Post # 1
I never thought I’d be the kind of girl to regret my wedding dress as I don’t think it’s that big a deal, but here I am.
I went to a really cute boutique just to try on a specific dress I found online and ended up saying “yes” to a completely different dress. The sales associate was a little pushy and I honestly felt like I couldn’t leave the boutique without picking out something there. Prior to this appointment, I visited 2 other places and found quite a few I could see myself in. These sorta crossed my mind during my most recent appointment and as soon as I said yes to the one I purchased and my mother paid for half of it, one of the other gowns immediately came to mind. That one seemed to feel like “me” so much more and I could just see it making my day complete (although I know the dress will not be the sole focus on my big day). The boutique I bought from has a strict no return, no refund policy. I don’t necessarily want to call the whole order off, but I’d feel so much better if I could try my other option on one more time. Any suggestions as to how to get over this without losing a bunch of money?
This topic was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by LindseyinAtlanta. Reason: added to title
Post # 2
If you’re truly doubting your decision I would suggest trying on those other dresses again. Maybe they seem perfect in your mind but once you try them on again you’ll realize you made the right decision? I would also discuss this with your mom, since she paid for half of the dress. Tell her about your concerns and how she would feel if the order was canceled and she lost out on that money.
Post # 3
I agree with kmott. I had dress regret almost immediately after purchasing mine, but after I looked back at pictures of me in the other dresses, I was confident I made the right choice. Can you go back to the other shops and try on some of the other dresses? Do they also carry the one you ordered so you can compare them all with that one?
I understand what you mean about feeling pressured to say yes, though. The second shop I went to did that and I almost gave in. Perhaps the experience is playing some part in your doubts.
Post # 4
I definitely don’t want to have my mother lose out on the money we already put down since it was about $800. She thinks I made the right decision as she saw me in both gowns, but I know she would still want me to choose what I felt best in.
The shop I bought from and the shop I want my dress from don’t carry the same gowns, so I can’t really try on both back to back. I can go back to my first choice place and try on the dress I like better again, but I’m still stuck with the gown I’ve already purchased.
The other thing is that the sample I tried on was a different color than what I purchased it in, so I haven’t really seen the complete look yet and I won’t until it comes in August. My mother suggests I’ll probably see it all a little better once the dress is actually the way I want it to be, but I’m afraid that if it’s not, I’ll really be in a crunch to find something I like better.
Post # 5
Ah, I see. I like your mom’s suggestion. I’m sure it was difficult to visualize in a different color. How much time do you have between your dress arriving and your wedding? I know you said you’d be in a crunch, but would you have any time to sell this dress and get another one if you end up wanting to go another direction? Do you have pictures of yourself in the dress you ordered? It still might be worth trying on some of the other dresses.
This really might just be initial dress regret, which I think 99.9% of brides go through (from what I’ve seen on here!). I hope that all it is and that you end up loving your dress when it comes in!
Post # 6
I have a totally different experience than the other two ladies. I purchased a wedding dress and immediately after I had major dress regret. I kept thinking about it and it always crossed my mind. I knew in my head that it wasn’t the right choice. Everyone kept telling me to just get over it and wear it. I listened to my gut. I went to another dress salon and found the perfect dress for me. So right now, I’m going to try and sell the first one and hopefully get some money back from it.
I suggest though maybe waiting till your dress comes in to make a decision. Many people have dress regret because they have to go months without seeing their dresses.
Post # 7
Luckily I’ll have about 10 months between when my dress comes in and my wedding day to figure something out.
Even three days later, I’m still thinking I went with the wrong dress. I’m going to try to make another appointment to try the other one on and see how that goes.
If the time comes and I still don’t like the one I already purchased, hopefully,I can find a buyer!
Post # 8
LindseyinAtlanta : You could try and see if they will cancel the order or exchange it. I went through 3 different dresses, yup 3! The first day trying on dresses I was so overwhelmed and the ladies talked me into buying dress #1. I wasn’t sure about it but fell into the pressure of buying it. I showed a coworked the dresses I tried on (not saying I bought on) and when he saw the dress I bought wow his comments brought me to tears. I had a heart attack. My sister had her friends comment on the dress and no one had anything nice to say about it. So I canceled it and switched it out with dress #2. I settled for dress #2 because I hate dress #1 so bad. What made me hate dress #2 was I kept looking at pictures of myself in it and started picking things out I didnt like. What sealed the deal was when I showed my now new family the dress you could tell no one liked it. So I went by myself to my last time of getting a dress and I tried on like 20 different dresses. I walked in and right away this pink dress stood out to me and I was shocked they would even had a dress like that. A girl next to me tried it on (but wanted it in white if she went with it) and I couldnt take my eyes off of it. So for kicks I tried it on and well, I walked out of the store with that exact dress. Looking back i love the dress I ended up with. I think I would have gone differently with my dress had I not falling for the pressure of buying the first dress and having everything snow ball after. As you can see, you are not along and there are ways to fix the situation. Good luck.