(Closed) Dress Uncertainty – Curious About Your Stories

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Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

denaedae:  Well, I’m not indecisive, so my opinion probably doesn’t matter. I knew my dress was the one when I saw it. However, I continued to dress shop so that I didn’t have any dress regrets. I kept thinking about the dress that I loved and comparing every single dress I tried on to “the one.” I set a deadline of when I needed to order the dress for it to arrive in time. When the deadline came around, I just picked the dress I knew was the one. 

And FYI – I didn’t have tears or any sort of special butterflies in my stomach moment. I saw my dress on a mannequin in the store window, pointed to it, and said, “that’s the one.” I was very nonchalant about it. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I had dress regret almost the moment I bought my first dress. I liked it, but I never had a moment of absolute certaintly about it. It was more that it was a pretty dress, looked nice, and I was able to get it for a steal.

After buying it, I continued to look at dresses…. which everyone says not to do, but I was unhappy with my dress and I think looking confirmed that. There was one dress that I had considered for a while. I didn’t try it on at the store, because they had no sample in my size. The price of that dress was slowly dropping into my price range and I kept going back to it. I finally decided it was the one… and it was discontinued and sold out. Of course, then I was REALLY sure it was the one. I searched high and low and finally found it. Luckily another bride had dress regret 🙂 I’m impatiently awaiting its arrival!

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I just bought my dress in Saturday and didn’t have any teary, overwhelming moment or anything like that.  I had tried it before, wasn’t 100%, went away, thought about it and what I wanted in a dress, looked at lots of real brides online wearing it and thought about how I would style it and decided to go for it after trying it again.  I didn’t want to spend every Saturday for the next 3 months driving around to bridal appointments, trying on tons of dresses, being more indecisive and I loved this one, it’s super flattering, very simple and elegant but totally classic.  I feel like in 20 years I will still love it whereas I thought a lot of the other dresses could get dated.  I also thought about SO and his potential reaction and I know he will love this dress.  I’m not going to look at any more dresses and am moving on to the next item in wedding planning!

BUT I’m super logical and sensible.  I never really cry over anything so I wasn’t going to start over a dress! 🙂

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

denaedae:  I could have written this! 

I am experiencing this same thing (only I haven’t actually purchased the dress yet). Honestly, I know myself, and I may NEVER find a “THE DRESS,” I’m too indecisive.

I like it, it’s pretty, it’s under budget, it “fits” with everything… I think it’s the right choice.

I’m trying to realize there’s just too much pressure to find this perfect dress that may not exist. It’s hard though, huh?

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’m like you- average build and body shape, size 6. I tried on several dresses that looked awesome on me that I really loved, but in the end it came down to budget, venue (the Vera Wang White ball gown was just too much dress for my intimate outdoor ceremony and lunch reception), and construction quality(I loved two David’s Bridal dresses, but the Essense of Australia dress I bought still came in under budget  and was nicer and more structured). 

 

I don’t feel like there is that one special dress for me. Instead, I have several special dresses that would all work well in different situations. I just chose the dress that makes the most sense for my budget, venue, ceremony size, and ceremony time. 

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Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

denaedae:  “More tears ensued, then measuring, paperwork, and celebratory wine.” Celebratory wine is probably what sold my dress! I needed time to think and had a glass of wine with lunch next door to the bridal botique, started crying reviewing pictures with my sister and bestie, and went back to buy it before we headed home. I had TERRIBLE anxiety about my dress within a few days, and ended up calling around to find a store closer to home that carried it to try it on again since I had purchased it at a trunk show and my salon didn’t always carry it. I ended up asking my fiance’s mom and sister to come take a look to see what they thought my fiance would think and they loved it. It definitely helped put my mind at ease, and the 3rd and final time I tried it on I felt like it was an old friend. Sure I think that if I had doubled my budget I’d have found something more amazing, but this dress is awesome and lets me afford tons more fun stuff for the wedding so it’s THE dress for me! 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I’m currently dealing with this now. Like you, my mom drove 3 hours to come dress shopping with me. It was a nice little trip for us! We got up early and hit 3 dress shops and were having a good time seeing what I liked and trying on different styles. Again like you Im tall and somewhat thin and most styles were flattering. We made one last late appoint and I asked my mom if she would care if my Mother-In-Law came along as she has 4 sons and has never had that kind of experience. It was horrible. She was aggresive, pushy and actually said “if you don’t buy that dress, I will dye it and wear it to your wedding”. I had a massive panic attack and just blurted out “sure” when the consultant asked if this was my dress. Oh man this was a week ago. I’m still having dress regret as it is completely not what I thought I would get. Ive posted the dress on here and the bees have been nothing but supportive and i’m starting to feel better about it. The experience for me was horrible and I still don’t love my dress. I’m hoping after alterations (adding a cap sleeve) and adding my headpiece will make it what i’d envisioned. image5

Post # 9
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226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I would describe my dress as a slow-to-love story. Lol I knew I wanted to buy a dress at the boutique where bought my dress. I had a certain style that I wanted and got an almost completely different dress. I did cry when I put it on for the second time at the shop, but I’m not sure if it was because “this was the dress” or because I’m so excited to marry my fiancé lol. There was wine, a discount and my whole party loved everything about it except for the fit. When I started signing for the purchase the consultant told me they had a no return policy, so that’s when the anxiety started! I literally tried my dress on 9 times since I’ve bought it in a 3 week timeframe. After a talk with an alterations lady, I am relieved because she can alter it to make the fit perfect! I had thought about selling it, but now i am in love with my dress and can’t imagine not wearing it!

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Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

 jesais:  

What an utter pain that your Future Mother-In-Law tainted the experience . She was probably self conscious and even a bit alienated  – not that   I’m trying to excuse anything . At least what she said was a compliment ( I guess? ) .

Is there  any chance you could slip back to the shop on your own  or with one friend and try it on one  last time?

Just for the record I think it is a beautiful dress and you look great in it . When the alterations are done and the whole dress is lifted a bit so as not to come so low on your body I think it will look amazing . Are you absolutely set on cap sleeves ? I can’t quite see how they would enhance that dress,  and you have lovely smooth arms and shoulders.   

Post # 12
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1800 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think the problem is that dresses are everywhere and there is so much choice.  You just need to make a decision and stick to it.  There will always be something else out there that you love.  Make a choice & stop looking! You will feel so much better when you do xx

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