(Closed) Dress Stress

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Don’t panic! You still have lots of time left to get YOUR dress. Please don’t rush into buying something because you feel you have to, or you think you won’t get anything better, because you’ll inevitably end up feeling rubbish about the whole thing.

Some people DO find their dress after going to one or two shops. Me? I tried on about 60, from about 15 to 20 different designers/shops, before I finally found my dress. And I did get that wow moment, where everyone cried, and I just didn’t want to take the dress off!

My tips are basically to visit shops/designers that you wouldn’t normally, and most importantly try on styles that you wouldn’t normally. If you think you hate lace and ruffles, try on lace and ruffles. You’ll either be completely right about hating it, or it might open your eyes to other styles you don’t like.

Do you like any particular designers? Any particular styles of dress? And remember that accessories make all the difference. I loved my dress but when I put a veil on, I was just like WOW, it’s mine!! 

You’ll find something you love, trust me, you just haven’t found it yet 🙂 

Post # 4
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I have my dress BUT. There was NO wow moment. My story. I went dress shopping with my Maid/Matron of Honor who is also my sister. No love but I did like this and that. This feature or that feature. Most importantly I found I what I REALLY wanted and what I REALLY did not want. Second trip two stores and I found one dress that would be perfect (I think) IF. A few months later I was looking at dresses online and found myself comparing them to the “IF” dress. Decided to look at the “IF” dress online again. Guess what. It’s not online. It is discontinued. I started to freak out. What if that was it?  And now I’ll never find out. Well I found it and purchased it. It has pickups, which I HATE but I think they can be removed to make it my perfect dress. My hope, I will love it as much in real life as I do in my fantasy. 

I say all of this to say 1. Don’t pass on your dream dress thinking it will be available indefinitly. 2. Is there a change that could turn a strong contender into that dream dress?  Think outside the box And see where it leads you. 

Post # 5
10452 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I shopped for 5 months and 50+ dresses. It’s tough, there are lots of dresses that I would have been happy with but I kept looking because I wanted to find the perfect dress. I finally committed and ordered one, and it’s a beautiful dress and I’m excited to see it but there is always that nagging feeling… Is it the best choice?

I did the same as you – had top contenders and went a few times to try them on and then changed my mind. It’s kid of depressing and discouraging, but look at it as a good thing. If you had bought any of those dresses the first time you liked them you’d be regretting it later. Keep going and eventually you will find a dress you like each time you put it on. Good luck!

Post # 6
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Diplomat Country Club

Girl i’ve been to 9 shops tried on about 50 dresses. I choose a dress but I havent bought it yet because there is still 1 more dress i want to try on everytime it’s like this LOL i always end up seeing one more dress that’s prettier smh. We all go through just be patient. My suggestion is to go alone that way you don’t have alot of people opinion than narrow it down and bring people with you to help you choose between the ones you have narrowed down nothing else. That’s whay i’m doing right now going alone than i will bring my mom to see what i’ve chosen and see what she thinks 🙂

Post # 7
504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Oh baby I so hear you. I’m up to between 40 and 50 tryons, still no angels singing from heaven for me either. I think I have at least narrowed it down to kinda of an idea of what I want, my frustration is finding the ones I like to try on without having to go hundreds of miles to find them. However, I think you just have take a break between each shopping and let it go a bit. I got totally obsessed withthis site and desingers websites and I kind of overwhelmed me. This weekend I am go on a big blitz with my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor out of town (way out of town). I have decided that if I don’t find her this weekend i will take a break for awhile and try to give it a rest. Maybe you should just give it up for awhile. Just know it’s out there somewhere waiting for you

Post # 8
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think the media has given brides the impression that the gates of heaven will open up when you find “the dress”. It’s not that simple. If you’ve tried on over 50 dresses it’s more likely that you may not know what you want – after awhile all the dresses started to look alike to me in the stores and the magazines, and I only tried on 10-15. Narrow your choices down (fabric, style, color and the season of your wedding along with the venue/theme your’re going for) and if you’re still confused get it made custom by a seamstress or a tailor.

Post # 9
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I agree! My wedding is 9 months away and it took me a year and a couple months to find my perfect dress! I suggest alfred angelo if you havent went yet! I also reccomend trying a many different styles, i ended up with a ‘ball gown’ and up to the moment that i picked my dress i avioded ball gowns like the plague because i was afaid that it would make my biggest areas look even BIGGER (i am a plus sized bride:) )


You have at least 3 more months before you will really be pushing it (for alterations and such) so just take a DEEP breath and enjoy the expeince. I promise you will find a gown that complements you perfectly and makes you feel beautiful! Dont give up Laughing

Post # 10
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I was the only engaged girl working at a bridal salon, so I have tried on more dresses then I care to admit. It took me almost 1.5 years to find that perfect dress, and two different cities, and countless salons.

Something I learned along my journey is never count out a dress style (trumpet, mermaid, a-line, ballgown). At the salon I worked for (1 designer) the dresses ran long in the torso (I am 5’8″ and can shop in petites for tops. I am ALL leg). After trying on all of these dresses there, I decided I did not want a mermaid at all. I felt the proportions were not correct for my body shape, and the mermaid made my hips look HUGE. I went to all of these salons after I left there and couldn’t find anything I liked, but my tastes were pulling me to a lace, trumpet style (I REFUSED to try on mermaids). None of the ones I tried did it for me, until I went to a salon for a trunk sale for Rivini and tried on this amazing lace mermaid. Online it didn’t look like a mermaid (I thought it was a trumpet) but it was way over my budget, and was still missing something. But the mermaid was back in the picture again. Once I put it back on the list, I found the one. I saw it online and knew that it was it. I order the dress with NO time to spare.

Hope this Helps!

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