Post # 17
Looks like your weight loss has changed the fit of the dress!
I think you are gorgeous regardless, but I’m sure if it makes you more confident about it, there are some minor changes as pp’s mentioned you could do!
Congratulations on your weight loss, you look great!
Post # 18
Thanks everyone for your opinions – gosh I’m just devastated now. This is after alterations… so this is how the seamstress says it should look. I agree it’s not showing any shape and it just feels like I’m wearing a ruffly bag when I have it on. She didn’t want to pin back the top ruffles either, just wanted to iron them flat but it’s just not how I’ve seen the dress fit on other brides or when I was bigger. The ruching and ruffles did their job when I was bigger but now the dress drowns me. I just hate it and there’s no way to change now. So upset 🙁
Post # 19
@bali_y: Oh no! You still have time. This seamstress if crazy if she thinks it’s supposed to fit like that! Plus, I understand she can give her opinion, but you are the one paying her for the alterations so ultimately, she should do what you want. You have a month.. try taking it to someone else. I’m sure last minute alterations can be done… don’t give up til the dress is exactly how you want it!!
Post # 20
I totally agree! You still DO have time. Tell your seamstress you are not happy with how the dress fits and ask her to make further alterations. If she won’t, take the dress to a new seamstress. You deserve to have a dress that you love on your wedding dress and you still can!
Post # 21
Would you consider adding a thin black sash at your natural waist? I think that maybe the middle of the dress just needs to be emphasized and don’t think the crystals are doing it.
I think a crinoline and a black sash might do the trick!!
You’re going to have an awesome day no matter what. Try not to stress. If you want to get another dress, do it now!
Post # 22
@bali_y:Definitely go to another seamstress. Its your dress so if you want the frills tacked and to take in more on certain areas, she should do it. You are requesting simple alterations that wont take anytime.
When I tried on my dress, my seamstress noticed the dress puckered @ on one hip and the bodice was really gapping. She pinned the dress and we decided the small changes were just what I needed. She gave me curves which meant it took me 30 Min to walk 2 my bridal shoot but it was worth it.
Post # 23
hey bali Y – I have tried on the exact same dress in the exact same store! I hav some pics of me in the sample….it was the correct size (12) when i tried it on…would it help to see photos of the dress when it fits correctly?
I dont think that your gown sits the same as the sample…mabye that is why its upsetting you…. E.g. the frills up the top on the sample are nowhere near as ‘out there’ as they are on your own. I think you can definitly change it!! Tell the seamstress to change the dress back to how the sample looked.
I agree with the others – the dress looks far too big…i think if it was the right size it would look gorgeous!
Let me know and ill post the photos up.
Post # 24
congrats on the weight loss first of all 🙂 Its so hard to loose 30lbs..I am so jealous 🙂
I am going to be very honest with you here because this is a very important dress. Your dress does not fit right which makes it not as flattering. It hides your waste and makes you look square shapped. Although you do look thin in it but it looks like you dont have any curves.
However it does not look “bad”. It does look good and if I were at your wedding I would totally think that you look gorgeous and would not even think of the things I said above. The only reason why I am is because you asked and you dont sound happy.
So, what I am saying is…yes the dress is not perfect and probably not as flattering as you would like. BUT it is a gorgeous dress nad you do look good in it.
some suggestions: maybe add a better sash (although i do like the one you have) that will excentuate your waist. and also I would remove the stuff on the top. I think that would make a world of difference and would really help givey ou that sexy curvy look.
Good luck!!!! you are going to look great…dont worry!!!
Post # 25
@bestbuddies:i agree. i like the dress but the sash situation could make a world of difference! you needsomething to break up the middle a bit and show how teeny tiny your waist is now 🙂
also those top frills are not working with your new shape. tbh i wouldnt have thought twice about it, just thought “beautiful bride!” but you asked and i started considering.
i also agree with pps that there is no reason your seamstress cant fix this stuff… and a month is plenty of time. i was in a wedding a few years back where there were alterations made the NIGHT BEFORE. an extreme situation of course, but its so so so doable 🙂
Post # 26
also would it help to go to your next fitting a bit more brided out? wedding jewlery etc? just so you can see more clearly how beautiful you are going to be on your day?
Post # 27
I have found the photos and decided to post them for you…
This is the sample I tried on…it is a size 12 and it fit me perfectly. I am a similar size and height to you – I am around 65/66kgs.
I personally think the frills on the sample are more subtle than on your dress…and that is probably how it looked when you tried it on. I think the frills look lovely when they are lying flat.
I also think the back of the sample sits a little lower than your dress..the back of your dress sits alot higher and makes it look a bit different from the back.
The tummy section on your dress is far too big. I hate my stomach area too…but I think the dress is far more flattering if its fitted on the stomach..
What do you think? Do you like the dress when it fits correctly.. Or are you still unsure??? If you like it…there is still time to change it!!!
Post # 28
Truly Honey. You just need alterations. I would show the seamstress the above pics as to what you need.
Keep us abreast.
Post # 29
Oh no, my heart goes out to you, I can tell how upset you are from your post. Seriously though, the dress would be very pretty if you just had it altered properly to fit you better. mrsWtobe’s post and pictures just confirms that, the dress is so much nicer when it fits properly! You still have lots of time with 1 month! Don’t give up!
Post # 30
@mrsWtobe: Thank you so much for posting those photo’s – I do LOVE the dress, it’s me, it’s just not fitting like the sample did. It was a size 16 dress and now I’m a 12 so the fit of the top and bottom ruffles aren’t proportioned right. I’ll definately ask to try on the sample to show the differences at my next fitting this weekend. I don’t like my tummy area either but the dress being so loose around there seems to just draw attention to the area more. I didn’t even notice the back of the dress but now I do – i think it’s because I was still wearing a bra even though there is an inbuilt one. The seamstress mentioned this could make it ride up at the back so I might just go with the inbuilt one. Is it ok if I show these photos to the seamstress at the fitting?
@KristenGotMarried: There is bad lighting there but I tried to move away from it. I think it’s just too loose on me. I’ve seen the dress with a black sash and it looks great, but my fiance has also seen it (doesn’t know its the dress I have) and commented on how he hated the black or any colour belt so that’s out. It does need to be broken up a bit though.
I really appreciate all your opinions! Thanks so much bee’s, you’ve made me feel a lot better. I hate being the annoying bride but I think I’ll just have to annoy the seamstress a bit more to get what I want. She said she wanted it to be perfect for me so I’ll just tell her the points you’ve suggested and see how it goes!
Post # 31
Of course you can show her the photos – no problem. I definitly think you should try the sample on and show her how different it looks.