Post # 1
I went dress shopping for the first time today – it was an impromptu trip after having lunch with my stepmother and Pricilla of Boston just happened to be next door to the restaurant… You know. How could we resist!?! While everything was gorgeous and I even found a serious “contender”, I found myself feeling sort of bummed out for the rest of the evening.
I think it came down to just felling like a sausage being strapped, clipped and sucked into the dresses. I’m not a large woman – a street size 10 at 5’8 and 155lbs. I’m actually only about 10-15lbs over my fighting weight at the moment and soft for ignoring the gym fr the past 4… er, 5 months (guess I probably have to stop blaming my lack of activity on “the holidays’ now).
I know rationaly that this feeling came from trying on dresses that were a size or two too small but oh my god did getting vacuumed into some of those pretty frocks make me feel like an elephant!
I like to think I have a relatively healthy body image 95% of the time, but today was definitely not the norm. Did anyone have a similar experience? All I know is that next time I will be wearing Spanks!
Post # 3
Don’t feel bad! Did you know beforehand that your street size is actually considerably smaller than bridal? I’m a POB bride as well, and I’m a street size 6, but I ordered my dress in a size 10. I also know that most of POB sample dresses are in a 10, so know you were probably wearing a dress that’s about two sizes too small for you.
And I know how strange it feels to be clipped and pulled into the dresses. But I found it helpful to just not focus on that. The consultants I worked with were really good about getting the dress on me (whatever that looked like) really fast, which made it easy to forget the fact that I often had clips holding the dress together. And yes, spanks help a lot! Just focus on how beautiful you look in the dresses, and remember that your dress will come in your size!
Post # 4
I think everyone experiences self-esteem issues. Keep in mind that they cannot stock every dress in every size, so they pick a middle size so that you can at least put it on and get a general sense. I’m really short and have no curves (literally, 32AAA), and was trying on those same dresses. Usually I am ok with my body, but it definitely made me depressed trying on dress after dress where I didn’t come close to filling in the bodice, and where they had to clip half of the dress in the back. It made me feel like a little kid trying on her mom’s clothes, which does not make you feel bridal at all. It’s hard imagining what the dress will look like when it fits, but just remember that it will!
One thing that I did find to be a self-esteem booster was to go to a wedding consignment shop and David’s Bridal, where I was able to try on dresses my actual size. None of them were anything I wanted, but it was reassuring to know that there were dresses that fit, and that I looked good in them.
Post # 5
Thank you both – yes, even though I knew intellectually that I was putting on a dress a size too small, but visually seeing myself squeezed into the dress was what bummed me out. Because I did “fit” into the dresses, they were zipping them up rather than cliping me into them for a more natural fit.
@Leprechaun – your David’s Bridal/consignment store idea is brilliant. I will totally make a point of doing that for a little self esteem/reality check before I go to my next target store.