- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
So I’m having a serious case of the dreaded dress regret. I’ve always pictured myself in a light and airy tulle ballgown, and a couple of months ago I went wedding dress shopping by myself in a nearby city and fell in love with a dress, but it was a little more than I wanted to spend, and I’m one of those types of people who usually needs to mull things over for a little bit before making a decision and I really wanted to have some input from my friends and family, so I decided to keep looking in hopes of finding something similar that was closer to my price range.
My mom lives a couple of hours away and we hadn’t really had any opportunities to go dress shopping, so when she was in town last week we went to some local stores. I honestly didn’t have any intentions of buying a gown when we left the house, but when we went into one of the stores I was really drawn to one dress, a fun ballgown with a rosette skirt. I tried it on and really liked it, but the next thing I knew my mom was gushing about it and offering to pay for it. I think I might have got caught up in the moment since my mom and I don’t really get along and we had a really wonderful day together, and before I really thought about what was going on my mom had handed over her credit card and I was getting measured up.
I know that I shouldn’t, but I can’t help but looking at the pictures of myself in the dress I ordered and the ones of me in my dream dress, and I wish I had thought about it a bit more before I ordered my dress. I really do like my dress and think it is a perfect reception dress for me, but am wishing I had kept looking for that perfect tulle ballgown that I’ve always dreamed of walking down the aisle in. However, I don’t want to sell the dress I ordered because my mom is really excited about it and I don’t want to hurt her feelings.
All of that being said, I’ve been thinking that maybe I should get a second ceremony dress, but I don’t know if I can afford to find a second gown that I wll love, and I don’t know if I like the idea of having two wedding dresses that are both ballgowns, since I think it would be weird to have two dresses that are fairly similar IYKWIM. I’m sure if I contacted a seemstress they would think I’m crazy to consider this, but I’ve started thinking that maybe I could wear my dress, but have a removable tulle overskirt made that I could wear during the ceremony, so I can have my perfect 2-in-1 ceremony and reception dress. I really don’t know if an overskirt is possible with my gown or if it would be within my budget, but I was thinking that since my dress is fairly big to start with I think I would remove some of the crinolin so it’s less poufy, and see if I can have the skirt made with as few layers as possible, so it doesn’t look like a skirt that’s been added on, but isn’t so big and overwhelms me either.
Here’s a pic of me in my dress:
And a pic of my the dress I initially fell in love with:
What do you bees think? Would it be weird to have a removable overskirt made? Should I start looking for a second ceremony dress? Logically I know that I should wait until my dress comes in to make a decision, but because of my timeline I’m worried that I won’t have enough time to order a second dress if i decide that that’s what I need to do, and since I’m a size 2 it’s really hard to find anything off of the rack without paying to have it severely altered. I’m a bit torn and feel like an idiot for getting caught up in a moment and subsequently considering buying a second dress or putting an overskirt over my dress. Ugh.
Sorry for such a long post!