(Closed) Dress Shopping Alone?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

i did that – for the same reasons you gave – it was too confusing with everyone’s opinions. the bridal store didn’t seem fazed so i assume it does happen.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

Hmmm, if you’re able to sneak pictures yourself if might work out.  And I think it matters what type of consultant — pushy or sweet — you’re working with in each shop. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I went to a ton of places by myself.  I was home for a few weeks and I had nothing else to do so I figured I would use the time while I had it!

I really enjoyed going and since I didn’t have a very specific idea of what I wanted it allowed me to try on all sorts of dresses (with all sorts of budgets) without wasting anyone else’s time.  I definitely would have asked my mom and/or sister or even friends to come back with me a second time if I had seen something I liked when I was on my own but never did that – I found the dress I picked on one of the few shopping trips where my mom joined me.  I brought my camera with me and a lot of the shop assistants were happy to snap photos for me (where it was allowed).

It’s worth trying the dress shopping by yourself – if you don’t enjoy it then you can try to schedule around others’ availability.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I went the first two times by myself–I didn’t tell anyone I was going! I wanted time to just have fun and figure out what I liked/wanted. After I had it narrowed down (I secretly knew exactly which dress I was getting) I had my mom and sister come check out a few. It kept the pressure, and opinions, from getting to me!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I went shopping alone for my dress.  I was unsure at first but I ended up being very happy that I had done so.  I bought a dress that I might not have gotten because I would have been swayed by other opinions.  Depending on your sales rep, you may not get the fawning feeling from her like your friends/family would give you, but you also know your dress when you find it.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I hear you. My family doesn’t live in the States and my closest friends dont live close to the city, where I wanted to go shopping,  so I knew that I’d have to go by myself but I was happy with the idea. I went alone the first two times and I really enjoyed it. Once I knew which dresses I like I flew my mom to NYC and brought a friend to help me decide. I think nowadays it’s not that unusual for brides to go dress shopping alone.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

I went shopping by myself and was really happy I did.  It was nice to see what styles I liked without hearing other people’s opinions.  After I had some ideas of what I liked I went with the group.  That ended up working out great for me.  Good luck!!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I went by myself. I’m really glad I did. I enjoyed very much, never had a pushy sales person either. When I had narrowed down my choice to what I believed was the dress, I called my mom up and showed her, 30 minutes later we were signing on the dotted line. It worked out great for me, I wanted to make sure that I loved the dress and wasn’t being confused or overwhelmed by everyone else’s opinion.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Going alone was so much better for me…and I found my dress very quickly.

I first went with mom, sister, BFF, and dad showed up for a few stores too!  I was totally overwhelmed by all the opinions!  I went again with my SIL, and then again with Mom.  No dice!

But I went alone to two places, and found it at the second shop.

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I went with my Maid/Matron of Honor the first couple of times I went shopping. I actually found I was being influenced by her opinion, which in this case wasn’t necessarily a good thing. We had different ideas about what a wedding dress should look like, and she kepts steering me towards dresses that she would have picked out for herself.  But an advantage is she was super helpful dealing with pushy salespeople, which I sometimes have a hard time doing. I ended up finding my dream dress (at a dream price!) when I went shopping by myself.

In other words, its not weird 🙂

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think it would be okay, sometimes brides get too persauded by others opinions and sometimes it’s easier when its only your thoughts and you don’t have to worry what anyone thinks!  You’re the one wearing it…YOU should love it!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I always went with one trusted friend (one of my BMs who is in fashion) or I went by myself. As much as I loved my friend, and as much as I love her style, I don’t think she really understood what I wanted, and really pushed me into considering dresses I really didn’t like. I ended up purchasing one of those dresses, and six months before the wedding, I had a meltdown and realized I needed another dress because the one I bought, while lovely, really wasn’t “me.” What I really wanted was a very simple (yet fashion forward) tea-length dress. I ended up going to a few places to try on Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses by myself, and purchased the dress I’ll be wearing on my wedding day on my own, without anyone else’s opinion. It was so much better, trust me.

I think it’s more a “fun” expereince to take people on your first few trips out, but having too many emotions (mom’s!) or too many oppinions (friends!) is really too much to handle when it comes down to making a decision. When it comes time to make a decision, I would highly recommend going on those appointments solo. In the end, you need to do what YOU want, and not worry about pleasing others. The dress is one aspect of the wedding that should be completely YOU.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I don’t think I would buy my dress alone, but shopping alone once was very helpful. Other people’s opinions can be wrong sometimes. 😉 I found it valuable to decide what I really felt comfortable in before having someone else tell me what flattered me or not.

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