Post # 1
I guess my situation is fairly common. My wedding is in July and I hate my dress. I don’t even know why I purchased it as it’s not “me” at all. I was really stressed out due to financial issues when I made the decision to go with the dress, so I think money was the real motivator. My uncertainty about the dress literally set in the night I got home. That was in October. I can’t count the times I’ve sobbed thinking of my wedding day in this dress. I always imagined feeling beautiful and confident, but all I feel is sad and insecure. The dress won’t arrive until mid-March. We’re on a budget and I already paid the $550 deposit that is non-refundable. I attached some photos so you can see. It’s not feminine and romantic at all. Not to mention how unflattering it is. I don’t know how I could have made such a huge mistake. Now I’m afraid that due to time and budget; I’ll be left with no other choice than to wear this dress. 🙁
Could anyone give me some advice? I attached a photo. Does anyone see a way to make this dress more girly?
Post # 3
I personally think that is a beautiful dress on you and looks very feminine. You could add a sash or a beaded belt. I am not sure what your taste is like but there are several ways to modify a dress as I have noticed since I joined WB. These girls will have other fabulous ideas.
((Hugs)) Sorry you dislike your dress so much, thats a horrible feeling, I have been there. But it truly is a beautiful dress
Post # 4
I really like the layering on the skirt! Maybe could you get a lace bolero jacket to wear with it? Or pin a brooch or a big fabric flower to the waist ruching? Or maybe lots of smaller fabric flowers on the skirt? Mrs. Avocado did the brooch thing, and I thought it looked lovely.
Post # 5
I did a quick look on Etsy.com and here are 2 things that I was kind of talking about. I personally think the beaded belt right under the breast area would glam it up a lot. If I were you and you truly didnt feel you had any other options for a different dress I would def check out esty.com, they have a lot of neat stuff that may help
Post # 6
A sash would work well with that dress. Delicate jewelry would also add a feminine touch. I like this dress on you, I love the clean lines. I’m sure you will be able to make it more “you”.
Post # 7
I think it’s gorgeous!! I love the tiers of fabric, and I think it shows off your (fabulous) shape. As shannon said, there are definitely ways to add a little “something extra” if you think the dress needs it. If you’re worried about it not being romantic/feminine enough, I think a pretty sash would help, as would a really soft, flowy hairstyle and some pretty earrings. I went through a period of hating my dress as well–I hope you love it again soon!
Post # 8
OMG I love your dress, and I think it’s really flattering. You look so tall and thin. Maybe we should trade dresses, lol.
But seriously, if you won’t be confident then maybe you should start looking again. Yes you might lose your deposit, and you might have to consider a lower budget dress if you end up buying a second one, but the most important thing is that you feel beautiful on your wedding day. We can tell you how beautiful you look in this dress til the cows come home (because it’s true!) but if you don’t feel beautiful, than that’s all that matters.
If you want to stay with this dress, then I think a floral belt like the one that Shannon posted would be a good option. A white one with shear chiffon flowers would look really pretty I think. Plus, you could always play with your veil/fascinator/whatever to change the look of the whole outfit.
Post # 9
Maybe check with the alterations folks to see if you can add a lace overlay to the skirt tiers? That might romanticize it a little more.
I’m sorry you don’t like your dress – if nothing else is working, maybe check with the bridal salon to see if you can apply your deposit to a new dress?
Post # 10
I think your dress is both feminine and romantic!! And its VERY flattering on you! Maybe adding the veil and some beautiful jewlery will give it what you are looking for? Or a sash would be nice too! In the end though if you arent happy with it and you are able to buy something else, then do whatever makes you happy!
Post # 11
I LOVE the flowered sash shannon posted!!!! I think it’s hard to see yourself in a bridal gown period – ie, no veil, jewelry, etc. They really glam it up and make the look “complete.” I think a sash in a slightly different color than your dress (maybe a wedding color, or a silver, etc) and a veil would make this perfect!
Post # 12
I think a beaded belt would look amazing.
Post # 13
I never post on these types of threads, but I just have to say that your dress is beautiful!! I think it looks wonderful on you. I am not a strap person, but that is a dress I would definitely consider wearing, and the layering on the skirt and the way the straps go into the waist part (so technical, i know lol) is both flattering AND sexy! I mean it helps that you are stunning and would probably drop jaws in a burlap sack, and you DO have to feel comfortable in your own skin on your wedding day, but that dress is beautiful and it is beautiful on YOU!
Post # 14
I think you look BEAUTIFUL! You look tall and thin and elegant and graceful, and your body is shown off to great advantage! Have you been in the dress since you first bought it? Because I think I can relate to what you’re going through. I loved my dress when I bought it (and REALLY loved the price), but as time went buy I started worrying that I had purchased too soon and hadn’t spent enough time and money to get the perfect thing. Then I had my first fitting, put it back on, and was reminded of ALL the reasons that I bought it in the first place. So my friends took lots of pictures and I went home happy. Then a few weeks went by and I looked at the pictures again and started worrying again that maybe it wasn’t quite right and maybe I should have gotten something else. But then I had another fitting, and it fit even BETTER that time and I loved it even more. So basically, every time I’m not wearing it, I’m worried about it, but when it’s on, I feel wonderful. Could this be what’s happening for you? Could you maybe go and put it on and see in person how great it looks on you, and then feel great about it all over again? It really is GORGEOUS on you!! ((HUGS)) I’m sorry you’re having a hard time!
Post # 15
Awwwww I’m really sorry that you are going through this!! I agree with the other ladies that you look so thin and beautiful in the dress, but I know hearing that doesn’t make it any easier if you don’t like the dress. I can think of a couple of things that you could try….one of the other ladies suggested a sash which may give a little something extra. Another idea was to add crinoline underneath to make the bottom a little more poofy or you could see what it looks like as an off-the-shoulder gown which is a very feminine look.
I was a 2 dress bride so I can totally understand your feelings about wanting to feel beautiful and confident in your dress. It helped me to remember that it is not about the dress at all and that none of your guests will really notice the difference between different gowns (unless they are also obsessed brides to be like us). The outcome will be the same no matter what you wear and no matter what may go wrong on the day…you will be married to the man of your dreams and look back someday and laugh about how you didn’t like your dress. (((((HUGS))))))
Post # 16
I also think the dress is beautiful! Try the sash or beading ideas, that might help. If you do not think that is going ot work why don’t you try selling it and then using that money for a new gown?