Dress unflattering? Help?

posted 9 months ago in Dress
Post # 16
495 posts
Helper bee

If it would make you feel better about yourself, add the sleeves. I think they would be very cute!

Post # 17
53 posts
Worker bee

It’s a gorgeous dress, well done. The back detail is stunning!

Bodice: Lifting the waist line a touch is a great idea. Take a strip of sample lace and wrap a mid-size belt to see how that looks as an option as well.

Have you considered altering the lining layer of your bodice into a v-neck? This could create that flattering shape you’re after through the bodice’s center line, and it would leave your existing boat neckline as dainty see-through lace. You could pin some sample fabric into a makeshift bodice to see how it looks.

Sleeves: We agree that cap sleeves accentute arm width, but a mid-bicep flutter can be flattering on all body shapes. Perhaps take a sample piece of lace and pin it to your dress shoulders at different lengths to see how it looks and feels. Remember to snap some photos to look back on later when you’re overwhelmed with choices!

Skirt: Try a layer or two of tulle under the skirt for a waist-down lift in volume.. see if that gives you the ‘pretty’ feeling you’re after.

You have chosen a gorgeous dress, best of luck making it your own!

Post # 19
790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

Lauren2 :  I think it looks great on you and leaving the sleeves the way it is would work and actually changing the sleeves look nice as well. It’s up to you in regards to which option makes you comfortable.

Post # 20
1699 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I think it’s beautiful and that sleeves would be a really nice touch.

Post # 21
5036 posts
Bee Keeper

I think a V neck would look better, but if you are uncomfortable with cleavage then I would leave it as is. The only other thing I might do in alterations is move the waist up. It looks like its sitting a bit lower than your natural waist; if you move it up to your natural waist it will nip you in a bit more.

Post # 22
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Lauren2 :  I think this dress is very flattering on you as is. The subtle dip in the neckline looks so elegant and romantic, and the back is absolutely stunning! 

That being said, if you really feel self-concious about your arms, then get sleeves. I think sleeves would look fine added to this dress. Just be mindful, though, that depending on the fabric and type of sleeve you add that it may inhibit your arm movement in the dress. Lace cap sleeves may mean no raising the roof on the dance floor…

Post # 23
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Lauren2 :  Don’t know about the sparkly belt, but if you’re looking for different shapewear I would highly recommend the one from torrid that has the shorts. I’ve work it several times now, once for 16 hours; it’s amazing. It stays in place and the material is very breathable. It compresses pretty well around the tummy area but is more of a smoother than a tucker for the other areas, which is great because then you don’t end up with a tucked torso with the upper back or thigh version of muffin top. 

Post # 24
7205 posts
Busy Beekeeper


Lauren2 :  

What a lovely dress, beautiful back detail and lace overlay . I like  the boat/bateau neckline  , and I  disagree with the blanket  statement that all sleeves make arms look worse . I think it depend entirely on where they cut across.

With your dress,  I think having the sleeves of the existing neckline made more off the shoulder would be perfect . As a pp said, having the widest  part of the sleeves wider –  or wider  looking –  than your arms is the way to go.

Personally I  really dislike flutter sleeves on anyone over about 10 and think they would add a girlish  touch  to the dress that would <em style=”background-color: transparent; color: #000000; font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 11px; min-height: 0px;”>not enhance it .  A narrow understated belt, maybe pearl ?  

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