Dress unflattering? Help?

posted 9 months ago in Dress
Post # 2
1725 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Lauren2 :  Hey! Your dress is lovely and you look beautiful in it! The sleeves, I think, would be perfect on this dress as well!

Post # 3
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I LOVE the back of your dress. It is BEAUTIFUL. 

So, I had really really bad dress regret, much like yourself. I totally feel for you. I was so miserable and obsessing. I also could not afford a new dress. (plus a friends mom helped pay for it and I’d feel awful getting a new dress anyways). 

Take deep breaths. It will be OKAY. I am happy to report, that I now love my dress.

I think adding those sleeves would look lovely, particularly with your hair up. You can always get a little bit of that type of material and pin the sleeve on to see if you like it and if it is comfortable. 

I’m all about comfort. Do whatever makes you feel beautiful and comfortable

(Please don’t change the back though, it is stunning on you!)

Post # 4
343 posts
Helper bee

I think this looks great on you! Maybe consider a small flutter sleeve – I find that quite flattering on the arms. I would also say that the waist in the front should be moved up a touch so it accentuates your thinnest part – a good seamstress should be able to help. 


Post # 5
3666 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Lauren2 :  leave it as-is. sleeves have NEVER made anyone’s arms look better…seriously, they tend to make arms look wider and fatter, not skinnier by covering them up (hence why sleeveless dresses are so popular). the only time sleeves look good is on women with very narrow shoulders and very slight arms (as the sleeves help to visually broaden the shoulders and widen the arms). you look beautiful already.

Post # 6
1638 posts
Bumble bee

I am also self conscious about my upper arms, but I generally find that the only sleeves that really “hide” it are going to be loose, fluttery ones that go down to the elbow. Bridal short sleeves tend to sort of just hit at the thickest part, and it makes it look worse on most people. 

Post # 7
1754 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I personally feel like short sleeves can be highly unflattering. So I think you should nix that idea and go with the dress how it is! Unless you wanted to add elbow sleeves or long. I find that 3/4 sleeves are most flattering on me.

Post # 8
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I think your dress is absolutely gorgeous and looks wonderful on you! The color, the lace, the cut, the train — all very flattering! It’s easy to get fixated on the things that bug us and become so critical, but know that anyone who sees you in that dress is going to think, “Wow.” If no matter what anyone says, you’re still hating it, I agree that the only sleeve option that would work is a sheer tulle flutter sleeve that hits you a few inches above your elbow. But I say take a deep breath, love yourself, and believe me when I say it’s gorgeous and so are you!

Post # 9
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

Adding sleeves with the similar lace detail would be cute!!

Post # 10
676 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I love cap sleeves!! You could definitely add some lace similar to the bodice to create a sleeve. Note how in the picture you posted, the model’s sleeve is wider than her arm. You’ll want to do the same to get the effect. 

Perhaps you might add also consider beading that hangs down vertically from your sleeves? Or add sheer white tulle that attaches at the armpit area, and wraps around each arm? It would go over the lace off-shoulder sleeves, but you’d ideally choose a tulle that lets it show through…. sort of like this: http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_galina-tulle-aline-wedding-dress-with-swag-sleeves-wg3779



Beaded examples: https://www.onewed.com/photos/sheer-beaded-wedding-dress-top-with-flutter-sleeves-151804/


kind of dramatic, but you get the idea: https://i.weddingomania.com/2017/05/18-embellished-cap-sleeves-with-beads-and-threads-hanging.jpg



Post # 11
349 posts
Helper bee

I think it looks good! I agree with PPs in that sleeves usually highlight arms more

Post # 12
2263 posts
Buzzing bee


sdxz554  hit the nail on the head. Raising the waist would make a huge difference and make you feel much more confident.

Post # 13
1884 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’ll disagree with pps and say I think sleeves can be beautiful and flattering,  even if the arms arent super skinny. 

But you and your dress are truly beautiful as is. I’d only get sleeves if I wanted the look and not to cover up a perceived flaw. 

Post # 14
3739 posts
Sugar bee

I would describe that as a “boat” neckline. I actually think it looks lovely. I think your sleeve idea could work too but please be ressured that your dress is beautiful and I think you look great in it. Another option for arm coverage might be a chiffon wrap.

Post # 15
499 posts
Helper bee

You honestly look beautiful in the dress – it really suits you and is such a pretty dress! I think it is very flattering and fits you perfectly!!! 💗

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