Post # 1
Just a question, I read SO much about ladies having dress regret and I really can’t wrap my head around why? I think alot has to do with “still looking”/comparing yourself to others after finding a dress that you love. Thoughts??
Post # 3
I experienced that… piece of advise. .. DO NOT look after you choose your dress…
Same as wedding band and engagement ring… my ring regret is not as bad as my dress regret.
Then after I stop looking at other dress, I gain my love for my original dress again
Post # 4
@gpiglet: +1000 I totally agree
@gpiglet: I unfortunately sold my original dress, bought another one then had dress regret again but it was too late. Honestly I am a pretty self concious person so I just was so unsure about it.
Another piece of advice. Only show a select number of people!!
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
@gpiglet: +1 I learned this from my ring. I promised my FI once I found a dress I would stop looking. I’ve stayed pretty true to it. It helps that I love my dress, though.
Post # 6
I never understood it. I myself don’t have dress regret, I love my dress to bits, but Ive been reading so many stories lately! Just curious what people thought about why it happens. I believe because you still look, compare yourself to others etc. Its not a healthy thing.
Post # 7
I’m definitely feeling some dress regret right now, but it really is my own fault. Went BM dress shopping the other day and it made me really excited so I went home to try on my own again. Unfortunately I’ve gained a little weight and it doesn’t look nearly as good as when I bought it. Hoping to shed about 10 pounds and be happy again!
Post # 8
I had ‘dress regret’. The reason is I coveted a specific designer dress but felt it was out of my price range.
I purchased another totally stunning dress within my price range, but found out about a pre-owned version of my dream dress that was less than half of retail and decided to get it.
I lost $500 on the resale of my first dress, but expect to break even on the resale of the dress I ended up wearing.
My mistake was not buying the dress I originally wanted. The same thing happened with my vehicle. I really need to trust my instincts.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago
For me my dress regret happened like this….
I knew the dress I wanted, tried it on and fell in love…it was over my budget, so I settled for a totally different style dress from the same designer, but could not stop thinking about the first one. I knew I would regret not being able to ever wear the first dress…so, now I have two dresses, and my dream dress will be worn most of the night during the reception, but my dress for the ceremony will be in all my pre-post ceremony photos before the reception.
Post # 10
@foreverlovex: I think the reason why people have dress regret for a couple of reasons:
1- they start looking far too early and they “fall in love” with a dress than continue to look and new things come out
2- they are torn between 2 dresses and just make a rash decision about which one to go with
3- family/friends can influence us even though we should think about what we want on our big day
4- cost of the dress compared to other dresses they’ve tried on
I’m lucky, I haven’t had dress regret once and can’t wait til it comes in so I can see it. These are just the reasons I get when I read dress regret stories from others. I could be completely wrong.
Post # 11
I came VERY close to getting pressured into buying the wrong dress. Luckily, we had the MOH’s dress appointment immediately after, and I backed out of buying it JUST in time!
But I would have regretted that dress, no question!
Post # 12
I think it stems from not trying on enough dresses. I tried on so. many. dresses that I had no qualms about saying yes to the one when I found it. I don’t think about “what if there is a better dress out there..” because there isn’t. I’ve tried them all on already!
Post # 13
@foreverlovex: it doesn’t help that brides get bombarded with images of other brides looking so happy in their dresses…if there is any shred of self-consciousness it can be enough to make a bride second-guess her decision. I agree with other bees that you must stop looking at dresses once you have made your choice! Or, if you aren’t over the moon excited about it, don’t buy it to begin with! I tried on lots I hated, and then a bunch that I just liked…thought they were pretty but they didn’t make me feel pumped to show up at my wedding in them. i really had that gut level certainty when I eventually found my dress and, despite seeing lots of gorgeous dresses posted by other bees on this site, I haven’t had a moment of dress regret. Not a second. Trust your gut!
Post # 14
I agreed. I look too early on both ring and dresses….
from my painful experience, I think if I have a second chance, I would NOT make the decision ……..say 7-8 months before the big day
Post # 15
@foreverlovex: I bought my dress at a trunk show before the designer was selling it in stores (I got it during bridal amrket in nyc). So, for a long time there were no stock photos but, once stock photos went up I had dress regret immediately. For whatever reason, the model looked SO STRANGE to me and it made me question my choice until I looked back at my own pictures and saw I looked so different.
Post # 16
Interesting! Just very curious about it. Glad I have not experienced it!