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Wannabee
So I bought my dress before I had finalized a venue, but thought that it would be a larger wedding. Now we’ve decided that it will be a small (50-ish guests) wedding where ceremony and reception will be held at a fancy restaurant (decor is neutral colored and modern). I love my dress, but now worry that it would be too fancy for what we’ve decided to do. What do you think? It’s the Maggie Soterro Haven in ivory (pictured in blush pink). I will still walk down an aisle – the restaurant will set up the chairs in theatre style in the dining room, then reset it for the lunch during cocktail hour in another room.

The alternative, I suppose, would be to try to sell the “rights” to this dress (doesn’t come in until August) and pick up a white/ivory floor length dress. Hopefully because the Haven is a 2014 Spring collection, it’ll be easy to sell… Was thinking an alternate dress could be something like this:

Thoughts? Advice? Help appreciated!!
Post # 2

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Blushing bee
brunch, lunch or dinner- i think every bride has the right to wear a gown on her day! you only get to dress the part once (hopefully
), do you think you would regret not wearing the gown?
Post # 3

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Blushing bee
monkeyseemonkeydo: I don’t think it’s too fancy! I am having a smallish brunch wedding and this is my dress.
Post # 4

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Busy bee
No way. It’s only your wedding day once! Take full advantage and enjoy everything every other bride does. It’s a beautiful dress!
Post # 5

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Honey Beekeeper
The bride can never be overdressed.
Post # 6

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Bumble Beekeeper
When you’re the bride I don’t believe that a dress can be too fancy! It’s beautiful and I think it will work fine with a lunch wedding.
Post # 7

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Buzzing bee
Bride can wear what she wants and never look out of place. You’ll regret not going with the one you love.
Post # 8

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Bumble bee
monkeyseemonkeydo: You only get to do this once, wear the dress!
Post # 9

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Sugar bee
i think i accidentally voted yes, but i don’t think it’s too fancy. you’re the bride and it’s your wedding day- if anyone gets to be fancy, it’s you!
beautiful dress, by the way 🙂
Post # 10

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Bumble bee
You look stunning, and I think it is perfect for a lunch wedding. I would accessorize very simply to keep the look understated, stud earrings and a thin bracelet and leave the neck bare. I would opt for a birdcage veil or a hair comb instead of a long veil.
Post # 11

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Busy bee
I think you should stick with your first dress, it looks amazing!
Post # 12

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Busy bee
What other time would you get to wear a wedding dress?? Pick the dress you love and go for it! I have never ever seen a bride and thought “gee she really overdid it for her wedding.”
Post # 13

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Wannabee
Wow, thanks Bees, especially for the super speedy responses! My first time posting here though I’ve lurked for a while. Wish I posted earlier so I wouldn’t have agonized over this for days!
Post # 14

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Sugar bee
I don’t think it’s too fancy at all. The last thing anyone is going to think, either to themselves or out loud, is “that bride’s dress is a little too fancy for this wedding!” Trust me!
Post # 15

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Helper bee
We’re doing a 45ish person afternoon tea and I have a fancy dress way beyond what you’d see at a tea. Considering it’s your wedding day, I think you get away with that even if your reception was at a McDonalds.