(Closed) Dress shopping alone…or with non-BMs?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: How should I shop?
    Alone : (8 votes)
    15 %
    With non-bridesmaid friends : (36 votes)
    69 %
    Try to make my family go : (8 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2281 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I was able to go dress shopping with my mother while I was visiting her, but when it comes to all other wedding planning thngs, I’m in the same boat you are: I’m having my best friend as my one attendant, and she’s 10 hours away. No family nearby. My dearest friend where I live will be out of the country for the whole month around my wedding, so she’s not in it at all. But she completely understood when I asked her to go with me to a bridal expo, and the advice she was able to give me from her own wedding experience was invaluable. We had a lovely day.

    I would ask the Best Man’s wife to go dress shopping with you. I bet, if you tell her your situtaion, and that you don’t want to go alone, she’ll be delighted to go with you.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think it’s fine to ask some non-BM friends who are in the area as long as they will be invited to the wedding.  I’ve gone with numerous friends to wedding gown shop even when I wasn’t a Bridesmaid or Best Man and it was super fun!

    Post # 5
    Member
    395 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    It depends on how many times you want to go dress shopping.  I went alone to one place because I wanted to form some of my own opinions before I got input, but I will not buy a dress without my mom.   I have also invited non-bridesmaids to go.  What girl doesn’t like wedding dress shopping?

    Post # 7
    Member
    359 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I went alone once, with my sister/MOH once (who was completely disinterested), and with my beau’s cousin once, which was the time I found my dress. I much preferred the trip with the cousin, she was completely objective and had no alterior motives.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1217 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Bring friends – it’s so nice to have company and support! Plus I don’t think they would be offended for you involving them even though they’re not in the wedding party – they’re still invited to the wedding, right? I think they’d be happy to be involved and help you since they care about you 🙂

    Post # 9
    Member
    395 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Ya I have found a couple of things.  You get better service when you have your mom, and bridesmaids are with you.  My MOHs (I have two) both live far away too 🙁  They know they will probably not make a sale unless your important people are there.  Even if you tell them you are not ready to make a decision, but those people are with you, there is a glimmer of hope and some consultants will push for the sale.  

     

    But I think it is very practical to shop alone or just a couple bridemaids/non-bridesmaids.  As much as you want everyone to like your dress, you should eliminate things you don’t like.  At the end of the day YOU are wearing the dress, YOU are walking down the isle in it, YOU are going to be looking and cherishing the photos.  Even though I thought I had strong opinions, I did get swayed by my mom’s taste and ended up buying a dress I realized after the fact I didn’t like.  

    Post # 10
    Member
    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I have gone alone, gone with one bridesmaid, gone with another bridesmaid, her mom (who is my future mother-in-law), and their family friend, and gone with my maid of honor, her mother, my mother, and my first grade teacher.

     

    So yeah, just go!  Bring some friends if you want — they would probably be happy to be included, regardless of whether they’re actually in the wedding.  Going alone is fine, too, and you can always go back with friends.

    Post # 11
    Hostess
    4669 posts
    Honey bee

    I went with my mom once, my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor (sis) twice, my Bridesmaid or Best Man (bff1) once, a friend once, and my Bff2 and mom once. The best time I had was when I was just with my Bridesmaid or Best Man (bff1) because we were really able to relax without the pressure family puts on trying on dresses. I think having your Best Man’s wife will make it still a really wonderful experience and include her in a very meaningful way. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    2808 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    i shopped alone 3 times, with one of my BM’s once, and with my mom once. i preferred shopping alone, actually. less opinions, less frustration. only me, the mirror, and a consultant.

    however, i did enjoy having my mom with me. because i got to see her reaction. i just didn’t like the stress of having to “please” her tastes.

    Post # 13
    Member
    97 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I went with a non-bridemaid friend that was down to earth. I think it’s good to have at least one person there to give you a second opinion that you trust.

    In my case I’d been in a new country a month then Fi proposed. With all my family and friends a long way away I couldn’t just wander out and try dresses on. So I sat down and watched Say Yes to the Dress with my Fi every Friday night to get an idea of what was out there that I liked and what his preferences were. Then one of my new friends from work offered to take me around to some of the local stores. We got to the seond store, second dress and I just loved it, it fitted my shape perfectly. I tried on a few others after it and they didn’t make me feel as good as it did. So I ordered it with a decent discount on the day. No, I don’t have dress regret at all! It arrived the other day and looked even better than the sample 🙂

     

     

    Post # 14
    Member
    1116 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I went with my mom, gram and an aunt.  It worked out perfectly.  I liked having them there and they were very postive.. almost too positive LOL.  They loved every dress, however it allowed me to pick the ONE that I truly loved.

    Post # 15
    Hostess
    23602 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would go with what’s going to make you the most comfortable.  Good luck dress shopping!

    Post # 16
    Member
    1855 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I shopped alone; I had the same issues as you as an encore bride.  I went to 4 shops alone and then when I found the dress, I had a girlfriend come back with me to see it and give me an opinion.  It was definitely a different experience, but not a bad one.

    The topic ‘Dress shopping alone…or with non-BMs?’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors