Post # 1
I feel like such a idiot. i’m having such buyer’s remorse and I don’t know what to do. I bought my dress (Watters Olivia) in a big rush because my mom flew in for a bridal appointment, and it was the dress she loved. I felt pressured to buy what SHE loved, so I ended up with that dresss. I have an appointment on Saturday to go try the dress back on, but based on pictures I have of it, I hate it. It’s just not my style. Far too poofy and I don’t think it’s very figure flattering.
I called the store ahead of time and told them my dilemma and asked if they could apply some of the money I already paid ($800 down) to another dress from their store , and they said no. So I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to wear this dress on my wedding day, but I really can’t afford to buy a new dress if they won’t credit me any money. I don’t think all the alterations in the world will make me love it either. The dress store suggested I pay the remainder of the dress cost and sell it online, and use the money towards a new dress, but I don’t see how I could get anywhere near $1600 for it online. The other thing is if I buy another dress from their store now, I’d have to pay an extra 10% on the dress cost for rush charges. My wedding is June 2. HELP!!
Post # 3
First things first, the dress looks beautiful! Which I know isn’t what you want to hear, but it does! Now that that’s out of the way… 😉 I”m sorry you have so much regret. I’ve been there, done that, so I know what you’re feeling! One option would be to sell this dress at a slightly discounted rate. It’s a very sought after style, I’ve seen it posted a lot on this board, and I’m betting someone on this board would snap it up from you unaltered in a heartbeat. Say you could sell it for 25% less than what you paid for it, would you be able to find something you liked with the remaining budget of $1200? I think you definitely could! As far as getting another dress in time, you are tight but it’s definitely do-able depending on the designer. I would go to a different salon, explain your situation, tell them your budget, and see if they can help you out. Try on some more dresses, find exactly what you want, and go from there. Breath and take a week or two to figure it out, the worst decisions are made when you are frantic and think you are in a rush!
Post # 5
If you don’t love it, you dont love it. I couldn’t wear a dress on my wedding day that I was not totally in love with.
Can you try to sell it? In the meantime, can you charge another dress and once this dress is sold, use that money to pay off a new one? I am venturing to guess that this dress would easily sell. Post it on every forum and website possible and I bet it goes!
Post # 6
I think the dress looks stunning on you, I’m not into big “poof” either so I had the crinoline taken out of my Watters dress. That may help. By the time my alterations were done, I went from regretting my dress to really loving it. And on the day, you will be beautiful, I promise.
Post # 7
I think it looks beautiful on you. Your waist looks tiny.
That being said, I think that taking out some crinoline would change the whole look of the dress and might make it more your style (e.g. less poofy).
Post # 8
Also, I had some dress regret and I went and did another full round of wedding dress shopping. At the end of the day, I realized that my dress was back to being my #1 choice.
Post # 9
Maybe you could switch with this bride who got a lovely dress at ROB and is now about to order the Olivia: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/need-a-final-push-to-order-the-wtoo-olivia-tomorrow-heres-a-pic
Post # 10
@vermontia: Yes, definitely try this route! Based on the pictures posted it looks like you are both about the same size! 🙂
Post # 11
you could remove the whole top/shorter layers and leave the long underskirt with just the designed bodice as a bit of flair? i think that would make this a TOTALLY different dress and much more streamlined and pretty…. then you could take out some layers of crinoline to make it even more sheath-like (but still flowy)…
why don’t you get mom/friend/someone to pick up the top layers and pull them backwards tightly to help you visualize them not being there? i think what you would have left is a GORGEOUS dress….
just an idea! 🙂 keep us updated!
Post # 12
I think you look gorgeous, but I am biased because this is my dress (in oatmeal)!
Wait and see how you feel when you put the dress on again. You may remember why you chose it in the first place! If not, I was going to suggest something similar to the PP. Try removing the top layer of the peplum (with all the flowers) and wearing just the bottom layer (for texture). I tried the dress this way and it looked totally different and beautiful! If even the one layer is too much, try removing both layers and see what you think. You can also remove crinoline from underneath as PPs have suggested.
If, after all that, you still hate it, I do think you have time to sell the Olivia and start over. But don’t worry about the logistics of that now. Just focus on deciding yes or no on the dress you already bought. If it’s a yes–you have your happy ending. If it’s a no–then we will help you figure out what to do next.
Post # 13
I tried that dress on! It is such a fun dress but you need to love it. (You do look amazing in it.)
The fact that the store won’t let you apply the $800 is utterly ridiculous and if you do go with a new gown I would not buy from them again.
You are right. You will not get full price for your dress.
Have you thought about an off the rack dress or renting one?
Post # 14
I went through a similar thing. I searched for 6 months for a dress, found the one and ordered it that day. I was them stressing big time and was convinced I wanted a different dress. I made another appointment to try the dress back on and I loved it!!! So I would suggest trying it on again at your appointment just to make sure. If its not the one its not the one, cut your loses and buy another dress. Good luck.
Post # 15
I think the dress looks really beautiful on you. I will say, however, that I also bought a Watters gown for my wedding ‘Alexandra’ and I am having major remorse about it because I don’t feel like it’s pouffy enough….haha! Girls are so funny…
I also asked my bridal salon about having my down payment applied to another dress, and the answer was NO. I also thought about selling mine online but that seems so complcated and weird. I totally understand where you’re coming from.
(I do think you could sell this in a heart beat…the style is very popular.)
Anyways, here’s my two cents:
You chose the dress for a reason. EVERY bride has a little panicked, secon-thought kind of moment after they buy their dress. I have been in 7 weddings, and every bride had second thougts aboutt their gown. try it on again; you might surprise yourself.
Worst case scenario: you start from sqaure one again which is not the end of the world. If you try it again and you still hate it, that’s ok. You know? making these decisions is hard because there’s so much emotion and pressure wrapped up in ONE DRESS and one day. I bought my dress under pressure too and looking back, I felt like that was a mistake.
I say: try it on again and do some soul searching. There are a lot of other afforable gowns that you’d probably have to pay rush fees on, but if you turn around and sell your Olivia then you can offset some of the cost of the new dress. I agree with the girls who say that you should make a decision on this dress before you go looking for another one.
I am trying on my dress again next week so I totally empathize with your situation. Do not feel embarrassed. You are not the only bride out there who feels like this is a really difficult, loaded decision. 🙂
Post # 16
Here is my suggestion. Go to a website like preownedweddingdresses.com and try TRADING your dress with someone else’s dress. Or, you can sell it on there and then buy a dress off the rack at a bridal salon (these are usually half off so you will still in be in budget.)