Post # 1
For various reasons I will probably end up wedding dress shopping on my own. For other bees who’ve done that, what was it like? I’m usually a fairly decisive shopper but it’s gonna be more money than I’ve ever spent on clothes and I’ll have to consider alterations and things…
Tell me your experiences please!
Post # 2
I went alone, I figured it would go quicker that way. Our local DB is well managed so I went there. My consultant was very good & the whole experience was quite pleasant. I didn’t know it at the time, but once I chose my dress, the consultant told me it was only $99!
Doesn’t get any better than that! Alterations were another $225. I was a happy camper & got it done in record time.
Post # 3
I shopped a couple of times on my own, just when I had a moment to pop into a store I was passing by. I had only positive experiences, but I wouldn’t have made a decision without taking my mum back to see my choice. Not because I’m indecisive, just because I wanted to share it with her. If we lived in different cities, I would have been fine choosing on my own.
Post # 4
I’m a rare case that had an unpleasant first experiance. I think the sales consultant assumed I wasn’t really a bride, just wasting her time. The first dress I tried on she couldn’t fit right and argued with me about it, the second was a maternity dress because she assumed I was pregnant?! I was so embarrassed and annoyed that I left. Other experiances have been much better. You might get a jerk every now and then but over all it is fine.
Post # 5
I did all my shopping alone since I have no family or close friends where I live now and overall it was ok. The first salon I went to I didn’t have a good connection with the woman who was helping me and I didn’t feel like the dresses were very “me” so I felt pretty discouraged when I left. The second place I went to had dresses that were a lot more my style and I was able to find a few I liked. I went home and thought about it and then went back for a second appointment and got my dress.
The biggest thing I think is that it might take a couple of appointments for you to commit because you don’t have that reassurance from a friend or relative to make you feel 100% sure right away.
Post # 6
I went shopping alone to about 5 different stores and honestly only got treated like an actual customer at Alfred Angleo. The rest kind of acted like i wasn’t going to buy that day, so why try. Which was sad, but didn’t stop me from picking out dressses And trying them on. Most places let me take photos to send to my mom Which was nice.
To be honest the dress I fell in love with at one shops was discontinued. They were trying to sell it to me for full price. Once I found that out, I was really mad and ended up getting a sample online for less than 1/2.
Post # 7
Mawwaige: I didn’t go alone but went with just my Mum the second time and it was simpler, so you’ll have that element, which does make it a lot easier. Go with what you love and makes you dance either just on the inside or outside too 😉 You’ll know which one is the one! I think whether you’re alone or not. Good luck and enjoy!
Post # 8
I know a couple bees here have warned you against being discriminated at shops for shopping alone however I am a dress consultant and I actually prefer to work with solo brides. The reason is I don’t have to compete with over-opinionated friends and family to hear what the bride wants, not what they want. Nothing gets me more upset than an overbearing entourage who won’t let the bride (who is old enough to get marry) voice what she wants on her big day. I also feel I can connect more with the bride when she shops on her own which makes it alot easier for me to find the perfect dress for her.
Don’t get me wrong obviously not every group is like this, in fact I have had some great experiences with brides with large groups however more often than not they seem to hinder rather than help. If you are the kind of person who is indecisive, or eager to please others over yourself than shopping alone is not a bad thing. Read reviews of shops and make sure you are going to stores with quality dresses and most of all quality consultants. Just be confident and try to enjoy yourself.
Post # 9
I shopped alone and had a great time. I needed to focus on what I wanted and dreamed of wearing. I valued my family and friends’ opinions, but everyone is different. If a consultant is rushed or rude when you are alone there is a good chance they would be that way with your group too. Most consultants were happy I came alone, many said it was smart to do so.
Here is what I would have done differently. I would have told my consultant that I needed to bring my friends and family back to see the dress befoere purchasing. I would not have changed my mind, but mom was a little shocked I bought one alone. She loves the dress, but I think people like to feel like they are part of your experience. That being said, they are part of my experience and I don’t regret going alone for the appointments, it was overall a great way for me to see what was really out there.
Post # 10
I went three times, twice with people and the third time by myself when I found the dress. I preferred by myself!
Post # 11
I went shopping several times with several people. I found other peoples opinions just really confussed me. I ended up going alone and finding the dres I truely love. No one has even seen it yet. But it definetly gave me more time to explore what i wanted because I didnt have to show people.
Post # 12
The 1st, 2nd, and 4th times I went shopping I did it alone. These were my most productive trips. I actually found my dress on the 1st time, but wanted to try on more dresses to be sure. The second trip was good also. The 3rd trip I did with my mom, FI’s mom, my grandma, and my sister. This was just to spend time with everyone, and make them feel included. I went back to the 1st salon after that and got the dress, that I originally wanted, and it went on sale by that time! I will say that though I felt most productive when I was alone, It was also a little awkward when there were a bunch of other brides there with their entourages. I would suggest not going on a Saturday afternoon. Go on like a Sunday or an evening during the weekday, and you’ll avoid that.
Post # 13
I went to 4 different bridal salons with people (mom, Maid/Matron of Honor, sisters) and I did not like it. I was more focussed on pleasing everybody else! I then booked 2 appointments in other salons to go by myslef and it was a very good experience. I got to try so much more dresses because I only had to listen to my own opinion! I was only trying dresses I thought I’d like and since the consultant was my only witness we talked together more than I did with the previous ones and she got a better idea about what would suit my body and my wedding. Oh and I went by myself on a week day: the salon was EMPTY and I had all the dresses, space (and even the other consultants!) for myself! I highly recommend it!
In the end, I found 2 gowns I liked in both salons and came back the following day with my mom to make the final choice.
Post # 14
Mawwaige: I pretty much went alone, the 9 and 11 year olds with me were not much help, but I enjoyed it very much. I was able to speak to the consultant, the one who is suppsoed to be the expert without the opions of others.
Plus I am kind of excited that no one will have seen my dress, besides my daughters, until the day of.
Post # 15
I did all my shopping alone, I think I went to 4 stores total. All my family and bridesmaids live in different states so I went alone. I did miss them when I really liked a dress and tried to make a decision, I guess I wanted the validation, I knew I loved it but was I overlooking anything? The stores let me facetime with my Maid/Matron of Honor and mom to show them. Maybe I just really wanted to hear I looked pretty lol its my wedding dress I think thats ok.
The bonus is it did go a lot faster cause I didn’t need to hear a bunch of opinions for every dress. I didn’t get pressured to try on anything I didn’t want to. I only had one bad experience when at one store a family who was there for a different bride and they said some really rude things about dresses I was trying on. If I had my entourage I know that wouldn’t have happened. I did miss having my girls with me but it isn’t that big of a deal really, it gave me space to know that my dress is really the one I wanted.