(Closed) DressANGER!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

If you can afford it and you love the dress, I say buy it! You’ve already compromised a lot for him. I would just tell him that you’re buying it and that’s that.

Post # 4
Member
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m confused.  Is he just teasing you about how much it costs, or is he flat out saying “You can’t have that”?

For what it’s worth, I think it’s just a guy thing.  Lots of men have no trouble spending money on toys that they want (especially as all his sports memorabillia will be there for a long time), but can’t understand why women want to spend so much on a single item of clothing (that you likely won’t rewear).

ETA: I’d get the dress. 

Post # 5
Member
655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@cb336:  That’s very true. My dress only cost $1000 and my Fiance made a big deal out of it. But then he goes and buys a Hugo Boss suit for the wedding! Pot calling kettle black?

Post # 6
Member
986 posts
Busy bee

@babecake: Second that. If you can afford it and you’ve already compromised, I would get it.

Post # 8
Member
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It just depends on what you can afford. For me, I would NEVER have even tried on that dress. But it’s all relative – it sounds like you’re someone who purchases extremely expensive clothing sometimes, so this doesn’t seem like it would be a big dent.

Post # 9
Member
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@JacallyL:  Gosh…I would remind him that you have compromised on everything.  And tally up all that savings and tell him exactly how much you will not spend since he obviously thinks it’s a waste of money.  And then tell him that you only want ONE material thing on your wedding/elopement and that he should not be giving you hassles over that.  Yes, that is a lot of money, but you have compromised on so much, so he should be understanding.

Post # 10
Member
8453 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think the thing is for most guys, is that you’re wearing the dress once.  When guys buy gadgets or toys or, in your case, sports memoribilia, they rationalize it with the fact that they are getting more than one use out of it.  I had a hard time spending $900 on my dress. It was only after my seamstress told me she could convert the dress to something shorter after the wedding, that I felt comfortable with the purchase. 

I’m not saying you’re wrong or don’t get the dress, just trying to show you his perspective.  In the end, it’s your money, and if it doesn’t set you back financially, get the dress you want.  Who cares if he teases you.

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