Post # 16
It’s completely normal. I go back and forth over my dress. I think it’s very pretty, but it’s not what I had wanted and sometimes when I look at pictures of something I thought I’d end up with, I get a pang of regret. I also bought mine two sizes too small (why I did this I don’t know–I still maintain I had a stroke), so I’m worried I won’t like it once I lose the weight. I’m trying to push it out of my mind. I have until next October, so I’ll worry about it next year. The weight loss I stress about now, but I’ll worry about the dress later.
Post # 17
I didn’t feel it the day after…but six months later I hated it and luckily David’s Bridal let me exchange it! I think it’s normal to second guess the dress decision, especially because there are so many beautiful ones out there!
Post # 18
I cannot speak for everyone but I initially was torn between two dresses, then I saw my dress. It was totally that moment everyone talks about that I never thought I would have, I was 1000% percent sure that was the dress. In my experience I was completely certain, if you are not, i suggest you go back and look at it alone and see if you love it the same because its probably not the one.
Post # 19
I had posted in our “month twin” thread about having purchased a dress (it was discontinued, a great deal, and a dress I’d been eyeing online) and being surprised by myself and unsure… Well I cried for two days and finally calmed myself down by telling myself I could sell it if I decided I want the dress I originally liked. Went back and looked at the picture of it last night after a few days away, and lo and behold, it really is pretty. So I still don’t know what I will do, but I’m going to give myself a bit of time to make my decision.
Nobody can tell you if it’s your dress other than you. Everyone reassured me it was beautiful and nobody else would be thinking of the other dress. That’s true, but I don’t care how they feel; I care how I feel! I am trapped in my own experience. Be kind to yourself, and give yourself a bit of time. If you can put the order on hold, try to do so. If not, wedding dresses can be sold, and you can decide once it comes in (if that will give you enough time to find a second dress by then). Good luck!
Post # 20
This exact same thing happened to me! I spent 5 days worrying about it, what i saw in the photo wasnt what i felt or saw in the shop. I think i got caught up in this ‘feeling’ i should have and the excitement of buying a dress, especially as one of my bridesmaids was going crazy for it. I called the shop and told them i was unsure, I went on to try other dresses and gave myself a two month break. I went back to it a month ago and the first dress I tried was what I ordered and I am so pleased I did because i can see it defo wasnt the one x
Post # 21
Aw, I’m sure you will make your weight loss goals! I’m beginning to wonder if some of my dress regret is because I keep going back to the photos but the sample I tried on was MANY sizes too small. Maybe it will look like a different dress when it arrives in my size.
Thanks for the advice! I don’t think I’m one of those people that would have that experience. I did love this dress from the moment I saw it on the hanger, though, and I didn’t feel that way about anything else, I don’t think It was also the only dress I said I loved, according to my entourage. I sort of don’t even remember trying it on. It was all such a blur and the dress was so tight I thought I was going to pass out!
This is really great advice, thank you 🙂 I’ve been so emotional since I bought the dress. I love it on other people, but hate the photos of myself in it. I’m praying that when it arrives in my size I will like it much more. It was seriously many sizes too small in the photo I have of it on me. I’m thinking maybe I can do other things too in order to increase my feelings on it, like adding a hoop skirt under the regular skirt so it comes out a bit more at the bottom. In the photos I feel really matronly, and kind of like a doiley because the skirt comes out from the bodice in tulle pleats, which look bunchy in the photos. On other brides, it doesn’t seem to have this effect, though.
I wish I had more time to go back and try things on in the store. Unfortunately, it took forever just to make an appointment and I went looking all the way in another city kind of far away for it. I won’t have much time to go back, especially because school starts up soon. I hope I made the right decision.
Post # 22
I think it’s normal… and if it’s not, i’m crazy too.
I see all the gorgeous options on here that I didn’t get to try on… and I’m like oh man, what if I made the wrong choice? I put my dress on the other day when my mom brought it here from her house, with the veil and all that (I think you saw the pic) and I still loved it. I’m a little afraid of the beading alteration because while I know I want it.. I am worried it’ll “ruin” the dress. I also searched the internet and though it’s an old style (I think it came out in like 2009?!) I barely found anyone in that dress and I found a few comments from ppl saying they think it photographs horribly.. So part of me is terrified that I made the wrong decision and that my wedding photos will be awful because my dress won’t photograph well!
Hopefully i’m wrong though, because I can’t afford another dress. lol
Post # 23
oh and… you could PM me a pic! 😉
Post # 24
I might just PM you that pic if I can find a decent one!
Also, even though I went straight to the designer, I totally fell in love with a dress from a few seasons ago, too!! It’s classic, in my opinion, and that’s really what I wanted so I don’t mind that it’s not from this season.
And you have nothing to worry about!! Your dress and veil are absolutely GORGEOUS! It looks amazing on you and if your mom’s picutres are any indication, your dress photographs beautifully!
Post # 25
aww thanks. Especially considering it was from my cell phone through a lifeproof case with my grandmother snapping the pics (who is technologically challenged lol).
I think we overthink these things too much!
Post # 26
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
yes its normal to have dress regret the day after. I had it regrets right after leaving the store! Lol. I purchased two gowns and had dress regret with both. Thank God they didn’t cost too much. I finally found the one after taking a break from looking for dresses to get my thoughts together as to what I really desired in a dress.