a pic of me holding up a skirt like the one I’m getting. But that pic has me in a diff dress with a simpler neckline.
There’s a sample sale in my area next weekend. Should I go get another dress? Or try alterations? Or maybe try to return it because I think the neckline details are different from the sample? I need help! And fast!
Post # 2
While I think it’s stunning, you may explore the possibilities if you’re not happy. First contact the store if you think the neckline is different from the sample to see if u can return it. Do you think it needs alterations made? It does look like it doesn’t lie smoothly at the waist, but it’s hard to tell from the photo. You could go to the sample sale just to satisfy your curiosity. Are you planning to wear a veil? Sometimes it changes the whole look of the dress.
Post # 3
I think it is a beautiful dress and I love thr tulle skirt but it sounds as though you are not completely happy and for that reason alone I would say try and return it. Your dress shouldn’t be keeping you up stressed at 3am, the way I see it is this is a day that you will remember forever. You don’t want to be looking back on your pictures with any regrets. Maybe go back to the store and see if they will return it, mention the neckline details. As I said, I think the dress looks beautiful but you need to love it, not regret it. Best of luck with whatever you decide to do.
Post # 4
First of all I think it is stunning and you look incredible in it. However, this is not about what I or anyone else thinks its about you. My friend got married last April, she told me on her hen night she really had doubts of her dress. The married girls all told her that they’d had them too and it was normal. On the day of her wedding she burst into tears in the morning and told her Maid/Matron of Honor she felt she look like a Drag Queen, on her day she looked unhappy all because of this dress. I had dress regrets of a dress called Enzoani Ferrara, quite similar to this because I felt self conscious not because of the dress. I searched and searched and eventually found the dress Ive bought now and not once have I had a regret about it xx
Post # 5
If you think the sample dress you tried on is different from the dress you received, definitely ask the store about it. I was looking at photos of my dress online and realized there were appliques on the shoulder that I swore were not on the dress I tried in store. My mom was there and could confirm this and most importantly, we had photos of me in the sample dress as proof. I immediately contacted the store when I realized this, and they confirmed that the original dress does indeed have appliques on the straps but they had removed them from their sample version (because most brides didn’t favor them) and that the appliques could be easily removed for me. I know the situation is different from yours but double check if you think something is wrong.
Also, if this really isn’t the dress for you, you could always try selling this dress if you choose to purchase a different one. I find myself having dress regret too, but it’s not because I don’t like the dress I chose. It’s more of a “I liked that other style too” but I still love my dress at the end of the day. For you it sounds like there isn’t a single thing you like about your dress.
I agree with luvjewels that it’s worth trying the dress with a veil and have your hair up or down depending on what you’re planning for the big day. When I made my final decision I went in with my hair up (I know that’s what I want) and with sparkly earrings (not the exact style I want to wear for my wedding but earrings make a huge difference). Then I asked the bridal store to put a veil, headpiece, shoes on me. We tried at least 5 different veils and various headpieces with each of my final contender dresses. I’m horribly picky and indecisive so I knew I needed this. I think this helps me calm myself and say “I know I made the right decision” now that I’m back in Seoul and won’t have time to buy a new dress in the States before my wedding.
I imagine this must be very stressful, but I’m sure you’ll be able to figure out what to do!
Post # 6
The samples are worn by other peoole so that’s why it looks different. Your dress is new and probably need steamed. It’s not going to flare out at much till you break it in pretty much. Also maybe some alterations to make it tighter. I had the same issue with my dress. It came in and i hated it. I have to bring it in at the waist. No dress is going to feel or look exactly like the sample. If you just don’t like it though because it’s not your typical 10k dress then maybe you should get another. This is something that alterations may not be able to fix because it sounds like you are more worried about being judged and you don’t think it’s a good enough dress.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2015 - City, State
Since you’re literally up at night because of dress regret then yes, you should get a new dress. Plus it sounds like you don’t even like any aspect of your dress– not the shape, the lace, the neckline, the back, the skirt…
FWIW I think your dress is beautiful and not worth losing sleep over, but you have to love it. You better find a dress fast though!
Post # 8
Flange skirt is definitely not going out of style ( see Vera Wang 2015 collection) It looks nice on you, but I was a 2 dress bride myself, because I didn’t love the first one I got.
Post # 9
Honestly if you are losing sleep over a dress, you really need to take a break from the wedding planning. Take a day, go have a massage, see a movie, visit some museums, whatever. Just don’t do anything wedding-related and don’t talk about, think about, or work on your wedding planning.
Post # 10
Sell it/return it and get something you love-it’s that simple. No need to lose sleep over it.
Post # 11
it looks wonderful on you but if it’s bothering you to the point of keeping you up at night, I’d recommend seeing if you can find something else. You can ways resell it and you may be able to get more than 50% back since it wasn’t actuay worn at a wedding.
I haven’t ordered a dress yet but I found one that made my mom cry back on October and while I thought it was very pretty, I wasn’t completely sold. So I made another appointment and found exactly what I was looking for!
So I say if you can swing it, keep looking.
Post # 12
Thanks for all of your advice everyone! I am going to call the store and mention that I think the neckline details are different from the sample. We will see what they say. Something tells me that they won’t care or they will just say they can change that. But I am going to try.
If that doesn’t work I am definitely going to look into other dresses anyway. I just can’t let this go. My Fiance says he knew this was going to happen because I’m so indecisive. And I feel terrible about that. I don’t want to be snotty about any of this. I just want to feel beautiful.
Post # 13
First off, can I just say that you have a rockin’ body!
With that said, I agree with Chicago. Try to sell it/return it. You need to find something you love. You deserve to be thrilled with the dress you wear on your day!
Post # 14
I think you’re right. I have been stressed a lot lately. I think that’s why I finally cracked and freaked out about the dress. Until now, I just kept telling myself it would be fine.
Post # 15
aww thank you! I am going to try my best to return it. I don’t think that will work but we shall see.