(Closed) dress shopping

posted 6 years ago in 40 Something
Post # 3
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10 posts
Newbee

@Jane77677:  Hi Jane, dont be discouraged…. U should feelhappy and excited u are getting married!  What I did is I brought friends with me who are positive.  I told the young little girls working in the bridal shop to only show me dresses that were in my size or bigger(they can clamp them in). I also told them that I am open to options which made it fun and even funny at times and it also allowed me to find something that looked fantastic on me

 

 

Post # 5
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554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Jane77677:  hi Jane . I’m 53 and getting married for the 2nd time.  I refused to even look at a dress that was strapless or ball gown , or foo foo. I think that is all well and good for some, and I’m not knocking any dress that any other bride buys, but I needed to stay age appropriate for my wedding day.

Don’t get me wrong, I can rock slinky. I live for sun and bathing suits and wiggle dresses. 

That being said, I’m marrying a man who is in his 60’s and our group of friends are our ages. I wanted class and elegance with a little bit of sexy, and there are dresses out there that offer both. Don’t be afraid. You will find your perfect dress, and your wedding day will be wonderful.

here is a picture of the dress I chose.  I hope you have the time of your life❤

Post # 7
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464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You’re braver than I am–I bought my dress online. We did go to a bridal shop to buy my neice’s  junior bridesmaid dress, and after showing us the rack and opening up a room, our consultant pretty much disappeared. We really didn’t need more from her, anyway; I wasn’t sorry.

If the dress shopping experience is part of what you want, then mention when you make appointments that you’re an older bride and would like an appropriate consultant–someone mature enough to realize that a dollar is a dollar, no matter where it comes from.

And DO NOT feel silly–this is the shop’s problem, not yours, and you can always vote with your pocketbook.  Have FUN shopping for your dress.

Post # 8
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1066 posts
Bumble bee

@Jane77677:  I think I was lucky with my dress. I had a lovely young girl and a super funny guy and they were so supportive. When I rang I said I was a mature bride and they gave me a private room. I told them the dress I wanted and they said it would suit my hourglass shape. I even struggled with what colour I should have, but they were so supportive showing me different colours against my skin. We had a good laugh. Remember they get all ages,all sizes in. My advice is just laugh and enjoy it. Take a good friend if that helps. Someone supportive to you, and don’t think about your age. Age is only a problem if you make it. 

Post # 9
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95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I opted for a gown more like something one would wear to the Oscars (if I was a movie star). Sophisticated vs. puffy.   Look at Nordstrom’s…they have a lot to pick from in reasonable prices   that don’t make you look like an extra in Gone with the Wind.

Say NO to the POOFY dress!

Post # 10
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944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

You should wear what you feel comfortable in, I opted for strapless but I also bought a tulle bolero for some coverage, I’m a 54 year old first time bride. The only other thing I can think of is make sure you can sit in it – some of the mermaid styles are so tight, you can’t walk in them much less sit without falling over lol!

Post # 11
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10 posts
Newbee

@bunny8:  I’d like to see your dress. it sounds awesome. do you have a pic?

Post # 12
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1066 posts
Bumble bee

@PMSJL:  LOL…yeah so true. I guess I think more about comfort now.

Post # 13
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Jane77677:  I am 42, and have not started dress shopping yet.  I can totally relate to what you are saying.  I am already questioning if it is appropriate for me to go dress shopping.  I too do not like my body, and feel like it will be a disappointing experience for me.  I have been sending out emails to different bridal shoppe’s to see if 1) they carry dresses larger than a size 10 and 2) to see if they have any older sales persons to work with and 3) I would like a little bit of privacy, I don’t want to be strutting around with brides half my age!!  I know that just sounds tacky, but…..I really need to be surrouded with those who want me to feel like a bride, even though I am older.  I would just feel more comfortable with someone who is older, and can understand the needs of an older bride.  I just really wish I was one of those ladies that was just SUPER confident!!

 

My fiance keeps telling me that it will be fine, but I still have doubts.  Please keep us informed on what you find and share pics when you find that dress.  And good luck!!  I look forward to hearing more on how the shopping goes for you.  If you have any pointers for those who are about to start shopping, please do share!

Post # 14
Member
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Mammy:  You look smoking HOT in your dress!!

Post # 16
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943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@bunny8:  I totally disagree, I say go for whatever floats your boat!

 

@Jane77677:  I’m 44, we were married last August and I went the whole 9 yards with crinoline, princess, fairytale–and loved every minute of it!  If you love slinky, do it–if you love poofy, do it! 

As for the “younger brides”…hell we have lots more experience so we should have more fun!  You only live once, go for it…don’t let “rules” get in the way, it’s YOUR DAY!

Here are a few pics of my dress:

oh and this was my Matron of Honor, my HS best friend.  She’s 44 too but she looks amazing!  My girls wore Bill Levkoff #675 and it flattered everyone’s different figures.

all the girls:

 

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