(Closed) Dress Shopping Drama

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m going to play devil’s advocate and take your mom’s side.  I would have given anything to have my mom, who passed away six years ago, come dress shopping with me.  Did we always get along?  Hell, no!  But I know that this is something that she dearly looked foward to doing with me someday, and it kills me that she’s not here for it.  I’m sure your mom is feeling the same way and it seems like she’s trying to enjoy this part of wedding planning with you. 

Is there a particular reason that you don’t want to go dress shopping again?  Will it really hurt to try on a dress with straps?  It sounds like you’re not 100% certain about which dress you want anyway – you might find another dress that is perfect for you in another store! 

Post # 4
341 posts
Helper bee

I think you should keep looking. Leaning towards a dress doesn’t sound like you really are all that into it. Maybe just try some with straps on to appease your mom, my mom was all about ballgowns and I was dead set against them but I tried them on anyway, even if just to say “I told you so” after. My mom is super critical too so I understand how hard it is to shop with someone like that but keep in mind, it is your wedding and you have to wear the dress so you should love it, not everyone else.

Post # 5
188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think going by yourself is a great idea since your opinion will not be swayed by others and you can focus on your own preferences. Tell your mother you are taking a little break to do some research online. Meanwhile take the time to try on as many dresses until you find “the one”. Try on these dresses again and see how you really feel. Also, let shop clerk bring you some other styles to see which ones best suit you. When you are ready to make the decision, set up an appointment for you and your mother to go, so you can share the dress purchasing experience together. That was what I did since my fmil made it clear how much it would mean to her to and a part of it but I was concerned about my own indecisiveness and being persuaded to purchase something I wasn’t completely in love with. The good thing is that once you find the dress you can call around for prices and see which place will give you a better deal. Once you know which dress you like, you shouldn’t have a problem trying on any additional dresses to appease your mother. I am sorry that she is stressing you out, but don’t forget how blessed you are to have her in your life. She loves you and wants to be a part of this experience so in this case a little white lie might help make this a more enjoyable experience for both of you. Good luck! I am looking forward to hearing which dress you will end up picking.     

Post # 8
575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Cem0930: I almost got the MS Desirae dress, I loved the material, so silky soft!! I got married in July and ordered my dress in late December. I received it in May, but it is a little close. When I went shopping with my mom and sister, I felt like they didn’t give me enough feedback!! That being said, it won’t hurt to try on more dresses, you should be able to KNOW the dress you want and think about YOUR wedding and YOUR vision. If you need to go back by yourself without all the “noise” then do it, but deinitely try on as many different type of dresses as you can! Good luck!!

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