Post # 1
So this will be my first post for dresses. I’ve been engaged since October 30th of last year, and our wedding date is December 10th of this year. I’m thinking it’s about time I start dress shopping. I started looking online for style ideas and found some REALLY gorgeous ones under $500 (many of them on Etsy are from sellers that have consistently good reviews). However I know it’s best not buy on a whim. I called up two closer friends to get their take on dress shopping (both used to live close to me (I live in Hawaii) but have since moved back to the mainland). Both of these women have been through the dress-shopping experience. They both told me that shopping for the dress; trying them on, getting the “feel” for them, etc. is part of the whole experience and pretty much advised me not to go the internet route until I’ve exhausted the local options. They were both able to find “the one” at a reasonable price just by looking around local shops– one of them got hers for $35 on a clearance rack!
I want to mention here that price is a big factor for me; I really don’t want a huge chunk of the budget to go to a dress and I’m afraid to be swayed toward purchasing a dress that I can’t afford.
So I’m starting to get excited for the idea of trying them on now, but I guess I’m feeling a little dampened by the fact that I don’t really have closer friends living here on-island, that I might ask to go with me dress-shopping. There are some acquaintances or less-close friends that maybe might come if I asked, but I’m not sure they have an idea of my style (though many of them have a pretty admirable sense of fashion I think). What do you think, should I go try on dresses alone or am I better off asking off people that I’m not close to yet? My two closer mainland friends told me I can send them snapshots over the phone.
I’m also worried about limited options. My wedding will be along the “rustic chic” spectrum so I’m looking for something a little simpler (“boho?”) but still something I can get away with at my age (I’m 36). I was drawn to some of the BHLDN dresses but there’s no local boutique (I’d have to fly to Seattle). My friend (who lives there) says “hey, just fly here and we can try some on!” I’m tempted, but again… budget…. :-\
Post # 2
Try on dresses to get a feel for what you like in terms of material and silhouette. You are not alone!! Post photos – you have us to share the experience!!!
Post # 3
Go alone! It’s not a big deal! I did. I picked my dress by myself and it was the best decision
Post # 4
I went alone to a few shops, and it was nice to be able to ask the sales people whatever I wanted without feeling embarassed (because i knew nothing about dresses!) Afterwards, my mom, cousin and sister in law came, but mainly that was for the experience and not for me to actually pick a dress
Post # 5
you should go alone! I went with my sister and mom the first time, and didn’t find anything. It wasn’t a good experience. Then I ended up just buying a bunch online that I could return for free. I tried them all on at home by myself. I had my Fiance take a photo of me in the one I liked the best, and sent my sister and mom the picture just to get a second opinion. you can always have the consultant take pictures to text to your close friends. you could even let them know when you’ll be going so that they can plan on texting you during the process.
Post # 6
I didn’t go alone, but I kind of wish I started my dress shopping experience alone. It’s not that I didn’t appreciate my MOH’s advice, but I think if I went in alone, I could have soaked it in, learned about dresses, and then have a better idea of what I wanted before I really dove in.
I think it’s not a bad thing to dress shop alone. Go in, try on as many different dresses as you can, enjoy the fantasy of wearing expensive gowns. You might surprise yourself! Maybe there’s a style you didn’t think you would like, but did. Maybe there’s a colour that you fall in love with or a cut that will make your heart skip a beat.
Once you get a sense of what you want, then sure invite some people along to get some opinions.
If you’re worried about budget, then be honest and upfront about it at the start of your dress appointments. Tell the consultant that you do not want to go over _______ dollars. Make sure to factor in things like taxes and alterations. Be honest about whether or not that dollar amount is a hard limit or a limit you’re willing to go a little bit over if it’s the right dress.
A good consultant will not pull out dresses you can’t afford. It’s just silly.
Good luck! 🙂
Post # 7
I went alone to one shop & found my dress!! Just to be sure, I had a friend come with me another day & had my sister on Skype to re-look at the dress I fell in love with.
I actually had my sister on Skype at two different shops & both places were very nice about it (even when internet stopped several times, etc.)
Just remember that the sales lady is not your new best friend, and don’t let her talk you into anything (luckily I didn’t have that issue, but I was ready to stand my ground if needed)!!
Post # 8
I’m going alone! I went with family the first time I was married and I feel like their reaction swayed my choice and I would have rathered another dress. I want a relaxed, easy experience this time!
Post # 9
I went with my mom the first time and got pressured into buying a dress. The second time I went alone and felt much more at ease not being overwhelmed with opinions. I cancelled the first dress and I’m so glad I did.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2016 - Vineyard & Winery
Definitely go dress shopping locally first then check the internet. I went alone on purpose for my dress shopping. 38 yo bride here and I know what I like. I loved it!! I didn’t have to deal with anybody else’s opinions.
Nobody else’s opinions matter; you’re the one wearing the dress. You need to love it, not anyone else. It’s fine to ask others what they think but just be careful to not get swayed.
Post # 11
Yes try on everything! If you’re worried about being pressured into purchaseing, leave all your debit/credit cards at home.
I went dress shopping alone and I loved it! No one else’s opinion was in my head!
I, like you, ended up buying a dress online becsue of budget. I got the dress for $500, but it was less than perfect and I spent another $300 on alterations. That’s still “cheap” by bridal standards, but it was a big pricetag for me.
Post # 12
Go alone! Shopping with an entourage has to be the root cause of the majority of dress regret – it’s definitely the cause of mine.
I went alone to replace the dress I regretted, and the experience was infinitely more enjoyable. Much more relaxed and no pressure to fulfill anyone else’s wishes.
Post # 13
i went by myself and it was the best. There was no pressure from family or friends. I say go by yourself.
Post # 14
I feel like I’ve seen so many posts on this site about people who went shopping with a group and felt they found “the one” but their mom or sister didn’t like it so they passed on it. I bought my dress online but would have really preferred going alone if I had gone to any shops. Even online shopping my mom tried to butt in with what she thought I should purchase.
Post # 15
I went alone for my first appointments to get a feel for the style and fit that suited me best then when I had narrowed it down to a few styles I invited my mother in law with me to help me make the final decision. I highly recommend it. Even just sending pictures to my sisters mom and aunt became overwhelming as they all sent back their very differing opinions. I highly recommend going alone at first 🙂