(Closed) Dress Shopping with FI

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

During my shopping experience I saw plenty of men in the bridal salons, however they were typically dads/grandpas or that type of role. I can’t remember seeing any FIs.

That being said if it works for you then do it. It isn’t like the men are poking about in the dressing room so I’m not sure why anyone else would feel uncomfortable.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I can see where having a male in the store may make another bride uncomfortable. A lot of times the dresses don’t close all the way in the back because many of us do not fit into the typical sample sizes very well. So having an unzipped dress on while around a strange male would, understandably, make many women uncomfortable. If AA has small dressing rooms and brides have to come out in order to show their dresses to the other members of their shopping party, your FI’s presence could be an issue. 

At the salon I purchased from, the dressing rooms were huge, with at least 2 chair in each for guests to sit on. I didn’t have to leave my dressing room if I didn’t want to.  So if Mr. LK had been with me, it would have been no issue because he would simply be in my dressing room with me.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

While I haven’t personally seen this, I have heard of it being done.  I think it’s great if you already know you will be comfortable with him there to help you, then all power to you! Don’t give in to pressure from others!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

*sigh*  no, it won’t make other brides uncomfortable, and if it does, well that’s their problem, because it’s completely irrational and unreasonable.  there are private rooms to change into the gowns, and they’ll be covered when they come out.  it’s a public place, so if they want to trapse around with it all hanging out and cry foul if there are  guys in the store, that makes them the jerks, not you or your Fiance.  besides, other brides coming out of the dressing rooms without being properly covered…now THAT would make other brides uncomfortable, i would think.

Fiance went dress-shopping with me, and he was the only one.  it worked out great.  go for it.

Post # 8
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450 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Cem0930: I took my Fiance with me to look at dresses in Danvers. Are you going to the AA up there??? Right up the street is Bella Sera if you don’t find anything. I’m thinking about going to that AA… how was it?

Post # 9
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899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t remember seeing any men, other than my best friend, but it’s not unheard of. My Fiance is going with to get my second dress, because I usually ask his opinion when I get dressed up, anyway. He just refuses to see the one I’m walking down the aisle in.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

@cardus: Is it safe to conclude that you are of “average” size and actually have the option of fitting into dresses? Because some of us are not that size. Some of us have a hard time fitting into sample sizes. Some of us do not want to traipse around with stuff hanging out, but are not left a choice because bridal shops do not stock samples in sizes to fit us. And some bridal shops do not have fitting rooms that allow for guests. So we are forced to make a really hard choice of going out and showing our stuff just so other people can give their opinion, hoping that no one else looks and sees how embarassed we are, and definitely hoping that at least it’s only other women seeing our embarassment. So yeah, some of us are NOT jerks, and conclusions such as yours are rather hurtful.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I assume most AA stores have the same setup. The way it worked where I was, the rooms were big enough for me and a consultant and I came out pretty much into the middle of the store to show the people I was with the dresses I tried on. Now the rooms were big enough to get completely dressed in, I know some places the rooms are so small you have to get laced up and whatever outside of the dressing room. There was a guy there the first time I went and it didn’t bother me.  As far as people being uncomfortable because dresses don’t close and what not, they’d be uncomfortable at any AA store if that bothered them because there were windows everywhere, it wasn’t very private in the store.  As far as hanging out of dresses though, I am a larger girl and AA carries tons of dresses in my size that I could try on, I wasn’t hanging out of dresses in that store. 

Post # 12
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1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Cem0930: I brought my Fiance with me and it was the best decision I ever made! I think if a bride doesn’t want to see a dude in the store then she should stay in the dressing room lol

Post # 13
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1446 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I used to work in a bridal store and it is fairly common.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@lovekiss:  I see what you’re saying but I kind of agree with Cardus.  It’s a public place (unless its a salon that operates by appointment only) and its very possible that there’s going to be men in the shop.

Women are far more critical than men are.  I’d rather come out in an ill-fitting dress in front of 10 dudes I dont know than 10 women. 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

@natbug21: Yeah, she should TOTALLY stay in the dressing room because she is uncomfortable hanging out of a dress in front of a strange man. Shame on her for not fitting into that dress. Shame on her for wanting to try on wedding dresses in a wedding world that only expects thin women to get married. Oh… the horror!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@lovekiss: Agreed. As a borderline plus size, I didn’t fit into a lot of dresses and a lot of my back, sometimes my bra, were showing. I would not have been comfortable stepping out in front of a guy. I’ve seen a few guys in bridal salons (usually the dad I think) and I don’t mind as long as I don’t have to come out of the dressing room to show my mom and have a guy sitting right there, in which case it becomes pretty uncomfortable. I wasn’t terribly comfortable in front of women either, but I think I’d find it even more awkward in front of a guy.

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