Post # 1
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Blushing bee
I am a rather picky person when it comes to clothing, so I am not entirely looking forward to going dress shopping from the big day. It took me many months to simply choose a prom dress in high school.
I think I know what I want from much onlin searching, but I am first going to David’s Bridal to determine if what I think I want is really what I want. I am only taking my Maid/Matron of Honor and the rest of my family (mother, grandmother, sister, and aunts) seems to be rather hurt by this. They are worried that I will hve my AWE moment and none of them will be there to witness it.
So thus my dilema, do I just cowboy up and take all my family or keep it simple and just bring a few close friends.
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I brought my mom AND a few close friends (bridesmaids).
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
I would say to take your mom and a few close friends. I took a few too many people to my appointment and it was pretty overwhelming. I think its nice to share the experience with your mom but its great to have the support of your friends who probably know your personal style best!
Post # 5
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Helper bee
Is that supposed to say “mom” or “MOH”? Just wanting to make sure I chose the right one! lol! Because I forsure think you should take at least your mother with you. When I first went I took my Maid/Matron of Honor and my mom. I am also super picky just like you describe yourself as.
Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
You didn’t list “just your MOH” as an option. I say do what works for you.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
I would say just take your mom, or your mom and your maid of honor. On a side note, take your time when trying on dresses. Don’t feel pressured to pick one out right away. So many brides have dress regret, and I think it’s often because they are pressured into choosing a dress, or they pick one too early on… 🙂 Happy shopping!
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
@shannonh32: I’m taking my maid of honor to davids briday, but in the survey it is suppose to say mom.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
- Wedding: May 2012 - The Chapel of the Sir Christopher Wren Building, 2007 Legacy Hall
I completely understand where you are coming from. I am notoriously picky and can be very indecisive. (I too spend HOURS and HOURS looking for special ocassion dresses.)
I went shopping with just my mom and sister and am SO happy I kept it small. There was no pressure of added opinions, just the people who know me the best. Once I selected a dress, I invited all my bridesmaids to the salon and tried on the dress for them. They might not have been a part of the selection process, but I still wanted them to feel included.
Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
I went the first time with my sister alone – it was just one day after work and i had no intentions of finding my dress and i didnt. The next time I went with my mom and my dad and ended up finding the dress i was married in. I didn’t want a lot of people there but i was really happy my mom was with me when i found her.
Post # 11
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Blushing bee
Thankfully for my family I am very picky so they all got to go on various trips, but not all together.
You have to do what is right for you. If you think you can get through an appointment with all of their varying opinions on what looks good on you, and what they want to see you in, and still end up with what you want then I say go for it. This takes a very strong person who can stand up to their family/friends. If you are a people pleaser by nature, then I say do NOT take everyone with you. You run the risk of being talked into a dress that you don’t want. The best people to take shopping with you are ones that will keep the appointment focused on you and what you want.
Hope This Helps
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
I would take 3 people, max, so you don’t get overwhelmed by too many different opinions.
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
I brought my mom and my sister, my Maid/Matron of Honor. They know my personality and style best so there weren’t conflicting opinions of what I “should look like” because my friends would probably have just wanted to dress me in what they like. I would never have gone without my mom, it meant too much to both of us to go together.
Post # 14
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Honey bee
The first time shopping I brought my mom, sister and my other bridesmaid joined us later in the day. The second time i was mostly trying to validate the dress I ended up buying and brought only my sister (as she was in the area).
I personally would keep the guest list low. TOO many people can make for too much frustration if you bring the wrong people or you feel like you need to please certain people before you are pleasing yourself.
Post # 15
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Busy bee
I went by myself the first 2 times I tried on dresses. Like you – I’m super picky & dreaded the experience. I found that it was extremely helpful to go by myself so that I could get an idea of what I liked before I had other people’s opinion thrown into the mix. I knew that if I went by myself I wouldn’t feel pressured to buy anything and I could just concentrate on the dresses. Once I had it narrowed down I took my mom so that she could still have the experience since I am the only daughter.
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
I picked everyone, but not necessarily the more the better.
I went the first time with just mom, then once with just grandmom (who was buying my dress). But I couldn’t pull the trigger without at least one of my girls there, and Future Mother-In-Law wanted to be there too, so I bought a dress the day I had mom, grandmom, Future Mother-In-Law, FI’s niece, and Maid/Matron of Honor there.
Then I had a dress regret nightmare and switched it out for a dress I found on another trip with just grandmom. Turns out that was who I really needed there- not because she was buying, but because we’ve been shopping buddies my whole life. We have similar styles and tastes and she knows what looks good on me often better than I do. I needed her approval before I could be happy with anything, but I needed it uncluttered by all the other noise (although I’m glad they all got to see me try on dresses, because it made them all really happy).