Post # 1
I want a wedding with a bonfire. I’m looking at a farm for a venue. So… obviously a country type theme for my wedding.
But… the dress I fell in love with is quite different from that theme.
I hate how the dress looks in the model picture and I know it’s not the best pic of me trying it on. It was a small sample and I’m not a small girl, lol.
The train on this dress is long… a cathedral train. Everything about this dress just screams super formal. But I love it.
Is it totally wrong for my wedding? Is there any way to make this fit my wedding? Should I just give up on it and keep looking at more dresses?
Post # 3
If you change the train and/or bustle it I think it can totally work. Also, if you keep other things informal (shoes, jewelry) it will look fabulous. I don’t think brides can be “too formal.” This dress is really pretty. I was expecting something REALLLLY formal.
Post # 4
I think the detailing of the dress really fights with the theme, but the silhouette of the dress does not, if that makes sense. The scrollwork makes me think “castle”, not “rustic”. Were there any dresses in that super-flattering shape that had less scroll-work on them?
Post # 5
I think formal dresses in informal venues are becoming more and more common and acceptable. I will be doing it! You look great in the dress. I think you could make it fit with your venue by adding antiquey/rustic bracelets, and using a less blingy veil than the model has.
Post # 6
hmm…… maybe i could change up the theme?
maybe a cinderella rags to riches thing? somehow merge rustic with royal?
Post # 7
Everyone bustles their train after the ceremony, so I don’t think that’s even an issue. Maybe it’s a little fancy, but everyone would be disappointed if you had a “casual” dress. If this is the dress you love, go for it.
Post # 8
I definately think the two do not match, but hey it is your wedding so who cares? Make your own rules!
Post # 9
I think you can definitely pull this off!
You might consider loping off the train though – my train was filthy and we only did a little outdoor time!
Post # 10
I personally think it’s too much beading for the type of theme that you are going for. Also, if you went for a fabric that was not as heavy, it would help. Maybe something that’s chiffon, organza, or tulle.
Post # 11
I think that you should wear whatever dress you want! I don’t understand why the dress has to match the venue. If it is THE dress, then you should be able to wear it. Also- you could always bustle it. Don’t do your jewelry too formal, put some cowgirl boots on underneath your dress, and it will be unique and cute! I’ve seen a lot of brides wear boots underneath their dresses and I think it’s adorable.
Post # 12
I totally think it can work. I have never believed in the whole theme thing. Its your wedding day and you should wear whatever dress you want. Its your day to look as “fancy” as you want to!
P.S. That model looks like a porcelain doll. She doesn’t look real and she freaks me out.
Post # 13
someone posted in another post a while back that you cant be over dressed for your own wedding. i agree. u love it. get it.
Post # 14
I’m wearing a ballgown to my rustic/farm wedding and I have slowly learned that not every thing has to match your theme!
If you love it – get it! No one is going to think “oh, it’s too formal.” They’re going to think, “oh, she looks beautiful!”
Post # 15
This is such a supportive place and at least I know you all know where I am coming from. I think only other brides could have waved my fears away enough to be happy. Thanks.
ETA: Also thanks for all the suggestions to make it a little more quirky and fitting to my wedding… the cowboy boots, rustic jewelry, etc.
Post # 16
I would wear whatever gown I wanted as long as I am comfy. I think your gown looks fine.