Post # 1
I posted yesterday, very excited about using my mom’s dress. We went shopping today, and I found some dresses that were very pretty and flattering. At the moment, the two favorites are
Essence of Australia D1181
And Winnie Couture 8325
Both of the dresses are beautiful, and I’ve seen many bees look beautiful in the Essence dress. My mother seems more than happy to shell out 2k for a dress. But I have a nagging feeling that both of them are just white strapless dresses.
So as I always do, I talked over with the fiance (with stock photos), and he came to the same conclusion as I did–that the dresses I liked in the store, while “sexy” (in a good way, his word), just weren’t that exciting. He likes the idea of wearing my mom’s dress, based on the pictures he’s seen.
I know that realistically, I won’t get as flattering a fit from my mom’s dress as I will if I buy new. At the moment, I’m not super worried. Aside from not being tall, I have great dress measurements, and I was pretty happy with the way that even the less-flattering stuff looked on me. I see my mom’s dress, and I think “wow, that’s a gorgeous dress,” and I just can’t imagine my own future kids feeling that way about a plain white strapless dress.
SO (sorry, super long-winded), have any of you chosen between a dress that is more flattering versus a dress that you just like more? Any regrets? Am I incredibly stupid to be focusing on something other than “dress that will look best”?
Post # 3
I don’t think you’re being stupid! You want a dress that has a memorable look, that you can look back and smile on.
Could you use the money you’re saving not buying a totally new dress, to get your mom’s dress altered in some way that would make it more flattering on you?
Post # 4
Have you considered shortening mom’s dress to make it a reception dress?
Personally I LOVE your mom’s dress. I think the skirt is a little poofy at the waist area for my tastes, but if you can have it altered it would be great.
Then again, I can totally understand wanting to find a dress that is the flattering silhouette from the start. You can could always buy a dress for the ceremony and make mom’s for the reception? I just LOVE the top of your mom’s dress.
ETA: I’m just personally over the whole strapless dress thing. As a wedding photographer, whenever I photograph a strapless dress I feel like I’m shooting the same dress over and over again. I’ve been loving the lace dresses, and dresses with straps, one shoulders, more details, etc.
Post # 5
I would definitely check into a seamstress w/your moms dress to see what those options look like. It’s your special day, when else will you be wearing an amazing dress like this? you want to be gorgeous, flattering, stunning, and amazing, and in a dress you love and never want to take off. While its a nice thought to want your future children to like your dress or ‘wow’ at your dress, there is a pretty significant chance that this may not happen, change of times, etc. so I wouldnt necessarily base it on that. I would go with what makes you feel bridal, what makes you feel special, also, w/either of the dresses, you can accessorize w/jewelry or sash and make your hair amazing and add a veil or a flower and that may actually give you the ‘wow’ factor. good luck!
Post # 6
@starfish0116: re: the strapless dress thing, that’s exactly how I feel. I understand why people wear them–they look beautiful on. They just all seem so similar… I love it when I browse through an album that isn’t a strapless dress.
@opalescent: Definitely getting the dress altered! The skirt needs to become at least an A-line, (ideally trumpet) for it to work out. As much as I love it, wearing it as-is is more bold than I want to go 🙂
@babbot: Good points! We have more appointments on Friday, so maybe I’ll find something special that isn’t such a project!
Post # 7
just looked at your other post. Love ur mums dress.. Looks more of a 50’s style to me.
Post some pics of u in it!
Post # 8
@mel801: I was just thinking I really should take picture of myself in it (and then photoshop in the alterations I want…). Pics asap (which might be a while, since I’m not sure Thanksgiving evening dress pictures are what I want!)
Post # 9
If you take your mom’s dress to a seamstress, you should be able to get a proper fit. Which means it should flatter you unless the cut is just simply all wrong for your body type.
Post # 10
@drummerbride: That’s what I was thinking. I imagine it won’t be an ideal cut, but I can’t imagine that the dress won’t be flattering if I re-do the skirt (A-line or trumpet, ideally). It’s definitely not all wrong!
Post # 11
You totally have to go with what speaks to you. The last thing you want is any regrets at your own wedding.
It’s my personal opinion that your mom’s dress is super classy and really has stood the test of time… it honestly doesn’t have much of a “dated” look to it and yet it’s unique enough to not look like every other dress that’s popular right now. The dresses above are pretty, but compared to your mom’s dress, they look so average. That’s just my opinion, though!
Imagine how you want to feel on your wedding day. Do you want to feel sexy? Trendy? Classic? Sentimental? Is it important to you to have that nod to your mom? Or would you rather branch out on your own and wear something totally different? Maybe it’ll help to think of this: would you regret it more by not buying a new dress with the lines you want, or would you regret it more if you weren’t wearing your mom’s dress? Only you can say which emotion speaks to you more, and how much that sentimental value is worth. =o) Good luck, and can’t wait to see pics no matter what you choose!
Post # 12
I love your mothers dress. Check out Allure if you want dresses with character. They have gorgeous lace keyhole back dresses that are stunning.
Post # 13
@MadameTussaud: “The dresses above are pretty, but compared to your mom’s dress, they look so average.”
That sums up my feelings pretty well–they’re great dresses, but nothing unique or exciting. I probably wouldn’t regret wearing a new dress, but I’m not sure I’d be as excited about it.
Post # 14
Wear your mom’s dress!!! It’s GORGEOUS. Get it altered to fit you perfectly (they can do it I swear) and rock it. It’s so much more awesome than those dresses!!
Post # 15
Another vote for altering your mother’s dress. You’ll be amazed at what a really talented seamstress can do and I think it would be so much more meaningful.
Post # 16
With good alterations, I think your mom’s dress will fit you perect! Don’t give up on it!