Post # 1
I will start by saying that I have probably tried on at least 70 dresses and driving hundreds of miles in several directions to find the perfect dress. I now have a dress but is it perfect?
Starting in 2008 I began a journey of weight loss through healthy eating and an addiction to exercise. Now 120 pounds lighter (size 24 to a size 12/14) I find myself unsure of my new body and what exactly I look like. This as you can imagine made shopping for the most important dress a bit more difficult.
I started off by wanting something with satin, loads of pick ups and a definite sweetheart neckline. I ended up with a ball gown with no pickups, a modified sweetheart and loads of crystals and pearls. Do I love it? I just don’t know.
My mom thought I was a knockout in Adorae (it apparently accentuated my new hourglass figure) but for some reason I couldn’t get comfortable with revealing said figure and didn’t quite feel bridal. I thought the Kendra was the perfect option but couldn’t jump at buying that either. I would love a dress and come home to look at pictures only to find myself ripping the photos (and essentially myself) apart. Those dresses were immediately out!
My dress is the Loretta from Sottero and Midgley. It’s a stunning dress (more so in person) and when I put it on I felt amazing!!! The beading on the top is gorgeous and the train just keeps going, and going. It seemed appropriate for my venue (http://www.grandislandmansion.com) and I thought was forgiving enough on my body.I got the giddy feeling I thought one should have when they find the dress.
Now when I am away from the dress and looking at photos I doubt myself. I don’t know if it flatters my body, gives me a tiny waste, is sexy enough for the man etc. I am at a loss of where to go from here. I bought the dress and even if I begged for an exchange I would have no idea what to change my option to.
Why am I so hard on myself???
Here is me in the dress:
Post # 3
A.) Girl, you have a GREAT figure!
B.) I think that dress is very flattering on you! The wrap-around (not sure what the technical term is) bodice shows off your waist really nicely.
C.) Don’t mean to end on a *small* criticism, but it looks like you’re slouching a bit in the photo. Stand up straight! You’ve got a rocking bod! Be proud of it!
Post # 4
Girl, let me say first congrats on your weight loss!! I know it can be hard to get used to how you look now, but everyone is their own worst critic! Let me also say that you look STUNNING in that gown and you felt giddy for a reason, it is PERFECT for you!! You are rockin those new curves and anyone would be crazy not to say you look sexy in that dress! Again congrats on your weight loss and know that your hard work paid off and your body is beautiful! Show it off!!
Post # 5
I Love the top and think it’s very flattering on you. It hugs the curves nicely! The dress itself though. I feel as though the top is very mis matched with the skirt…
Post # 6
You look gorgeous. You are going through what so many of us Bees have gone through. Dress Regret!!! When I found my Girl, she was my 2nd choice. I didn’t cry but my Maid/Matron of Honor did. When I had my first fitting, I kept staring @ myself in amazement and I became teary eyed. She was everything I wanted and I’m excited to see my Fiance when we have our 1st look.
You look amazing and when you begin the fitting process, you will fill everything you originally felt by 10x. My only suggestion is to stop dress looking. It just muddles everything up and brings indecisiveness. Instead find another obsession. Shoes, Jewelry, and reception dresses.
Hang in there and continue to look for support in your fellow Bees when you feel the regret coming on!!!!
Post # 7
Thanks ladies for all your kind words, they mean a lot to me. I am still struggling but you are right, there was a reason I went ahead with buying the dress!
The dress is gorgeous and classic and in the words of my aunt ‘the top.’ I guess I just was battling with being a sexy versus classic bride. I can’t wait to pick my veil and put the whole look together to really feel confident.
Post # 8
You look amazing in that dress! I think it is a perfect mix of sexy and classic! That bodice shows your figure beautifully, and still has the ‘bridal’ feel! Love it!
Post # 9
The dress is gorgeous. I think a bit of “dress regret” is normal in almost every bride. When you start out, you have ALL the options, but once you’ve made that choice and purchased a gown, you realize how many other dresses never even got a chance…and you wonder….
Then multiply that by body issues that come along with significant weight loss…I’ve been there/am there. I went from a size 22 to 12/14, a lot like you. I’m 6+ years out of the initial weight loss and I’m still not entirely comfortable in my new body…there are tons of things to nitpick…and believe me, I do. You need to get back the perspective of what you’ve accomplished…focus on your achievements, and not the thing imperfections!
Also, you look AMAZING. I’d never guess that you used to be a size 24!
Post # 10
I agree that it is normal to have some anxiety about the dress, but as long as you feel great in it thats what matters.
Post # 11
That dress looks amazing on you 🙂 Congrats and I think if you were to change it out you would regret it because that dress is perfect! 🙂 It took my breath away on you so your man will love it! I think it’s very femine and flowing and elegant but also the way it wraps and fits you it has that hint of “sexy” that every bride wants for her man. SOO….it’s gorgeous dear! And I agree with faoiltiama , you have a great body so stand up straight, tall, and proud and ROCK IT 🙂 Congratulations!
Post # 12
I know exactly how you feel! But don’t worry. You look amazing. Your waist looks nice and small, and your overall curves are smashing. You look bridal. I hope you can be comfortable in your body soon. You should be.
Post # 13
Congratulations on your weight loss! I really think that the last thing to come around after any type of body transformation is your thought process and what you see when you look at yourself in the mirror. You look beautiful in your dress and you look amazing!
Do you have a lot of negative thoughts about yourself/your body? Keep on fighting those thoughts and be proud of the hard work it took to get to where you are now. You look great! Believe in yourself and rock that beautiful dress!!!
Post # 14
You look amazing in this dress! It fits great and shows off your waist! Congrats on the weight loss!
Post # 15
Congratulations on your weight loss!
Almost everyone who loses weight has trouble adjusting to/believing their new reflection in the mirror.
You look fantastic and the dress is perfect!
Post # 16
@missrobots: Thanks! Yeah it’s difficult to imagine although sometimes I see that person still in the mirror. Looking back at my old photos I don’t even recognize myself because I didn’t realize how big I was until becoming smaller, does that make sense?
@SophiaPetrillo: I wouldn’t say I have negative thoughts about my body really I mean I love the fact that I now have abs and ridiculous quad muscles, but the extra skin and fat is still there and won’t budge despite my crazy schedule and healthy eating. I think it’s just hard to imagine yourself in THE dress when you don’t know what you look like to everyone else. It’s the not knowing that makes it so hard. I am extremely terffied of gaining any weight back so that keeps me in check.
@Keltaena: Thanks!! A nice small waist is what every bride wants…I’m sold! 🙂