(Closed) Dress shopping while "waiting"??

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I bought my dress while waiting. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t.   You only get to be engaged once, and it goes by fast.  You’re going to want to enjoy every minute – and that includes dress shopping.   They will treat you very differently if they find out you’re not engaged… its just not the same. And if your boyfriend finds out, that could get really awkward. This happened with a guy friend of mine, and though he still proposed, it definitely freaked him out. Not worth the risk, imho.

Vera Wang will still be around when you’re ready to shop!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I think that is up to you and your future Fiance. If he’s ok with it, then go for it! Heck my SO and I just picked our venue this weekend together and we aren’t engaged yet.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I think that is up to you and your future Fiance. If he’s ok with it, then go for it! Heck my SO and I just picked our venue this weekend together and we aren’t engaged yet.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Double post on mistake

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@sunshinebee:  Its not crazy, sometimes you just get tooo antsy, and your mom is going to be there!!! 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

@BartenderPlease:  Agreed! I got a very rude comment from a lady at a bridal shop today because A) not “officially” engaged and B) our wedding is so far off.

@sunshinebee:  My SO is great and helps me pick dress ideas, potential venues, and we’re looking at ideas for food & drink. Tonight he told me to  call and check on a venue tomorrow and I dont have my ring yet… STILL waiting on the proposal. I refuse to go try on dresses without a ring and official title, doesnt stop us from planning. Just be open with your SO and proceed with caution. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m a bridal consultant at a bridal boutique, and from a professional standpoint, I think as long as you are seriously considering buying a dress, it’s a-ok to start looking. I think places get weird if you’re shopping for a dress and not engaged because they think you might just be playing dress-up. That’s not to say that you have to purchase to make an appointment worth a shop’s time, but you should at least be in a place where you are seriously looking to find “the one” (which it sounds like you are!). If you are honestly considering purchasing when you go looking, then it’s no one’s business but yours and your SO’s if you are shopping for a wedding gown and don’t have a ring on your finger yet. Sometimes things happen in a different order, and there’s nothing wrong with that! It can take a very long time to order a dress, get it altered, etc…, so if you think you might be getting married in the next couple of years, it’s *not* too early to start looking so that you can purchase with plenty of time. Just stop looking after you do find it 😉 

Personally, I don’t want to start looking until I am officiall engaged, just because I think it will feel more “special” to me that way. It’s just a personal, mostly sentimental decision. Also, I am afraid my SO would think it was weird if I bought a wedding gown before we were officially engaged (although he knew what he was getting into when I started working at a bridal gown shop!). But those are personal issues; if the timing is right for you and your SO doesn’t mind, then go for it!

Post # 11
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Busy bee

@sunshinebee:  the only dress shopping i’ve done isonlineand nonever bought it,no where to hide it, lol

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

as a PP said, I think it’s okay so long as your not playing.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

My SO has the ring and I hope the proposal isn’t far off and if the opportunity arises for me to shop for and get a great deal on a dress arises I will take it! I think you are close enough to being engaged to go for it! I am considering buying a fake ring just for dress shopping so I don’t have to explain my situation.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

I bought mine while waiting.

That being said, your dress should go along with your venue and the the feel of your wedding; do you know what that will be? Like how will a cathedral length gown look if you are having a rustic wedding in a field? Just something to think about.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

And as far as the e-ring goes, Ive been going to most of our consultations right after work where I cant wear my ring. I havent gotten any comments although I know the venue coordinator kept looking 🙂 If they say something dont work with them; thats VERY unprofessional.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wouldn’t go. He might have a different timeline than you think he has. I know my Fiance told me we would get engaged “soon” for about 2 years. I thought “soon” meant within a month. If you don’t get engaged by Thanksgiving (things could happen even if you are right about his timeline) you might feel silly for going so far before the wedding. Especially if you decide to have a long engagement since your tastes could change and designers are constantly coming out with new dresses.

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