Post # 17
Thank you!! Someone suggested that I check out Vows but the ones on their site looked pouffy so I wasn’t sure…your dress is GORGEOUS and definitely of a style that I could see myself in.
@MissMiaMarch: And thank you too 🙂 I love both of your dresses – I will check out Tadashi Shoji for sure, and I will also say that your second dress looks amazing. Seriously, “no ruffles” isn’t that hard to comprehend! Just the slip alone that one of the stores wanted me to put on almost made me walk out… “Ok, this slip is already about a foot wider than I would like the whole dress to be.” And I feel the same way, that I waited for my Prince Charming and it shouldn’t be any less exciting because I met him later than my friends met theirs. Most of the time I am just happy – it’s only in dress shops that I freak out and feel self-conscious.
@Gribberama: No one has actually asked me if my daughter is getting married yet, but I feel like they are wondering when I first walk in!! Your dress is gorgeous and I actually tried on something really similar today that I liked – again, I worried that it was too much, but it was soft and pretty and I think I looked good in it – I can tell you that you look AMAZING. I will be 43 on my wedding day too – guess 1971 was a good year 🙂
Thanks to everyone on this thread. I felt so awful this morning and I feel much better now.
Post # 18
I love your dress and you look stunning in it! The color and fabric are just beautiful. And dammit, you do NOT look anywhere near old enough to be a MOB!
Thank you so much! And your slip story totally made me smile…I had one consultant who actually pulled out a HOOP SKIRT and held it out for me to step into. I just started laughing and said “I don’t think this is going to end well!” (9000 yards of tulle later….)
I hope you find a wonderful dress that makes you feel amazing and fabulous! Please promise you’ll show us when you find it!
Post # 19
Thank you, YOU look gorgeous too!!!
@VanillaCoke: YES go to VOWS! I actually went there, just becuase I was in the area and got an appointment. I had already found my dress but hadn’t bought it yet so it was a super fun experience for me and just validated the one above in my eyes. Really.. a hoop skirt?? Can’t wait to see what you end up with!! And yes.. yay for 1971!
Post # 20
OK, you have both convinced me – I just made an appt at Vows for next week 🙂 I also had ordered three dresses from the Target bridal line to try on, because what the heck, if I like one of them and it’s $70/$100, then why not? They are arriving TODAY and I can’t wait to go home and check them out. But I am fully prepared to not be impressed, so I have the Vows appt in my back pocket.
Thanks to all of you, my quick appt at a dress shop in New Husband yesterday went better than my previous ones – my consultant was very nice and took my requirements to heart pretty well – Nothing was “the dress” but I started feeling less kooky when I was in the more “bridey” dresses (still not pouffy, but I was willing to try a little bit of beading and softer fabrics/satin and I found I kind of liked it).
@MissMiaMarch: HOOP SKIRT – wow. I would have laughed my @## off. As it was, the consultant yesterday said, without any prompting from me, “Why don’t you try this slip – I assume you don’t want a big crinoline…” One of the dresses (that I had pulled, because in the bag I couldn’t tell this) had HUGE ruffles on the skirt – as soon as she started to put it on me I said, “let me save you the effort – there’s no way I am going to like that one – the only purpose would be if you let people take photos [they don’t] so I could send a photo to my fiance for the humor factor.” She did laugh at that and said, “I was kiinnd of surprised you picked this one, but I guess it does look different in the bag.”
Thanks again, so much, to everyone. I will definitely let you know when I find something!
Post # 21
@VanillaCoke: I guess I was lucky. I was a 50 year old bride (48 when I shopped) I had a unique experience – I chose a strapless ballgown at Alfred Angelo. I got no negative comments about the dress at all, even from usually critical people. No one asked if my daughter was getting married. I did make sure to shop with great accessories (jewelry, shoes). Generally, I like strapless gowns anyway, so it was not a big step to wear one for the wedding.
Post # 22
Yes, keep us updated!
I loved dressed shopping even though I thought I would hate it. I walked into the salon, acknowledged my age, and then tried on whatever I wanted. I was ready with snappy comebacks to thoughtless remarks, but none were ever stated. The right consultant/shop should put you at ease & I was lucky enough to find one.
That being said, I did get one snarky remark from a wedding coordinator at an upscale venue I was considering. Something like, “Old brides like yourself don’t go for all the pomp & circumstance.” I waited until we were all back in the manager’s office (the coordinator’s boss). The manager asked if we were ready to book, I simply said I couldn’t get married here because the lightling is so obviously bad your coordinator keeps telling me how aged I look. I thanked them and left.
Life, looking good, celebrating is not just for 20-somethings. You will rock your dress & will know it when you find it.
Post # 23
@VanillaCoke: I am so sorry you feel that way….. If you want to look like a princess you should do that it’s your wedding, don’t let your age intimidate you… happiness and love looks good on us, no matter our age.
I never even went and tried on dresses because I had no desire to do so, I ordered my dress on line and had a friend of mine who is a designer evolve it by putting her touches on it….
Post # 24
You both look beautiful and so happy! And your dress is gorgeous!
I am trying to keep a good attitude 🙂 I am going to Vows on Tuesday after the recommendations on here, and for the first time in my various dress shopping trips, I asked a friend of mine to come and help. I feel bad asking but she is being really nice about it and I hope that having someone who knows me there to check things out will help me get over whatever hangups I’ve been experiencing. I want to move onto other parts of the planning process!
Post # 25
Have you considered a bridesmaid’s dress? They are typically available in white or ivory. And they are often simpler than a regular wedding dress, which sounds like what you want.
But if you want a regular wedding dress, that’s okay, too. I wore a regular wedding dress, even though I turned 56 on my wedding day.
Post # 27
I’m 51 and plan to wear this on my wedding day. The description calls it vintage, I fell in love with it not knowing that!! LOL My shopping experience was all positive – and I hope yours will be too!!! Heck, I feel 17 on the inside!!
Post # 29
What a gorgeous dress!!!
So I made it to Vows… and I found a dress. Actually, as I look through this thread, it looks a lot like yours, Gribberama!
I tried on a bunch including a Vera Wang that I liked, but even at a discount it was still $1200 and I decided it was more “red carpet” than wedding. Here’s the dress I bought:
What do you guys think??
I was very happy in the moment but I’m now second guessing myself and I keep thinking about the pink dress I tried on a couple of weeks ago – which is less than productive b/c the pink dress was at a Brides for Breast Cancer sale, and thus I cannot buy it now even if I wanted to spend more money. I found an online photo of the pink dress… can someone please tell me that the dress I bought is better than this pink one? (Nothing like asking a question to which there is only one desired answer, right?)
Thanks in advance for any talking down off the ledge that you might be willing to do. I swear I am normally pretty sane.
Post # 30
I think I was in the same dressing room there haha!
Congrats I am so happy you found a dress YAY!! I love it -of course, I AM partial because it does look like mine 🙂 I am not saying this to make you feel better, I like it more than the pink one. Personally, I like your color AND neckline better. The fabric also looks a little heavier/and more wrinkle resistant? It seems more elegant and is very slimming! If you want to incorporate some pink, maybe use it in the sash or jewlery 🙂
Post # 31
Ha, that is too funny re the dressing room. I do like the color and the fabric was really soft, which I liked – I kept wanting to pet it like it was a kitten or something 🙂 I also like that it is more simple and therefore I can have fun with accessories (we were trying sashes with it, which is why one of the photos has a sash) and go crazy with jewelry if I want to. The pink dress was a dupioni silk and it was very pretty – it had little crystals in the bodice, though, so I would be more limited with jewelry. It was also heavier overall due to lots of underskirt tulle action – I was carrying it around the hotel ballroom while hemming and hawing and I finally hung it back up because it just felt heavy to carry it.
And, really, ivory is way easier to coordinate with than pink, even a pale pink. And I also like the neckline better than the sweetheart on the pink.
So I am just going to be happy 🙂 My dress is a couple of sizes too big so I know once it is altered, it will look even better.
Thanks for the wise and kind words.