Post # 17
I bought mine alone, but I bought it online. Don’t know if that counts! I didn’t get anyone’s opinion before buying it.
People were disappointed that they didn’t get to shop with me, but I’m a terror to shop with (and my in-laws just don’t realize that… yet)
But it was awesome to get it over with, I love my dress, and no one got to make crazy demands about what they wanted to see me in / give disparaging opinions on my dream dress.
Honestly? My mom likes to give me unwelcome opinions on my wedding things sometimes, and I’ve had to start prempting things with “I don’t want your opinion on this, I just want to show someone because I like it”
If she gives me a negative opinion on something I love, I say “I’m sorry you feel that way, and I’m sorry I showed you the shoes/veil/dress/idea, you’ve hurt my feelings. I’ll be doing it anyway.” and then I drop the issue.
Moms get weird with weddings – don’t let your mom’s opinions change your own!
Post # 18
I went shopping alone, and ultimately I think it’s the best way to focus on what *you* really like – there won’t be any other opinions to influence you, just your own!
However, one salon REALLY tried to pressure me into buying that day. I always recommend sleeping on it!
Post # 19
I went shopping with my mother, with friends and alone. I’ve also been to both RK Bridal and David’s Bridal. I think it’s totally phone to go alone, but want to reiterate what others have said about not receiving individualized attention at these shops. They are huge and have tons of women coming in. If you’re looking for a more personalized experience, I would suggest going to a smaller boutique like the White Gown or Lovely Bridal.
Post # 20
Hello! Even though for a while I had wished someone had went with me , I’m glad I went alone. One out of the 4 times I went shopping for my dress my mom was with me. None of my friends have the same style as me , and aren’t very enthusiastic . And my mom probably would have made the experience much longer having me doubt my descisions or get all excited about a dress I wasn’t sure about or didn’t like. I got to take my time, go to the stores I wanted without someone pushing me to go here or there, or asking unessisary questions to the person working or answering questions they think they know the answer to. It’s YOU who needs to fall in love with your dress… and trust me youll know. Theres less pressure. Also when I had chose my dress I showed my maids pics and they were like “oh nice” . And honestly you can’t go wrong with my dress I think its gorgeous. NO weird or tacky things on it and it’s all lace, white ,a line , with a bit of a train , strapless and beautiful beading on front and back.
Post # 21
Also , advise for shopping ….. look through magazines first and see what styles , shapes you like . This way you have a better idea of what you want. But also think about your body shape… you can go online and find what types of dresses would look the best with your body shape. AND know your budget. If the person working asks you your budget , go a couple hundred lower because they try and get you to buy more expensive than what your looking for. Buying off the rack you save more , but take a good long look at the entire dress 🙂
Post # 22
I’ve said this before in another thread, but I loved shopping by myself. I usually buy my regular clothes by myself and didn’t see the point in dragging an entourage to the store. The dress needs to reflect your personality and tastes, it needs to make you feel beautiful. What’s the point in bringing friends/family that will pick out dresses that they like?
The only suggestion I have is to go with a clear idea of what you want and don’t let the salespeople bully you or let their gushing sway you.
Post # 23
@SimonSaysBride: This is why I didn’t take any one… except my fiance!!
Post # 24
- Wedding: August 2015 - Country Club
Thank you bees for the replies! I was so annoyed last night, but after reading on your experiences, Im liking the idea even more. It can be done. I’ll make sure to post THE dress afterwards.
@Mrs_Galoshes: Wow, Im sorry your mom did that… thank you for the words on the last paragraph, it really made me feel like “you know what- she’s right. so why am i drowning in a glass of water?” I hope your wedding was everything you wanted it to be, despite the shopping experience.
@melonseeds: I found it funny your mom didn’t realize it was the same dress, and then loved it on you. Hopefully I get the same reaction because the offended dress Im falling hard for is the Maggie Sottero Divina. We just have completely different tastes on wedding stuff:
She likes calla lilies, I personally can’t stand them. She likes colorfull, I like black and ivory schemes, or anything with the color black in it.
Thank you all again bees, you really helped.