Post # 1
So, im not yet engaged, and a new bee who is not so good at being patient. To keep myself from driving SO insane and bugging him about the GORGEOUS ring we picked out together and put on Layaway until black friday, ive been looking at dresses. BIG PROBLEM, I am in love (although Ive never tried it on) with a dress I helped my best friend pick out for her wedding last year from DB. Do I dare try it on if shes potentially in my wedding party? I feel so guilty for lusting after “Her Dress” any advice??
Post # 3
S oyour friend owns this dress and will be wearing it for her wedding? I think you should talk to her about it! Yes the dress will look different on everyone and accessorized differently, but I would still be kinda choked if someone I was that close to bought the same dress.
Post # 4
@Pinkmoon: I love my friend to death, and i totally understand how she might feel. on the other hand she is in korea now, and will be in with the peace corps and very possibly wont be in attendance at all, which kills me. on the other hand i cant help but feel that she wore my dress as i was the one who found it and showed it to her after she asked for my help. Am i a horrible person? lol i sound so bitchy…
Post # 6
im really self concious of old scars on my back, and i wanted some element of a vintage feel while still (somewhat) accentuating my hourglass shape.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
There will be other dresses that are coming out each season and by the time you get married or get close to buying a dress you’ll find a different one. TRUST ME, as someone who bought their dress early because 1. I was impatient and 2. I didn’t want this dress to be discontinued and couldn’t live without it I now have dress regret. I love the dress I bought but it no longer fits my wedding style/feel and spent $$ on a dress I don’t want to wear now.
Talk to her about it and keep the dress in mind when its soon enough to actually purchase your dress but also keep an open mind that you’ll find something else just as amazing if not more that is YOUR dress.
Post # 8
There are so many dresses out there, why do this? You have plenty of time to shop & enjoy the process and I’m sure you’ll find something you love more.
Post # 9
If you want to keep your friendship intact, don’t go there honey…
Post # 10
It would bother me if one of my best friends went and bought my exact same wedding dress, whether I was actually at the wedding or not.
If you love that particular dress, then use it as an inspiration to find a dress that’s all your own.
Post # 11
Note: if you are concerned with scars on your back I would get a dress in any shape that works for you, and then add a lace bolero to it if the dress does is strapless and doesn’t have back coverage. Case in point this trumpet fit dress with bolero: http://www.jlmcouture.com/Jim-Hjelm/Bridal/Additional/Style-8857
OR this a line lace dress with bolero: http://www.onewed.com/photos/show/romantic-full-a-line-pronovias-wedding-dress-with-lace-bolero
Post # 12
You might hate the dress once you try it on. Either way, I wouldn’t.
Post # 13
I personally would not wear the same dress as your friend… but part of me says that because I think you can find a much better dress!
I’m personally pretty anti-David’s Bridal… Just wait till you get a chance to try on other dresses at a real boutique! You’ll be blown away by how much more comfortable and how much more supportive other dresses are in comparison to DB. David’s had me in a longline corset with slips and layers upon layers underneath. The result was uncomfortable and hot and stuffy, but I thought “well, I guess this is what is required for wedding gowns!” That is, until I went to a real boutique and tried on other dresses!!
I ended up getting a Maggie Sottero gown, and I won’t need ANY bra at all because her dresses are soo supportive and beautifully designed (and I’m a 38DDD so no bra for me is pretty amazing! Haha).
I would try searching for “lace back” or “illusion back” gowns… OR, you could go with any kind of strapless (so you’re not limiting yourself!) and look for a beautiful Lace Bolero to go with it.
Check out this gorgeous dress by Casablanca… Lace back, plus the train is infinitely more beautiful, PLUS I can guarantee it will feel more comfortable than any DB dress.
Good luck to you!! You’re going to LOVE dress shopping, so don’t limit yourself before you even get a chance to start!
Post # 14
@lovelove1028: i cant believe you found a dress to support without a bra! being the same size as you, i know what that entails. unfortunatey in my area theres not really any botiques to speak of… :/
Post # 15
OP, you’re not even engaged yet.. I wouldn’t be worried about this now. Wait until you’re 8-12 months out from a wedding date before you even think about dresses and make sure you’ve booked your venue and picked a theme, first.
Post # 16
You have plenty of time! Do NOT settle for a David’s Bridal dress… Too many other better dresses out there. Even if you have to travel, I highly recommend checking out a real boutique… SO worth it!