Post # 16
I went shopping 4 times, 3 times alone. Alone was so much better for me! I love my friends but I almost got talked into buying a dress by them that was so not me.
I saw my dress online and found out it was available at a boutique about 4 blocks from me and decided to check it out. I went in, thought it might be the one, found out I could buy the discounted sample that fit me perfectly but decided to go home to think about it. I went back probably two hours later and bought it haha!
I highly recommend taking pictures because it was viewing the pictures at home that really helped me decide. I didn’t cry and have some “bridal moment” at the store with a stranger consultant but when I was alone looking at the pictures I teared up because I realized the dress was MY dress. It was also nice because my mom and BFF told me they cried when I sent them pics and to go back and get it the dress, so I did get a bit of group validation in the end. (Random side note: I also recommend pics because there was another dress I liked a lot in person on me but in pictures made my stomach look weirdly huge… as Cher from Clueless said never trust a mirror, only Poloroids ).
Post # 17
- Wedding: June 2015 - Surrey, BC, Canada
I went by myself. I had a great time. I felt a little awkward because I’ve never tried on formal dresses etc before, but the consultant was really nice and helped me a lot. It was a small local boutique and they had really good prices actually. I was very impressed, and bought my dress there (thought about it for 2 weeks before going back to put the money down on it lol)
Post # 18
I went dress shopping alone. I’d seen a dress in a store window and it appealed to me, I wanted to try it on withut anyone influencing my decison. I tired it on, it was perfect and I left the shop a half hour later having paid my deposit. I had no dress regret and the whole thing was wonderfully stress free.
Post # 19
Cosmojo: Yeah I see what you mean, it would be nice to hear you look pretty from someone who means something to you! That’s another thing that was making me a little apprehensive…
Thank you so so much everyone for your comments! It’s made me feel so much better about going alone. I live away from my family and even though I know I could ask my Future Mother-In-Law, my Future Sister-In-Law has also said ‘oh just ask me and Future Mother-In-Law and we’ll go’ and she takes every opportunity to infer or outright say that I’m fat lolol. Not exactly the supportive experience I’m after haha. So now I can’t ask Future Mother-In-Law cos her DIL will get offended!
I think a lot of what you guys are saying about it taking the pressure off is so true, as I’m home visiting atm I’m going to an appt on sat with my sisters and we have absolutely different tastes – one has said that she hates all mermaid/fit and flare dresses and they’re basically my favourite style so far. Knowing I’ll be shopping alone eventually means I can not worry about that and pleasing anyone and just enjoy the experience with them as other posters have said.
Seriously thanks bees, hearing your experiences hasn’t only made me feel better but actually made me start to look forward to shopping alone!
Post # 20
Mawwaige: I don’t live near my family and don’t have very many close friends nearby so I didn’t have anyone really to invite with me. I technically wasn’t “alone” but with my wedding planner who set up 2 appointments for me. The first place was awkward because it was so small and crammed and there wasn’t any privacy. The bride next me me had about 5 people with her, and was literally 4 feet away. So, when she left to try on another dress, I had 5 strangers watching me and listening to my comments.
The second place I went was set up so much better than the first. It had mirrors in-between the pedestals, so I could concentrate on what I liked about the dresses, not worry about other people staring at me. I found the perfect dress and felt great about my decision! I know its the right dress for me, and am glad I didn’t have various opinions telling my otherwise!
Post # 21
Mawwaige: I’m a ‘browser’ so on one particular spontaneous drop in to a bridal store I tried on a few dresses and immediately fell in love with a dress that made me feel like a million bucks and bought it on the spot! No biggie being alone, I still got the reactions later when family saw it 🙂 Plus it was actually nice to be able to just think without a lot of other opinions crowding me.