Post # 1
I had my first dress shopping trip yesterday. I took my mom and 2 of my best friends (bridesmaids). It was a disaster. i don’t know how to like a dress and find one without making my mom mad or just giving up. I’ve tried to be nice and tell her it’s not all about her but I’m stuck b/c my first trip shopping was awful and makes me not want to go back. AHHHH!
Post # 3
I’m so sorry that your shopping trip didn’t go as well as you had hoped. Maybe you can try what I did and see if that will help for next time.
I was worried about shopping with my mom and sister – people that could influence my decision so I did some “pre-shopping” and tried on a bunch of things to get an idea of what I liked without the pressure of someone staring at me! It really helped because then when I went shopping with my family, I knew what I liked and was more confident to tell them so.
Post # 4
@scadadle15: Thanks I might try that. Its not that their opinions sway me to any dresses cause I dont really care what they like if I like it i’ll get it. My mom just thinks I have the worst taste ever and if I dont get what she picks then my wedding is going to be horrible and she gets mad and yells. This happened at davids bridal and it was so embarrasing.
Post # 5
@[email protected]: I’m sorry your first experience didn’t go better!
Also, on an unrelated note, you might want to check out some threads on here about how easy it is for people to find your weddingbee comments from a google search based on your username/email. If you’re at all concerned about privacy you might want to think about changing your name before you get sucked into the weddingbee and don’t want to lose your post count (which happens if you want to change your username). Hope you don’t mind the unsolicited advice, I just know I wish I had picked something different when I first started!
Post # 6
I have trouble shopping with my mom because we have different tastes. She also thinks I’m fat, although never comes out and says it, she hints at it. So, I totally understand where you’re coming from.
For me the solution was easy, I live 2000 miles away from her. I went dress shopping with her when I was home a few months ago, but mostly I’ve been shopping by myself. I hope to take her back to see any dresses that I have narrowed down as my favorites.
Maybe try to go on your own some. You can always take her to see your top picks then let her give you input on those ones only. That way she can be involved, but not controlling everything.
Post # 7
I honestly think this is pretty common. For the first bridal salon I brought 2 of my bridesmaids and my mom and felt like I couldnt hear my own opinions in my head.
Yesterday when I bought my dress I brought a friend, who is not in the bridal party and who is already married so shes been through this before and it was SO much easier.
I say go by yourself or someone whos not so involved in your wedding planning so you dont get overwhelmed.