Post # 1
I have really bad dress remorse and need some advice! Two days ago I travelled 3 hours with my sister and mother to go wedding dress shopping. I ended up purchasing a dress straight off the rack as it had been discontinued and I *thought* it was the one. My mum bought the dress for me (it was $900) and was so proud and when I put it on it made her cry she loved it so much. my sister also loved it.
Before I bought it I went and looked at four other bridal shops and I couldnt find any others that I liked and my mother kept on saying ‘let me buy you the first dress’. So we bought it and I took it home. When I got it home I realised just how cheap looking it actually is and how horrible the material is (It is a really stiff, shiny taffeta and for the beading it is just sequins). I dont understand why I didnt notice any of this before purchasing it, I guess I was just all caught up in the moment.
I ended up going to a bridal shop yesterday by myself just to reassure myself that I wzs overreacting and I wouldnt find anything nicer, but ended I realising just how tacky mine actually is and falling in love with another dress. I dont know how to tell my mother – she will be so upset with me, as will my sister.
Here is a picture of the dress I bought:
And here is a picture of the dress I tried on yesterday:
Post # 3
I think both dresses are beautiful on you – but you have such a rockin’ figure, it’s hard to go wrong with a nice fitted a-line like those. And I really don’t think anyone else would notice the details you are worried about, unless you have snobby aristocratic in-laws or something. What do you like about the second dress? (And how does the price compare?)
ETA: If you decide that you do want a new dress, I’d recommend talking to your mom about it but not telling her that you went to a salon without her. Just mention your concerns about the dress.
Post # 4
They both look great on you, but I’m all about the other dress (2nd). I understand where you are coming from. In the end if your not happy, that’s all that matters. The 2nd dress looks so much more than the first.
Post # 5
i like the 2nd one better tbh, but neither looks bad
Post # 6
You look beautiful in dress #1 but oh wow, #2 is gorgeous. Sorry, I’m not helping you much.
Could you try and get a refund since you just bought it and have tags on it, etc.?
Post # 7
You look beautiful in both dresses.
Talk to your mother and see what she says, I’m sure she will only want you to be happy. See If you can refund it if not try and sell it although there is the chance of not getting back what you paid for it.
Post # 8
I really like the first one but the 2nd is also very pretty. I would keep the dress you already own, since it looks so great on you! There are millions of dresses that are going to look fabulous on you because you have such a great figure. I would try looking at the dress in different light and see if that helps(?). It’s just a few hours or a day at most-and you picked that dress for a reason, try to remember what those reasons were before you make any decisions.
That being said, you might just check around and see what the going rate on resell sites are for the 1st dress, then you can see about maybe selling it? Unless of course, money is not an issue. Definitely speak to your mom first and foremost 🙂 good luck
Post # 9
Thanks everyone for your replies, I think I am just going to have to be honest with my mum and sister… Although I might hold off on buying another dress until I look around more, there is still 9 months until the wedding and I dont want to end up with 20 different dresses lol! I have definately learnt my lesson and will shop around a bit more to be 100% certain on a dress!
Post # 10
@leerey90: I really hate when I have to agree with a dress regret post, but the 2nd dress is beautiful, for sure.
The first dress looks nice on you and I love the swoop of the skirt with tulle peeking out. The style and fit is nice but I agree, the fabric isn’t my favorite.
What time is your wedding and reception? Evening and low light would like a lot of those issues you’ve got with #1.
Post # 11
I loooove the second one. Sorry. : I don’t like the first one at all.
Post # 12
I definitely like the second way more. I would be honest with your sister & mom. In this situation, if you just keep quiet and keep your dress you are going to be one of those brides with dress regret after the wedding. It’s your wedding day so you should feel the most beautiufl and not be thinking about that other dress.
Post # 13
Yah, sorry to agree but the second dress is much more beautiful than the first. Hopefully your mom and sister will understand and you’ll be able to return or sell the original dress.
Post # 14
@leerey90: They might get upset but it’s more important for you to wear what you want. It’s your wedding, your memories, and your body.
Post # 15
Can you speak to the bridal shop about returning the dress 1 and buying dress 2 from them? Since its been less than 3 dadys, and they aren’t losing any business from you. I don’t see why they won’t accomodate this.
While both gowns looks beautiful on you I prefer #2.
Post # 16
Oh! And I like the second one. It looks more elegant.