Post # 1
Hi Bees! Curious to know how any of you handled this scenario.
I’ve been losing weight steadily over the past 6 months (20lbs down), and i joined the gym last week. I’m planning on continuing my portion-controlled eating, plus exercise, and I hope to lose another 30lbs before my wedding in December, which would put me at my ideal weight.
This has been a major lifestyle change for me, and I’m loving feeling healthier. Needing to lose 50lbs is no joke, but I’ll have gone from 185 to 135 by the time I’m done, which will be realistic and sustainable for a 5’3″ person. It’s not like I’m crash dieting or will be trying to maintain too low.
Anyway… My friend got married last year, and her bridal salon laughed at her when she said she’d be losing weight before the wedding and told her not to, because she would ruin the fit of her dress with alterations. Granted, she was already quite thin, but that made me SO mad for her.
Is that true? Will alterations ruin a dress? Will trying on dresses in the next couple months be a bad idea? How else am I supposed to do this? If I lose 30 lbs, that will be a decent size difference. However, this is where I am in my health journey, which will affect my entire life. I shouldn’t stop for a wedding dress fit. Right?
Post # 2
Don’t buy a dress for the size you plan on being, buy a dress for the size you are. If you don’t order soon you’re going to be hard pressed to find a dress in a small amount of time.
Alterations will not ruin a dress if done properly.
Post # 3
Oh, I definitely wasn’t planning on sizing down in the dress, I would plan on purchasing the correct size now and altering it as needed. I have no idea what size I’ll end up being, even at my goal weight.
Post # 4
I think it depends on the dress. A dress with a corset back to it would be easy to just lace a bit tighter. Whereas, a dress with closely fitting fixed pieces would be more affected. Some fabrics are also more forgiving than others.
Post # 5
Also just wanted to say that my dress was altered significantly and it definitely didn’t ruin anything. So I’m not sure why they would say that. It will definitely be more expensive though.
Post # 6
When selecting a dress, choose one that is easily altered. Dresses with intricate beadwork are more difficult and more expensive to alter. Your bust/cup size may go down. Regardless, I always recommend choosing a dress that provides reliable breast support. Don’t rely on youthful “firmness” to keep things perky during weight loss. They might be a bit less perky if you’re losing weight. Benchpressing and toning your pecs does help with that though, it’s not a myth, thank goodness. (I’ve had three kids so I’ve had to deal with the girls at the perkiest and least perky of times. Toning helps!). Look for a dress with structure in case your skin has a delay in tightening up. Loose skin will show through a really thin dress and losing 50 lbs is quite a bit of change for your body. I would recommend red light therapy as you go through this process. Tanning salons have red light beds. When I went I had them turn off the UV. I’m very fair skinned. But red light therapy strengthens connective tissue beneath the skin (the tissue that pins the skin to the muscles) as well as tightening skin by stimulating collagen production which plumps up cells and stimulates rejuvenstion. I think it will help prevent the loose skin issues if you do two treatments a week going forward.
So, get a dress that fits you now but can be altered to a smaller size closer to your wedding date if you continue to lose weight. I would recommend slowing things down by the last month before your wedding and switching to toning and maintaining. You want that “final fitting” to hold true the day of. But yes, a corset back is a good idea for this situation.
Good luck with your weight loss journey!
Post # 7
I lost 40 lbs between ordering and my wedding. You will be fine. Just keep alterations in mind when picking a dress. Mine was a strapless ballgown (not a corset back), and it was easy to alter.
Post # 8
I agree with the above thoughts, but also check with shops on an order timeline. Everyone freaks out and tells you that you need 9 months…. but I ordered my dress (Stella York) in mid July and had it in November with 2 months for alterations before my early January wedding. If there’s a shop that can reliably work in more of a 6 month timeline, you could give yourself a few more months to probably lose close to a dress size before purchasing to minimize alterations.
Post # 9
I personally would only start shopping in the summer and order around Sept/Oct. I think it takes 4-8 weeks to get a dress in your size, depending where you get it. From there, you can get it altered closer to your wedding date. The good news is that you still have a lot of time until your wedding date.
Post # 10
Wow! Congrats on the lifestyle change, that’s amazing! You may want to look into the BHLDN dresses, i believe they have standard shipping and the sizing seems more “normal” (compared to some bridal sizes). You could have the dress in a few weeks.
Post # 11
I’ll be attending one of BHLDNs pop ups in my area in March. 😊 I suppose just because I like it doesn’t mean I have to buy it right then, because I’ve heard the same thing. It doesn’t take that long to get one of their dresses.
Thank you all. I’m going to try on dresses a few at a time over the next several months and see where I land in terms of style and preference, and then when I get a bit closer, I’ll narrow it down. I’m not afraid of making alterations if the dress won’t be ruined!
Post # 12
I found dress shopping quite the experience. Everywhere I went there was enormous pressure to buy a dress that exact day. I even had a sales person try and convince me I loved a dress that was nothing like I wanted and that I had to buy it now because it would be gone tomorrow! Ridiculous. I ended up buying a dress from a shop going out of business for a reduced price in the style I wanted. It was way too big for me but you wouldn’t know it after the alterations. So it is possible. You just need to find a seamstress with a positive attitude to work with you on it. I would also definitely recommend going into shops just for a quick look to get a feeling about what sort of sales people they have.