Post # 1
I’ve made my first dress appointment for tomorrow at a little local boutique here in Knoxville. (Wedding Wonderland if you are curious – http://wedding-wonderland.com/). They have been in business for approximately a billion years. A few weeks ago I went to an open house there and loved the selection, atmosphere and staff. I saw one particular dress that I fell in LOVE with, and I am going to try it on – but will ask the consultant for suggestions too.
The kicker is that I am doing virtually all my wedding planning by myself. I grew up in New Jersey, spent my college years in New Mexico, and moved here to Tennessee in December (and we will have the wedding here). I don’t have any friends here (yet *fingers crossed*) and, while my mom and best friend are trying to come down from NJ for a weekend of wedding fun, they haven’t been able to coordinate their schedules.
Fiance is having fun with stuff like invites, venues, food and music, but the girly stuff – bridesmaids details, shoes, jewelry, flowers, and of course THE DRESS – I am totally on my own.
Right now I don’t mind flying solo, but I think I may get lonely after a while.
Anyone else have this experience? Were you bummed or actually more relaxed?
And for the record, my bridesmaids live in New Mexico (x2), Massachusetts and my BFF who lives in NJ will soon be moving to Belgium. All of my family is in NJ and all my future in-laws are in Florida. So there is no such thing as local in this wedding.
Post # 3
I think that eventually you may get a little lonely, but take advantage while you can! So many people want to give their opinions about everything…this gives you a chance to look at what you want and make your own decisions without being swayed! 🙂
Post # 4
@CharlotteMJ: I am dealing with the same thing because my family lives two hours away so i don’t get the chance to see them that often..even though my husband’s family lives here in mobile. I am still doing the bulk of my planning for our vow renewal on my own. so at times it makes me sad because my best friends live back home and in atlanta. so I totally understand your feeling of loneliness but i’m sure your mom and bf will be able to come down to help you out soon. Good luck
Post # 5
Maybe your Fiance could come with you? Some people are totes against that, but if you’re not, it could be fun!
Post # 6
I did dress shopping on my own for a while and it was really nice. I think I got a chance to form my own opinions first without influence and then when I had a gaggle of women there later it was easier to stand my ground.
Post # 7
i went shopping alone a couple of times and it was nice because i felt i could take my time and not worry that i was using up someone else’s. I am currently living away from everyone because I am away for a one year internship. What I did find was that my new friends at work were very motivated and interesting in helping me and giving opinions (when i asked/needed it). do you have anyone like that where you are living now? I think sometimes it was less stressful talking to these girls who are not even coming to my wedding than it would have been with my BMs and family who would have full of opinions and judgements that might have affected me more.
Post # 8
I pretty much did all of the wedding planning myself including the dress shopping part, lol. I was kind of bummed about going alone, but on a positive note. I got to pick the dress of MY dreams, not the one my mom liked the best or the one my friends adored. It was pretty liberating that way. Most of my BMs are out of town, and even though they have offered to help, they are really too far away to do much. My mom and I have pretty much done everything else over the phone working with my vision. My guy didn’t even really help that much to be honest. LOL. He helped me pick the venue, officiant, and that is about it. I never was much of a group-project kind of girl though, so I liked having the creative freedom to do it all myself.
Try your best to have fun with it! Good luck!!
Post # 9
I went dress shopping alone and I acutally preferred it. When you go with people (and I did – A LOT) they always want to see you in THEIR choice, and then God forbid one of them (esp. Mom) falls in love with one that you don’t like. I saved myself the drama and went back to the shop, tried on what I wanted, made my own mind up without all the pestering, and it worked. Plus, the shop people were much more honest with me.
Overall, you might get lonely a bit, especially frustrated when the work piles up, but I would be MORE frustrated if I delegated a task and it came back worse than what I had planned. The old adage “if you want something done, ya gotta do it yourself” totally applies to me.
Post # 10
I went alone, and while a few people in the stores were weird about it (One consultant actually made the WTF comment, “Oh, you’re here alone… so I’m sure you’re just looking today if Mom’s not with you”) I was totally fine and relaxed. I saw other girls getting opinons from their moms, bms, and sisters in tandem and they looked stressed.
Post # 11
I went dress shopping with my parents, which sucked, because although they meant well and wanted to see their little girl dressed up, the fact is I’m a woman and they have zero sense of style. 😉 I actually felt the most lonely with them! I then went dress shopping alone, and had a fantastic, relaxed experience. Just me, my thoughts, my own opinions, of what I felt good in without anyone else speaking out of turn picturing what they’d want for themselves or imposing their opinions upon me. Finally, I brought my Maid/Matron of Honor with me to my last dress shopping extravaganza. She was respectful of me forming an opinion first and then lending her own, gently. I was so appreciative of her kindness and tact. In each case, the consultants were darling and so very helpful.
For other things like invitations and choosing vendors, my fiance is helping. For fun stuff like cake or flowers, I’m bringing in my bridesmaids and anyone who wants to help. But really, I am comfortable planning by myself without too much chatter or craziness. 😉
Post # 12
@Beluga: We’re a really non-conventional couple, but weirdly enough, the whole “no seeing the bride dressed up before the wedding” thing is something we both feel strongly about! We probably will have our wedding photo session a few hours before the actual ceremony (so we don’t have to make all our Out of Town guests wait hours between ceremony & reception), but it took a little convincing for him to even agree to that much. So yeah, no-go on having him along.
Actually he doesn’t even know I made the appointment. 🙂
Post # 13
You could always look on here for other tenn. brides.. maybe you could meet up and go 🙂 But to be honest. i would almost rather go alone.. i went once with some others and its not really fun 🙂
Post # 14
I went alone several times and didn’t mind it at all. My sister lives an hour away so I went to her town and tried on a ton of dresses and narrowed down the style I liked, then I went to several shoppes on my own and finally narrowed it down to 2 dresses. Then she drove down to see the 2 final ones and take pictures/give her opinion. So I would go by yourself and try on a ton and narrow it down to your favorites then maybe try to get your mom/friend down to see your final choices!
Post # 15
Well, I’m doing it all by myself. I don’t plan to count on my mother for anything, his mother got married in the court so she’s not really a “wedding” sort of gal (neither was I until I met my Fiance who convinced me against my better judgment and now it’s all I thnk about ;P). I went dress shopping by myself, going jewelery shopping this weekeknd alone, I do all the calls, all the arrangements, all the research. Heck, I’m even doing the invitations by hand! 🙂 I love doing it by myself, it’s my taste and my taste only because quite frankly, it’s MY wedding. Thankfully my Fiance are literatetly two peas in the same pod, it’s creepy how alike our brains are so he’s loving the whole thing lol. But I say go for it, you’ll be able to see the fruit of your work on your wedding day and that’s somehting money cant buy 😀
Post # 16
My wife and I planned our wedding alone. When I needed someone besides her to bounce ideas off of, I could always find people online. However, we were completely spared the drama of having people trying to tell us what to do. We ended up with a wedding that was very “us,” and our friends are still commenting over a year later on what fun it was.