(Closed) DRESS SHOPPING SUCKS!!! (looong!)

posted 7 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Sorry to hear you had such a bad experience.  I hope you don’t give up however.  As a plus-size bride I was lucky enough to have a great first experience to get me “in the mood” to try dresses on.  If I hadn’t however I know it would be so hard to keep going with feeling completely deflated.  I ended up going to a lot of different stores and I can assure you they all weren’t that same great experience!

Do you have other places you can try?  Hopefully you’ll have a better time somewhere else. 

EDIT: One other thing I wanted to add, it also sounds like you had a crappy consultant.  Even IF she didn’t have the dress you wanted in your size, the least she couldve done is find you comparable dresses that you couldve tried on!  Not that you couldnt have still ordered the dress you wanted but at least you could’ve gotten a better idea that you even like that style of dress on you.

Post # 4
7309 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

You need to find a dress shop that specializes in curvy brides. They do exist, and you will get the dress shopping experience you deserve. Also, don’t fixate on trying on specific dresses. Go and be open to trying other dresses in that style, as well as other styles. You never know until you try.

Post # 5
4147 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

First, find a new salon! That one sounds like a nightmare:)

You can try on dresses that aren’t in your size. I’m a street size 14 too and didn’t try on a single dress that was the size I would actually order. Some i could put on, but they didn’t zip so the consultant clipped it which was just fine to give you the idea of what it would look like. Some were really tight over my hips but were enough to give me an idea of what I liked and what I didn’t like

for the dress I ended up buying, the sample was a size 10. mine is a size 20 ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@jigga143:  I’m sorry your shopping experience sucked. I too had dificulties finding anything in my area, I also lost 55lbs and have gotten down to a 14/16. I was inlove with the mermaid and fit n’ flair styles. I felt dissappointed in almost every dress I tried on because it didn’t fit or look right, then I discovered Bonny bridal gowns, they have an extensive line made just for plus size, I fell in love with Bonny 1201 and it fit like a glove, I knew this was the shape I wanted, but I wasn’t happy with just trying on a single dress in that style. Unfortunately I never found a maggie above a size 12 in a sample, and I ended up ordering Maggie’s Monet in size 22. All I could do was hold the dress upto myself and I knew that was my dress no matter what.

See if Bonny has a retailer near you, call and see if they have specific dresses by giving them the style number, they have a bunch of mermaid styles online just for the plus size girls (skinny girls have to pay extra to have it made smaller), mermaids are something that is not always easy to find in plus size. I guess the designers don’t think we can rock that style or something.

Post # 8
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@jigga143:  Girl…..I know it is frustrating! I had a VERY similar experience. 

I am about a street size 12. Unfortunately in wedding dress sizes I am a bust 12, waist 10 and hips 14! 

I had a very clear picture as to what kind of dress I wanted. Mermaid style…just like you. Unfortunately, these dresses don’t have a lot of “wiggle” room like other styles do….so its VERY hard to try and squeeze into a smaller size. 

I had to laugh when reading about you sweating in the dressing room worried about being stuck in the dress. The exact same thing happened to me! Not fun at all….I was SO excited to try on dresses and after I left the first salon, I felt awful…

But, listen up. There is hope! When I finally made it my 4th bridal salon, I was jumping for joy. All of their samples were between sizes 12 and 16 and even the plus size section (size 16 and up) was very extensive!

You just need to keep looking. You WILL find a salon you like. You WILL find a consultant that makes you feel special. And you WILL find your perfect wedding dress. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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What happened to you is EXACTLY why I dreaded shopping — more than that we dress ourselves for our body type DAILY — so why wouldn’t this dress be as over the top fabulous as we are!? I went to a couple places with a solid idea in mind (my mother doubt doubt doubted me like crazy) but I knew I *wanted* a natural waist ball gown and there was no way in h e double hockey sticks my arms were going uncovered. I played and played away until I had the DETAILS I liked and then found a dress shop (gasp) in China (Fabulous U) that I ordered a dress to my custom size with my custom details — so maybe that’s exactly what you do – ensure you WANT the mermaid and proceed to custom design it?  

I don’t have my dress yet– handing over the control of it all is freaking me out more than just a little bit but I also know I feel 1000% better that the sweating buckshot like a sinner in Sunday mass while 3 people in a tiny dressing room tries to wedge me into a gown I don’t want to ever pay 1,000+ for days are a thing of my past <knock on wood> 


best of luck – I have faith that with all your hard work you will find exactly what you want and will look fab-u-tastic in it! 

Post # 13
649 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I couldn’t help but laugh out loud at yor post, not because of WHAT you were saying, but the WAY you wrote it was so funny!!!

I literally had the EXACT experience, I’m a size 24, I’m currently on weight watchers (down 20lbs!!) but ya, I feel like these bridal shops just SAY come on in, because they “definitely will have your size” and then they end up showing you things that are HALF your size and just keep their fingers crossed that you over exaggerated your dress size….,this is just my theory…but I swear this happened to me like 4 times…..at 4 different boutiques…..frustrating isn’t even the word for this……go to Alfred Angelo. Just go, don’t even give it a second tbought, GO!! Thank me later lol…their dresses are stunning….and come in ALL sizes….this is where I found my dress, and I feel so happy with my dress and experience shopping there…not once did I feel like the “fat girl” at a dress shop… Go on their website and find out where their closest “signature store” is to you…..I have no idea where you live, but I went to the one in CT. They have them all over the country though….best of luck. Keep your chin up ๐Ÿ˜‰

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Post # 14
8684 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@lovekiss:  This. Bridal shops say anything. I went to over 10 and only half actually had what I was looking for but ALL said they carried the styles that I like. Also, as a size 8 I found it annoying that some places had either very small sizes or larger sizes like 20-22 bc it made it equally as hard for me. Most of my friends are around my size or smaller with only 1-2 being 14 or above so this can go both ways.

Post # 15
1024 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Find a new salon!! I am a street size 8-10 and my bridal shop had sample dresses in size 6. I thought that was insane…I was like okay, the average woman is like a 14. Why on earth would you dresses be a size 6 when the dress size is at least a size up from street size? My consultant tried to squeeze me into the size 6 and somehow it went on and then I heard a rip. But whatever, that was her fault!

Post # 16
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

“Almost detaches my boobs from my body” made me laugh. Seriously, I would have a cocktail with you. I, too, have been having this problem, and totally feel your pain. Some of those “plus” sections are just crazy. The dresses look yellow with age. WTF? But if you get the right consultant, you can go in feeling dread and leave feeling like a goddess. Most of the time I felt like the angry fat girl, except in one shop where my consultant was awesome and shaped like me. I was in one shop where the change rooms were so low, I felt like they should have a sign at the door saying, “Brides over 5’9″ not welcome”.The salesgirl cheerfully suggested, “Just put it over your head!” As I was putting my jeans back on I was imaging myself squatting on the carpet struggling into a dress that doesn’t even look that nice.

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