(Closed) Dress Regret…Is it normal

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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1299 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Just the other night I looked at pictures of me in my dress from when I tried it on in the store.  I never tried on another one that even gave me the same feel and I kept saying that my dress was the dress.  I compared every dress to that dress.  I bought that dress, paid in full.  Still, the other night I thought, “OMG what if that’s not the dress?!”  I think it’s pretty normal to have second thoughts on such a big investment that will appear in all your pics.  But you picked that dress for a reason, and if your initial feeling was that was what you wanted, then I wouldn’t worry.    Maybe the dress you didn’t get just made you feel different because you didn’t expect to like it but you did so it had a bigger impact on you.  But most likely the dress that was the first instinct when you had it on and looked in the mirror, was the one that you were meant to have.  It can sometimes be an emotional experience, so then when you look back it’s hard to remember what actually happened!  I tried my dress on early on and then when i went back it wasn’t there because they had just sold it off the rack, so I tried on other but still bought that one with out seeing it on me again.  I’m usually pretty anal about double checking those things, but it felt right to me.  You will look amazing.  Id love to see the pics!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Alicia06:  Yeah, that’s pretty much what I’m like. I don’t usually wear dresses, so I was nervous enough trying them on – especially with the pressure  that comes from so many different people when you’re looking at dresses! Because I don’t wear dresses often, I wanted something a little different – something that people could look at and think “Yeah, LadyElva would wear that,” whereas my Future Mother-In-Law wanted me in something very traditional and bridal. I ended up getting the non-traditional dress, but just knowing that others are going to think it’s strange (even though I love it!) is really hard.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

So I’m confused….you didn’t get the one you felt great in but the dress that you think was your “dream” dress?  Is it possible to retry on the dress you purchased?  I’m sure you look great in it and will remember why you purchased it but that being said I believe that when it comes to this and everything else with the wedding go with what makes YOU happy.  It’s your wedding and you only get one.  I purchased a dress that was a great deal and below the budget and was the first one I even sort of liked but I didn’t feel great in it and couldn’t wait to get it off.  I regretted doing it the moment I purchased it.  Long story short I found a dress that I LOVE it’s nothing like what I thought I would like and it may not even look that great on me but I just feel wonderful in it.  I would never take it off if I could and it makes me happy.  Now that is what matters.  What makes you happy? either way I think you will look great…and dress regret is normal.  I even had it with the dress that made me feel happy…until I tried it on again 🙂

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Ooh I think it looks great!  I don’t love the super dark belt, but if you do then that’s what counts.

Post # 12
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733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Love it! Without the belt

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That dress is GORGEOUS on you. But yes, I think dress regret is really really common – because there are such a crazy high number of styles out there it’s always hard to not wonder what if, and also because looking at a non-professional picture of the dress will never, ever live up to the way you feel when you actually have it on!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I love that dress. And you look happy in it!  Have fun with your accessories if you want to change it up.  You can wear your hair up or down and wear a belt or not.  I think you have a lot of freedom there and you definitely didn’t box yourself into a situation.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Downtown Riverfront Cafe

It’s a HUGE day and so you want everything to be perfect, including how you look. Questioning if you made the right decision seems perfectly reasonable to me, even if you did pick the perfect dress. There are so many dress options out there and new collections coming out every season, so it’s tough to say you’ll never find something you prefer, but you have to make a decision and if the dress makes you feel comfortable, yourself, and beautiful…I say that is all you can hope for. 🙂

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