Post # 1
Ok so I am curious. I have been engaged for a while now. I asked my maids about 6 months ago and I am getting married in a year. We were supposed to go Bridesmaid shopping in Feb but there was a snowstorm that day. Literally the one and only snow storm we had this year. So I am trying to find another date. I emailed them all (4 ppl) 3 responded with times they can go. I picked a time they were all avail. in June, And now 1 has something that day and can’t go. This is the one and only thing I have asked of them so far. I don’t plan on asking much really. I have done all my planning myself as I know they work and have families and I don’t want to burdon them.
Is it too much to ask for 2 hours for us all to go shopping together at once so we can find a dress EVERYONE is happy with? I am worried that this is the start of something that just goes downhill. I don’t mind doing everything else on my own. But since they have to wear the dress I would think they want some input. What can I do to make it easier for them?
Post # 3
@LadyCupcake: You’re not asking too much, but just b/c someone is unavailable on the day you want to go doesn’t mean they don’t care, you know? People have busy schedules. What is her reason for not being able to go?
Post # 4
Are you wanting them all to wear the same dress? This is just one day that didn’t work, it happens when you’re trying to organize an outing with a number of people. Just try for another date until you can get something 🙂
Post # 5
I guess I am kind of upset because I chose one of the dates from a list of dates that she said she was free. I only have 4 girls. I know people are busy, but that is what I am a little worried about, if she said she was free yesterday (in late June) and now all the sudden that is booked! What happens when it gets closer to the wedding? Im not saying I need to be TOP priority, but I would like to be on the radar.
I do want them all in the same dress, and I would like them all to be as comfortable as possible.
Post # 6
Ohhh, I found bridesmaid dress shopping the most difficult part of wedding planning. I have 3 girls. 1 of them is my sister, who lives a 4 hour plane ride away, so she wasn’t able to join us… but she thought of it as my day, and would wear a paper bag if I asked. So, she told me to pick a dress and she’d wear it.
The other 2… First of all, one of them is also a bride. And she would complain about her Bridesmaid or Best Man being difficult when dress shopping, so she would turn to me and say, “don’t worry, i’ll wear anything!”… except pretty much everything i picked out. I would pick out a dress and she would be the first to say, “it’s too taupe… it’s too low… its too etc”. If you’re picky, FINE! Just don’t tell me you aren’t… cause then we could’ve planned it that way, and saved us ALL headaches!!!
The third one… was hard to get 5 minutes of her time. Just like you, it took me a few weeks to plan a day that the 3 of us could go. 2 days before it, she had the nerve to email me and say, “hey, can i leave half way into the appointment? I want to go to yoga.”
Of course, I told her no. That it was hard enough trying to find time for the 3 of us as it was.
But the kicker is that I’m paying for the dresses… all I asked for was an hour or two of trying on ridiculous dresses and telling me what they want. I don’t want a shower, I don’t want a bachelorette. I hadn’t asked any of them to do anything else with me.
Anyways. I found a dress and made a final call.
Good luck!!! I know you need it 🙂
Post # 7
Wow that is REALLY nice of you to pay for the dress!
So the conclusion (hopefully) to my mini drama is this, The girl who had not responded at all called. She is getting married in Sept, so I totally understand that her time is tight. But she stepped up and asked to go shopping with me yesterday. She would try on as many dresses as I wanted and we could narrow it down and stream line the later appointment.
So we went… and we narrowed it from about 15 dresses down to 2. She even drove and was amazing ( i just had knee surgery 2 weeks ago and walking/driving is still hard for me.)
We are still trying to go with everyone in June, but if not everyone can make it, tough. It is what it is. A dress will be picked. I can’t try to please EVERYONE on this one I guess.