Post # 1
So I posted last night that we found the dress. I was so excited and happy last night I couldn’t stop looking at the pictures. A beautiful dress.
So I wake up this morning and I feel incredibly guilty.The dress we picked was twice the price of the budget I gave the lady but she didn’t tell me until my mom and I fell in love with the dress.
I could tell it was more than my mom ever wanted to spend on it but she put a down payment on it. I love the dress, it’s beautiful but I don’t want my mom spending that much on a dress for me.
Is it normal to feel bad about the cost of the dress? Should I maybe try to sneak a big payment on it during tax season? Or should I just let her do it? Or maybe find a way to return it? I love everything about the dress, other than the price tag. But we already put a deposit on it. It was at Davids Bridal. If I should look for another dress or this one cheaper, would I be able to get my moms deposit back for her from there?
I can’t stop thinking about how bad I feel that she spent that money on me…
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2015 - Diplomat Country Club
@pinkgreenandyellow: I know exactly how you feel going from a maggie to a lazaro my mom’s wallet is crying right now but what we are doing she is paying hald i’m paying half when i get my tax return and that made me feel better i couldn’t let her spend all of her money on my dress specially since she was sacrificing the dress she wanted to pay for mine. That way we all feel better and get what we want.
If it makes you feel better offer to help her pay
Post # 4
I hate it when dress shops do this to girls, but I think your mom wants to do this for you. I’d agree with malouloune and offer to help pay for some of it.
Post # 5
@malouloune: Thank you, nice to know I’m not the only one who feels this way. I offered to help pay but she refuses to thinking it over the only way I will be able to help pay for it is by going down there without her knowledge and making a payment. She’s doing a rush order on her taxes to make sure the dress is paid off on time, and I will have to as well so I get my money back before she does hopefully, since once she does she will go straight to the bridal shop and pay it all off…
I’m glad you found a way to compromise so you don’t feel guilty. If I could pay a little over 1/2 on the dress she will only be paying the original limit I wanted to spend on the dress so I will hopefully feel better. Heck I was looking in the clearance rack just to keep the costs down for her, but crazy bridal consultant had to bring out the prettiest, best fitting expensive dress way over my budget 🙁
Post # 6
I had the same feeling because my mom bought me TWO dresses. I had dress regret, fell in love with another. I offered to pay for the new dress but she insisted. (The first dress was $450, the second was $1600 with alterations). I felt guilty and sometimes still do. I offered many times to help pay but she wanted to do it for me. We really do have great moms 🙂
Post # 7
@housebee: That consultant was nice, but I don’t know why she would go and get a dress over 1/2 my budget. What is the point of asking a budget if you wont even listen to it?
Post # 8
@Lyndzo: Wow,, two dresses! I bet they are very pretty. I was hoping for a dress around the price of your first dress to keep costs down on my mom, ended up with a dress around the same cost as your second dress. I haven’t even counted the alterations yet. Just the dress without crinoline or anything else, just dress and preservation kit so far 🙁
But yes we do have some wonderful moms!
Post # 9
Not to sound like a smart a** or anything….. but… its nice that you feel bad… but it’s also nice that your mom bought your dress for you.. I bought my own.. and my budget was originally $1,000 – I ended up spending double that. So if you really feel all that bad, I would suggest you pay for it least half of it since it was double the money you wanted her to spend.