- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
I often see some posters talking about having “dress regret”. I totally understand this feeling, as I went though it when I was dress shopping. I have some advice for fellow bees who might be feeling the same way!
When I first went dress shopping, it was about 10 months before my wedding. I had always wanted to lose some weight before even stepping foot into a bridal gown store. I was with my mom and dad (surprizingly) when I thought I found my first dress “the one”. It was a mori lee gown, size 14 in the store. It was a bit tight, but I felt comfortable with how my figure looked in the dress. My mom and dad both LOVED the gown in comparison to another runner up. The store owner told me that we’d have to order me a Size 16 in the dress, and that they could tailor it to fit similarly to the gown I tried on in the store. I decided to buy the dress, but I did so hoping that the dress would a)fit the same way as the one I tried on in the store and b) my parents loved it, as did other customers in the store.
Two months after I tried on and bought my original gown, I had gone wedding dress shopping with one of my bridesmaids who was going to be getting married in early 2011. Then in the window, I saw a gown that I needed to try on. BIG MISTAKE! Ladies, once you have bought your gown STOP SHOPPING!! I tried on the dress and fell in love! It was a Maggie’s Sabelle and then I had serious doubt about my original purchase. My girlfriend found her dress that day and bought it, and I left the salon with a big hole in my heart. I couldn’t afford another gown, I had already paid $1100 for mine.
When the dress finally came in (my mori lee), I was still about the same weight (minus about five lbs) as when I first ordered the dress. I hated it immediately! The gaping fabric made me feel very chunky, and without my mom by myside, I freaked out and had serious dress regret! I went and took the gown to a tailor, and they said they could alter it to be a bit tighter, but not the way I would have wanted the gown to fit. I was devastated, and there was only 4 months before my wedding.
Being so upset, I started to go into bridal shops on my own to look for gowns to buy off the rack. I found “the one” by myself! I ended up buying a pickup style gown that wasn’t fitted though the hips, and that had a corset back that could give me the “fit like a glove” feel. The gown cost me about $600, but it was worth it. It wasn’t a sabelle (which I still loved), but it was a style that I could feel great in on my wedding day.
What lesson would I love to give to fellow bees?
1) When trying on gowns (especially fitted ones that might be sample size lower than the size you wear) ask lots of questions as to how the gown can be altered. My gown had a button up back, and could have never had the “fit like a glove” look as the “too tight” gown I had liked. (If that makes sence!)
2) Don’t let moms, dads, grandmas, or best friends influence your decision! You need to wear the dress on your big day!!
3) Stop shopping once you buy a dress! I totally kicked myself for trying on other gowns that gave me doubts.
4) If you know it’s not right – try to sell the other dress and move on. No regrets!
Good luck shopping ladies!
Bees, do you like my final gown choice?
Gown 1 – I sold it on preownedweddingdresses.com. In this photo I had clips in the back of the gown. My tailor said they wouldn’t make it “this tight” as 2-3 lbs gain or loss would not allow for the gown to fit me. It wasn’t even close to as form fitting as I would have wanted it.
Gown 2 – The gown I wore
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