Post # 1
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Helper bee
Hello Bees,
As soon as I bought my dress I stopped looking in stores but continue to look on here and pinterest!! It’s killing me… I loved it when I first bought it and now I keep wondering if I
should’ve wait, because now I feel so unsure 🙁
Is this a normal feeling? Will it pass?!!
It doesn’t help that my dress needs some major chest alterations so when I went to try it
on, the top was so distracting to me I didn’t really enjoy having it on.
Thoughts?!!?
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
Second guessing our dresses is very normal. How could it not be with thousands of beautiful options out there? I am six months after my wedding and still see dresses and think “damn, where was that dress when I was buying?” and I truly loved my dress.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
Thank-you!
That is very true.
I’m comparing pictures of me in the sample to my actual dress and I love the sample on, but not my dress. There is something about the top that is a little different, like the material on mine is too perfect or something. Can’t wait for the first fitting to nip these concerns in the butt!!!!
Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
@MrsEllieBellie: I think that once they get the bust done for you, then you will see again why you fell in love with it. Sometimes all we can see is the mess of fabric and beading and it is hard to visualize how it will all come together, but it always does.
What dress did you choose?
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
I’ve been through it too. I struggle with it here and there….but the other day I was at a wedding show and as I kept seeing dress after dress that was just to die for and wonderng what I would look like in them… when I ran into the booth of the store I bought my dress at (months ago) and we began thumbing through theire bridesmaids dresses when they asked me if I had mine yet…and then I said yeah, that I got mine at their store and she asked to see a pic of me in it…I didn’t have one so we continued to look around as I saw my sis pull out her iPhone and show a picture to the lady, and that’s when I caught a glimps of me in my dress on the screen and remembered why I loved it so much.
It’s weird cuz sometimes I look at pics of myself in it and I dont’ get teh same feeling, I get more indifference but when I’m not expecting to see myself in it and I’m not even sure what I”m looking at I see it from the perspective of “oh who is that…she look’s great!” then I realize…oh it’s me.
I think it’s normal, and it’s hard to get that feeling back as to why I chose it. I’m the kind girl that if I take my dress home and wear it in front of the mirror 100 times, I will completley change my mind. So, it’s staying at the store until about 20 days before the wedding…and I don’t plan on visiting it until then.
Being a bride has made me prone to second guessing myself. this is not a normal charachteristic for me…so I imagine it does this to others too.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Thank-you, seriously that helps!!
Since I’ve been obsessing about my fear of no longer loving my dress I started analyzing pictures. When my dress came in I went to try it on and still liked it but something was different but I couldn’t pinpoint what it was so I didn’t say anything.
It is something in the top half of the dress. The sample looks softer to me; the colour looks different and the material on the top looks different. I loved the sample because of the unique material on the top. It almost looks like rouging. In my dress the folds look perfect and I absolutely do Not like it!!! Also, the sample has more embellishment; more flower detailing.
Here are the pictures, let me know if you ladies notice a difference as well. How do I handle this? I’m thinking of calling the bridal shop today.
The pictures aren’t the greatest because I zoomed.
The dress on the left is mine, and the one on the right is the sample! I apologize for the bad picture, I just put both up on my desktop and took a screen shot!
Thanks Bees…you are all so helpful!!!
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
I think this is normal. Same thing happened to me. I LOVED my dress when I bought it. It was the first and only one I tried on. BUT after I went wedding dress shopping with a friend to help her pick her dress I started to wonder what I would have looked like in this one or that one. I seem to do that with everything though, cars, e-ring, etc. I think it makes it worse that my dress is just sitting in a closet waiting to be altered and I never see it. Once I do see it, I fall in love with it all over again 🙂
Post # 10
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Helper bee
You give me hope!!!
Now I think there is something different about my dress…
The lady at my bridal shop says that once it is steemed it will be better…I’m not completely sure!
Post # 11
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Blushing bee
I always have 2nd thoughts too!! I bought my dress in November and my wedding isn’t til August and I can’t help but look at other dresses!!! When I look at a picture of myself I don’t love it on me but probably b/c the dress is big on me. I hope I fall in love with it again when it finally comes in.
By the way, your dress looks gorgeous on you and fits you well!!
Post # 12
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Helper bee
Thanks Diana!
I’m sure your dress is gorgeous!!
It’s hard because we have to buy them so far in advance and then we don’t wear them but still see all of these beautiful dresses!
Post # 12
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Helper bee
Thanks Diana!
I’m sure your dress is gorgeous!!
It’s hard because we have to buy them so far in advance and then we don’t wear them but still see all of these beautiful dresses!
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
I am positive the lighting in both pictures is very different…alhtough I do see a slight change in the size of the flowers…and also, obviously the top needs altering..otherwise I’d say they look pretty much the same. As for the ruching…it’s definetly softer and less folded on the sample. I’d be more concerned about this than anythign else. There’s likely something they can do to soften the look.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
I think the lighting is different in your pictures – also, you have to remember that sample gowns are a bit ‘worn-in’, which may account for the softer look you think you’re seeing as well as your detailing being ‘too-perfect’ compared to the sample.
To answer your original question – YES! I love my dress, and I know in the end I’ll be so happy with my choice, but I keep over-analyzing the crappy, lone cell phone picture I have on my phone (awful idea), and of course browsing other dresses that make me question my purchase. It’s totally normal. Once your dress is exactly how you want it, you’ll fall in love with it all over again.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
I think it’s totally normal since like you I regretted it from like day 2. I opted for a 2nd wedding dress for the reception, yea regretted that on day 2 as well. In the end after I got them tailored and well, got to see what a dress in the right size looks like on me, the regret was out the door. I received tons of compliments on my dresses. My Darling Husband even said he didn’t know why I regretted either dresses.
I will tell you what my Maid/Matron of Honor told me every time I’d message her that I’d fallen in love with yet another dress….STOP LOOKING AT WEDDING DRESSES!
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