(Closed) Dress shopping! please just kill me…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Would it be possible to take Fiance with you? (I know, I’m terrible) But, my Fiance was the same way, so I took him with me! He was difficult to stomach sometimes but when I found “the dress” he just melted and couldn’t stop talking about “that one dress…” I know its not traditional and you may want the “surprise” factor. But, for me, I wanted him to love the way I looked and not be picking at “that weird flower” all night, you know?

After all, I got to see him in his garb beforehand!

Post # 4
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If your happy with the dress he will love it. Keep in mind a great fitting can make a huge difference in making it just right for your body and not look nearly as odd. Keep trying things on and dont worry about it too much. Take the time you need and well magazines can be deceiving until its on your body you wont know.

Post # 5
949 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hmm. My thought is that he either needs to learn to be a little less nitpicky about what he’s looking at, or you need to stop asking for his opinion. I had this problem with my dress search- guys will say some really weird stuff about dresses that doesn’t have anything to do with the real world, like what he said about “too shadowy”. If the only way he was going to see your dress, EVER, was from one static picture in one light, then it would be a fair comparison with what he’ll see on the day you get married. But it’s not! The shadowy dress or too shiny dress might be great in better light, the one that he thinks doesn’t fit right in the hips would fit you great after alterations, or whatever.

Maybe ask him to look at some styles and imagine it’s you wearing them and tell you how he feels about just the general style? I just think the detail-picking is more confusing than helpful, especially if you’re mostly on the same page. With my Fiance, I finally just had to say “look, I have NO IDEA what to do with the feedback you’ve given me so far, can we just start from scratch and you tell me the basics of what you want to see me wearing?”

Post # 6
412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Haha sounds like my Fiance too- the funny thing is though, he’ll say “I don’t like this style” and then a few weeks later he’ll see someone in that style and he’ll be like “oh that’s nice” and I’ll say “but you said you didn’t like that” and he’ll try to tell me the other one was a different style.  Honestly, I think my Fiance has great taste, and I did incorporate his opinions (I wanted full lace, he is not a fan) but in the end, I still think he doesn’t have a clue when it comes to wedding dresses, and I found one that I loved that I’m sure he will too.

Post # 7
2086 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

He’s a dude. He’s probably saying things about dresses because you’re asking him, but he probably doesn’t really have a strong opinion about dress styles.

Post # 8
339 posts
Helper bee

I think it is really easy to judge things just from a picture.  He doesn’t really know how you feel about these dresses and I’m sure that would be the last thing on his mind on your wedding day!  He loves you for you!  Just pick what you like and stop worrying about him!

Post # 9
2606 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Just get the dress that you feel beautiful in. Even for us, it’s hard to visualize what a dress will look like on our own bodies, versus a model shot, and haven’t you noticed how different they look in person?  If you feel like it’s flatterring, he’ll love it.  Don’t stress.

Post # 10
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

On the day of you wedding he will love whatever dress you pick. I wouldnt stress out about his comments at all.

Post # 15
1906 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Old Stone House in Brookyn

There are a few threads on here comparing the model pictures with real brides like this:

Wedding Dress Models vs. Real Brides

You can see how a lot of them look “meh” in the catalog and are fabulous on an actual woman. Your hair, accessories, etc, can completely change the look, so I wouldn’t worry too much about whether he likes it on the model.

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