Post # 1
i have an appointment at a bridal boutique tomorrow and i am super nervous. They book the room for a hour from what the email says. I’m mostly going there to get an idea of what type/style dress I like on my body shape.
I’m 100% sure I will not be purchasing a dresss during the appointment because i am soooooo so so indecisive. I would definitely have to sleep on it because there is a great chance I will change my mind.
SO my question is- did you feel pressured to purchase a dress when you went dress shopping??? I just don’t want to feel awkward!
Post # 2
I went dress shopping 3 times. Two of the times I felt no pressure at all, one time I felt slightly pressured. Never enough that it would actually force me to consider buying a dress, though. I just mentioned that I was pretty analytical and liked to sleep on it before making decisions, and for the most part didn’t have any issues.
FWIW, the lady who was a little pushy understood my choice, but was just dropping hints about this being “my dress” and “so me” and then told me that I shouldn’t wait too long to buy a dress because they could stop making it. I was like lady, I’m gonna think about this for like two days I think I’m okay haha.
But for the most part, if you find a store with good reviews, you shouldn’t run into that! They should be very accommodating and will definitely understand not wanting to buy yet.
Post # 3
I was also super nervous before my first appointment. Like, to the point of almost dreading it.
Once I went it wasn’t nearly as indimidating as I thought, and by the time I was in the first dress I was enjoying myself! Go in with an open mind. Even if there’s something you think you don’t want, try it on anyway. You never know and trying on wedding dresses isn’t something you’ll get to do everyday 😉
Some shops have their consultants on commission and they may be more pushy with their sales tactics. Some might offer incentives to buy at that first appointment, but don’t feel bad at all for not purchasing right away. It’s a huge decision. It might feel awkward, but YOU get to own that decision so don’t feel bad about walking out empty handed. You won’t be the first or the last bride to do so.
Hope you have fun!
Post # 4
I went to David’s Bridal because it was the only shop open on Sundays and that was the only day we could go while my mom and grandma were in town. There, I didn’t really feel freedom to try different things, and I did feel like it was sort of an assembly line to find a dress that would check off my list, rather than a dress that I would have *the feeling* with. There was some pressure to buy. The other store I went (where I ended up buying) was a sort of strange boutique where they let you pull and they just help you put things on, or offer assistance pulling when you need it. There, I felt basically no pressure.
Last time I got married, I shopped in a few stores, and I didn’t feel pressure to buy as much as disrespect. I think it was because of my age, they thought I was just playing around and not really getting married?
Just let yourself have fun! And if you’re not enjoying it, try again another time!
Post # 5
I never felt pressured to buy a dress at any of the shops I went to. I had great consultants at every store I went to who all made me feel comfortable. Just focus on having fun! You don’t have to make a decision in your very first appointment. These consultants do this all day, every day. I promise you are the first or even the most indecisive bride they’ve worked with.
Post # 6
Thanks everyone! You have definitely helped putting me at ease. I was definitely dreading tomorrow eeeeeeeh
Post # 7
I had five dress shopping appointments, and the only place I felt super pressured was David’s Bridal. Every other boutique I’ve been to (and as a bridesmaid shopping with another bride as well) they don’t really put the pressure on.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t be nervous at all — I think it’s perfectly reasonable for brides to be indecisive (I was — I tried over 30 dresses!) so bridal shops surely are prepared for brides to walk away without a purchase. I actually started to enjoy the process of finding the dress and stretched it out longer (when I was pretty sure I knew which dress I was going to buy) to sneak in a few more appointments “just to look” since I was having fun. Enjoy it! It’s a rare and fun occasion to try on such lovely and expensive dresses!