Post # 1
So, in anticipation of hitting up a dress dash this past weekend, I went with my MOH’s to David’s Bridal last Thursday to try on dresses and get a sense of which style might best suit me. What ended up happening was not much fun…I’m about to say some not so nice things about the worker at David’s. I’m well aware that with a chain store, you will have good and bad experiences.
First off, let me say that I had no intention of trying on any dresses right now because I am overweight. I’ve gained (ugh, can’t believe I am admitting this while eating a slice of pizza and having a beer!) about 45-50 pounds in the last year. I know why I gained it (see my dinner choice? add some depression and a loss of job in there too) and I can easily change those issues. I’ve lot weight in the past and while I’m not too worried about actually losing it, part of me is really upset about my weight in general.
I was given undergarments in a size that didn’t fit me. When I asked about a different size, I was told I was wearing the largest one they had. Now, this doesn’t make sense to me – I was wearing a 16 standard sized but their dresses also come in 16W-22W or so. I’m a street size 12-14 right now. And yet, there I was, wrong fitting garments. She then tried to squeeze me into 4 different size 14 dresses – pulling the backs together and saying things like “Oh, SO CLOSE!” and trying to tell me things liek “well imagine if it was fitting you though?!” I asked her to please stop, and just go get me a 16 in everything. Instead I got told “well, in the corset styles you can go a size smaller… so try this…” and jammed into my 5th size 14. When she finally got me a 16 in the gown I liked the most, it fit like a glove. Go figure…I guess where I am going with this is that nothing about this experience made me feel good. I felt huge. I felt tired. I felt defeated. And more than anything, I really felt like an imposter. Without having a single moment of bridal happiness, we left vowing not to buy a dress for me from David’s.
I have a small budget (Hoping for $600 including alterations?) Has anyone else had this type of sad-face experience? It made me want to give up dress shopping entirely right now. I have until April to slim down and find something suitable AND in my price range… but I’m so down in the dumps about this that I can’t even fathom finding something that is pretty and will be in my range WITHOUT buying from David’s.
Post # 3
🙁 I’m so sorry that happened! Nothing like someone making you feel terrible about your size. I’ve been there, and it sucks. I would write a letter to their corporate and let them know what happened, including the name of the girl you were “helped” by.
As for the dress search, I got nothin’ for ya. I haven’t been dress shopping yet.
Post # 4
Ick I definitely feel like this will be my experience as well. i basically have called all of the stores to see if they have my sizes etc and to basically let them know, I know i’m not standard size and i know what size dress i want to try on (i’m a size 14/16)
I hear that maggie’s make you feel the smallest and can accommodate weight loss because they can go up or down three dress sizes from where you are currently. at least that’s what i am hoping you know? i
http://www.maggiesottero.com is the website…
Post # 5
Oh, boy I was dreading gown-shopping! My hips and whatnot were a size 12, and my bust only fit into a 14. At times, I got majorly down on myself. Also, those women really SQUEEZE you into dresses…they make them so tight!! I prefer to breathe. Anyways, I put on a smile and realized “I am, who I am!”
My I also add, I know you said you’re on a budget, but PLEASE realize that David’s has the nasiest flurescent lighting ever. I don’t know of anyone who looks good in those lights with all those mirrors around. I looked like a big washed out blob there…then I went other boutiques and the lighting was much more flattering, much more “wedding-like”
Post # 6
oh that sucks and im sending lots of happy smilie vibes to you to help cheer you up – i dont know what the sales staff issue was in trying to force you into something so uncomfy when there where comfortable sizes availble but i hope they’re not all like that out there. maybe someone can suggest a nice david bridals sales assistant for your local store to revisit and ask for her
goodluck – next time WILL be better!
Post # 7
Crebre – I am actually going to call the salons that I want to go to to see if they can help me out. I was surprised by this experience of not having something that fit me. I didn’t need to feel that way in wedding dresses – I feel that way in my own closet sometimes and even in private it no fun to feel like a blob of fat with some satin on.
VirginiaMarie – I know about the lighting… AWFUL. I was washed out, for sure. I tried reminding myself of that while I was there. I’m looking forward to a more relaxed, have a glass of champagne and fun time boutique day.
One other thing about the David’s stuff? I was trying on these beaded and lace dresses, and I was completely unimpressed with the quality of anything there that is beaded. I did find one I liked that was pretty and in my price range, but I didn’t feel like it was “the one” either.
Post # 8
Oh im sorry you had a bad experience.
Keep us posted and i hope that smile comes back on your face soon 🙂 Im sure tho you will find your dress, dont give up hope!
Post # 9
Wow, I am so sorry you had that experience there. I was also dreading dress shopping anywhere and ended up going to Davids because I didn’t want to have dresses held up to me in a boutique store. I am a bridal size 20 and my consultant at Davids was really accommodating and never may me feel weird or uncomfortable.
I tried on a handful of dresses and did fall in love with one and ended up buying it. But if I would have had your experience I am sure I wouldn’t have. Good luck on your next shopping trip!
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
You are not the first person to leave David’s Bridal in tears. Some people have great experiences there, but more often than not it’s described as an awful place. You are not a blob of fat — don’t let anyone make you feel that way! It’s not true. That has more to do with that saleslady than anything else.
Is there an Alfred Angelo store near you? They have many more sizes and their dresses are a bit more stylish. I went there this weekend and there’s a 20% off sale going on.
Good luck! There are a million dresses out there — you’re bound to find one that’s perfect! 🙂
Post # 11
Ditto, you have never been a blob of fat dear 😀 You are a beautiful woman, and it’s not your fault you dealt with nasty folks…
Post # 12
Boo, what a way to start your dress shopping! I’d totally write corporate, but it’s not like you want anything from them now….God that makes me mad! Here’s to hoping you got your bad experience done and out of the way, and may all your shopping expiditions from here on out be everything they should be!
Post # 13
I can totally relate. I haven’t started dress shopping, mostly because I want to get some weight off first.
I am the perpetual yo-yo dieter since the age of eight (yes, eight. I won’t bring y’all down with my upbringing). I am so sensitive to the comments like ones you mentioned. I have to say, i think that sales person was unprofessional. She should be commenting on what works on you and focusing on the positive.
I hope this doesn’t discourage you. At least you’re one step ahead of me! I don’t even have the courage to step in a dress shop!
Post # 14
I don’t know if David’s is the same as regular bridal salons but my bridal gown was much bigger than my usual size. I’m so sorry you had a bad experience. I’m not sure about you but I wouldn’t be able to buy a dress without seeing how it looks on me. You probably can afford to wait a few more months to go and buy a dress if you think that you will feel more comfortable with it then.
Post # 15
Yyyyyyyyyyyyeah I’ve had that experience in dressing rooms many times. Boo on that.
I’d like to second the Alfred Angelo suggestion. They really do have some decent stuff and (maybe it was just the store I went to), the ladies there were really nice and helpful.
Post # 16
HUGS!!! Don’t let those ladies get you down. You will find an amazing dress that you look stunning in!!