(Closed) Dress Regret – please give me your perspective on the importance the dress

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I think a little bit of dress regret is natural- woulda coulda is inevitable. With the wedding date so close, however, it looks like it will be the dress you have.

If you don’t LOVE it, maybe get yourself something sassy for the rehearsal dinner. Or- a second dress for the reception. You wrote that it was super simple- any similar dresses w/ JCrew or Ann Taylor? We got bridemaids dresses from JCrew super speedy.

Post # 4
1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Can you alter the dress you have any more? If it’s poufy, remove some of the crinoline, cut off the train (so kill the bustle), change up the neckline, add some bling, remove some bling, add a bolero, even change the skirt shape (say, A-line to mermaid, or vice versa)?  Any of that (hell, all of that) would probably be cheaper than buying a new dress.

That said, if the dress that’s a size too small hasn’t been altered smaller from its original size, you might be able to make it fit- generally wedding dresses can be taken up a size or two.  That might be something to ask the seller. 

And the dress is not the be-all-end-all. You’re the bride- you’ll look gorgeous in a potato sack.  As long as it fits you beautifully, you’ll be amazing.

Post # 5
2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think it doesn’t matter that much. There are infinate dresses you can pick from, so if you keep looking you’ll always find something that you think you like better. You just have to pick one (instead of thinking of it as “the one“) that you like and looks good, that you can afford, and go with it. 

Post # 6
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I had major dress regret, but a new dress was out of budget and I figured what I had was good enough. After the wedding, I really regret not getting a dress I actually liked. I feel like I missed my one opportunity to wear a beautiful wedding dress and I hate the way I look in the photos. Every bride is different, but if you try the dress on, wait a week, and still hate it, I’d advise looking for something else.

Post # 7
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

As someone who was in your shoes exactly one week ago, I can empathize. I finally admitted my first dress was not the right dress and no matter how small, or “silly” or trivial it might seem to someone else this is your wedding dress. It’s really freaking important to YOU. I knew that when I woke up on the morning of my wedding I didn’t want to have the sinking feeling that I had made the wrong choice. We are also spending a pretty penny on photography and videography and I didn’t want to hate my photos and video because I hated my dress. It was the right choice for me, but you have to do what’s best for you. If you can afford it, I would say go for it. Good luck and keep us posted!

Post # 10
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m glad it worked out! Do you have pics? Or at least a designer and style number? I’m so curious what this “had to have” dress looks like!

FWIW, I now have 3 dresses, but it’s because I bought the first two online without trying them on. I then found another in a store for only $200 that fits me without alteration, and I’m still thinking about wearing one of the first two dresses at the reception. I was trying so hard to stay in my tight budget and ended up with two dresses that I couldn’t be happy with as-is. Looking back I would have actually saved money if I’d just splurged on a dress I loved in the first place. Lesson learned.


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