Post # 1
I was just wondering if any of you lovely bees had any suggestions for dress shopping when you really have no one to go with you. Honestly at this point I don’t know what I’m going to do. My mother and sister want to go with me but they gang up on me and the thought of going with just them puts me into a full blown panic attack. I tried going to a bridal show with the two of them recently and ended up spending the day on the verge of tears and then crying when I got home to my Fiancé. He told me he refuses to even let me think of going alone with them because he doesn’t want me to have to go through that. My two bridesmaids (and my only friends) will not be able to come because one is due in 2 weeks and the other doesn’t live close by.
I never imagined I would have to go by myself…
Post # 3
@sbruin99: I did and it was one of the best times. What was really fun was that other brides who were trying on dresses at the same time and I ended up turning it into a party. I took pics and sent them to my parents. It’s not scary, bridal consultants are your friends and if you get one you don’t like, change it! Above all relax and have fun knowing that you will get to pick exactly the dress you want with no pressure or drama! And you can always (and please do!) post pics here!
Post # 4
Don’t stress about going by yourself! I’ve been a few times on my own, and a few times with family/friends, and I found going on my own really let me concentrate on myself and what *I* liked/hated. You could even go by yourself, find your top three dresses (if you can’t decide on one), and tell your mum and sister they have to help you decide between those three and they’re the only options you’ll consider. That way even if they gang up on you, you’ll still get one of the dresses you love, and they’ll feel like they’ve contributed (even though they may not have much at all).
Otherwise, do the whole process on your own and bask in the fact that you can get the dress you love the most without anyone else telling you what looks odd about it!
Do you normally go clothes shopping on your own? If so, then maybe try thinking of this as just another clothes shopping trip, but for a very pretty dress – like try to take some of the pressure off yourself maybe?
I wouldn’t stress at all about not taking your mum and/or sister, if it won’t be fun with them there then it’s definitely not worth the stress!
Post # 5
Have you thought about a guy friend?
I mainly took a guy friend cause I had no females available.
Due to the high pressure to sell the dresses and get you to commit as well as the number of dresses they let you try on, I liked having a friend read my gestures to start saying how ugly the dress was if I didn’t like it so that the consultant would ease up and would leave me alone to think about it.
Post # 6
I would actually highly recommend going alone. I went by myself many times, and then if I found something I really liked, I went back with my mom and/or sister. It’s so nice to be able to figure out what style and dress YOU like first. and you can try on as many as you want without worrying about anything or anyone. Once you’ve narrowed it down, then get other opinions. 🙂
Everyone’s different, but I found this to work out nicely. It made it a lot more enjoyable.
Post # 7
Ya due to circumstances, I went by myself first since I was running out of time. consider it homework, then when I got the shape that looked the best I invited my Future Mother-In-Law and her best friend, then my mom flew in and I went with her and found my dress. 😀
Post # 8
My first time, I went with my Maid/Matron of Honor because we’ve been best friends since we were 12 years old so I knew I could trust her opinion. The second time, Fiance drove me out 45 minutes from the city so I could try on a dress that they didn’t have in stock here. I tried it on alone obviously as I didn’t want him to see it, and it was the one! I bought it and it arrived today! So yes, I was fortunate enough to find the one right away, but shopping alone was nice. Nobody to try and convince me that dress wasn’t the one, I went with my gut instinct.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
My Maid/Matron of Honor and I went dress-shopping together — even though she lives in Australia and I in Canada. It is completely possible! You don’t have to go alone. Skype or Face Time is pretty amazing for dress-shopping together. (I had my Future Mother-In-Law help carry my phone while I try dresses on)
The clarity of her voice and the understanding nature of my consultant made it very fun! I don’t think I could ever shop for ANYTHING fashion-related with my own mother. She and I have different tastes.
Post # 10
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
If your wedding is not until December of next year, could you possibly wait until after your friend has her baby? Schedule a time when the other friend has multiple reasons to come into town. Or go by yourself. It was actually nice for me to shop by myself. But I am not the type that needs a group of people with me. I did have to have appointments when I went alone because when you are alone you have to rely on the consultants help in and out of the dresses. If you have a friend with you sometimes you can just walk-in. The first time I took my mom and SIL. The next times I just went by myself…I didn’t even take my Maid/Matron of Honor to any of my appointments.
Post # 11
I’ve been by myself and I actually really enjoyed it! It was better than having people around who can sometimes overwhelm you. I got caught up in my MIL’s moment when she came with me and chose a dress I wasn’t sure about. A little after that, I went back and changed it, haha.
Post # 12
It can be really freeing and empowering to go by yourself. You get to go at your own pace, not worry about anyone else getting bored or hungry and create your own special dress memories.
Then afterwards you can treat yourself to a delicious lunch, enjoying your own company and thinking about all those amazing dresses.
Post # 13
I went with an awesome friend who knew me well.
But I would have gone myself and the people helping at the dress shops I went to were great. They would say “You can try it on, have your friend with you, if you’d like. Just make sure the dress goes over the head, if you want to be alone, just poke your head out and let us know you need zipped or buttoned up!”… things like that.
I would have wore jeans before I went with my looney mother! (no sisters). So I feel you there! She would have made me frustrated … I don’t tear up easily :), but I’d just have wanted to escape if I had to be with her and I’d have been too stressed to really look/pay attention/care about the dresses. So I say don’t go with anyone who isn’t going to help, going alone would be better!
Post # 14
@sbruin99: Several times I took just whatever friend was available. Not bridesmaids, not even really close friends, just someone I can bounce my thoughts off of. The only time I really wanted someone in particular there was when I bought it. I wanted my mom, his mom, and my godmother there, but it happened too fast for my godmother to come and Future Mother-In-Law already had plans, but my mom was there when I bought it.
Post # 15
i went with my husband (fiance at the time). he ended up picking the dress that i wore for the wedding.
tradition and superstition be damned. he picked out the dress and he told me i deserved to wear a dress as beautiful as i was. those are the kinds of comments you want to hear when trying on dresses.
Post # 16
I went alone my first two times, and while it was a bit nerve-wracking, I also found it a bit relaxing because as other people have pointed out, I could set my own pace and make my own decsisions about dresses.
You can’t let other people drag you down. Have you considered taking ONLY your mom OR your sister, not both at the same time, so they don’t gang up on you? I think having some outside insight is helpful when choosing a dress, as my mom was the one who suggested I get my dress and otherwise I would have never chosen it. It turned out to be the perfect dress, but I was too overwhelmed at that point to see it.