- 4 years ago
If you asked me a few months ago what I thought about dress shopping, I would have litterally told you I did not understand all the fuzz around finding ”the dress”, all the stress, tears and self-doubt that came with this experience for many brides. Here’s another chapter of my dress saga !
1 – When I got engaged, I started warning everybody I might not wear white for my wedding. I had never thought I would marry one day, so I never imagined myself wearing a traditional wedding gown. Being on a budget too, I could not AFFORD a wedding dress and those I liked the most were always over 1K. So I thought by shopping through stores and prom dresses, that I could find a black, purple or red dress, with lace maybe, etc.
2 – After months of researches for said colored dress (and not finding any that I liked), I started looking at white/ivory wedding dresses online, but those I loved were way too expensive, so I contemplated buying a replica from China, until I saw my dream dress on David’s Bridal : Vera Wang 351086. It was on discount around 800$ and way over budget, but was not sold in Canada store so I waited and hesitated to buy it online, and when I decided myself it was too late, my size was gone and I couln’t pay for a size 10, and alterations it would need to take it 2 sizes down.
3 – I went on Kijiji trying to find a similar silhouette and more budget-friendly dress by going pre-owned. I bought this Anjolique 1012 dress … for 200$ !!! You probably saw the thread I wrote about that dress, saying that I wasn’t sure about my choice since it didn’t have lace. I liked the dress, but did not ”love” it and I have had constant regret about it ever since I bought it. The wallet screamed louder than the heart, and even though the dress is beautiful, it didn’t feel like it was the one. But my FI and my mom were in love with the dress.
See this thread for pics of me in the dress: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/am-i-crazy-dress-regret-for-an-almost-identical-dress#axzz2k6eVc7OB
4 – Couldn’t get a peace of mind. Couldn’t stop looking at other dresses. I went to another dress salon today, where the gown I purchased was bought from, originally. I didn’t say I had a gown already, I brought pictures of dresses I liked and I told the seller I had 1.5K budget (which isn’t true, but I wanted her to put me in some lace dresses and styles I liked, because I had not in the first salon !). I also told her I would like to look at colors since we are not going traditional either. And she came down with litterally the prom version of Vera Wang’s dress …! (not the actual dress, but I’d say 95% accurate) :
Okay, it has no lace, but :
– Purple is my signature color ;
– Dress color was actually my first idea, not white ;
– It looks like my Vera Wang dream dress ;
– It has NO TRAIN !!!!! I do not like trains, and it would have cost me an additionnal 350$ to remove the train from my actual gown (or any other I would have bought);
– No alterations needed ; the dress is lace up and fits perfectly;
– I couldn’t stop smiling, I didn’t want to take the dress off, which is actually the first time it ever happened since I’ve started shopping for dresses.
The problems now : this dress is 595$, which is over my budget, but there’s a credit option that’s 12 months with 0 interest, 0 fees. So it would basically cost me 50$ a month and my wedding is in 14 months. It is budget-friendly. But I feel bad for the dress I already purchased. I was trying to find accessories, I tried to love it, I tried to imagine once fitted how amazing it would look. I’m afraid this dress won’t be ”bridal” for guests. I don’t know if I’ll still like my wedding pictures in 10 years, because it’s not a white dress. I’m afraid I’ll disappoint my mom, who looked so happy when she saw me in the white dress. And now, it’s not 400$ it will have cost me (my initial budget), but 80$, considering both dresses. And if I choose the purple one, I just can’t sell the white one. I’m undecided between the two. I’m trying to figure out if the excitement came from ”me in a beautiful purple dress” or ”me in my wedding dress”. I love the dress, but I don’t know anymore if I’m ready to rock a purple dress for my wedding.
Sorry, just had to vent I guess, and to confess that I’ve become this Bee undecided and stressed and about to buy a 2nd dress out of regret, I never thought this would happen to me !