(Closed) Dress/body regret: how did you get over it?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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2580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

For issue number 1, I can totally relate. My dress is a Mori Lee Blu 4524 and it’s also insanely popular…the girl with an alterations appointment before me even had the same dress! Just try to remember that dresses are usually extremely popular because they are very flattering on a lot of people and different shapes. I doubt any guests would notice if they had ever seen the dress before–they will just think you look like a beautiful bride!

When you only have one photo to go on, it’s easy to overanalyze it, but I agree with the PP who said it may be the angle of the photo or the way you’re standing.  I went through the same thing feeling like the sample looked better on me than my actual dress. I think it’s a natural place to project wedding stress, fears, and personal insecurities and a lot of us go through it.

If something in particular is really bothering you, talk to your alterations person and see if it’s fixable. I think you look great, though, and that the dress gives you a great figure!

Post # 18
Hostess
11164 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Yes, Adorae is by far one of the most popular dresses lately and I have already been to two (soon to be three) weddings where the bride wore this dress…but there is a reason for that. It is an amazing dress that looks good on just about everyone so what isn’t to love and adore?

I can relate to your body issues, that is the EXACT reason why I didn’t choose Adorae despite everyone telling me I look amazing. I am a size 12 (14 in bridal) so we are about the same. It is frustrating and no matter what I or any bees say it is you that must realize how stunning you look (and you do for the matter look fantastic).

I agree with the PP that the bust area looks a bit big so perhaps take that in and around your upper stomach area to make it lay flatter. Other than that you look stunning!

Post # 19
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453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

As someone who’s also had insecurities as a result of trying on dresses, your post had to make me step back and think about how critical I’ve been of myself too.  So thanks!  🙂  Seriously, when I first saw your pictures, I thought it was someone else trying to show you how good the Adorae can look.  Maybe the bust does need to be taken in, but that’s minor.  You’re going to look great.  And I have to agree with another poster, I had never heard of the Adorae until I started dress shopping and I have never seen a bride in a similar dress.

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

wow! you look great, not top heavy AT ALL!  If you dont think the top fits you right, have it altered maybe? A good seamstress should be able to help!

I tried this dress on and really liked it, but it really did make me look top heavy.  YOU look great! I look like a popsicle! ugh! Embarassed

 

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That dress is almost as gorgeous as you are!  I’d go for the size 12, and have the top part altered- it looks like it’s not quite as form-fitting as it should be on you.

You look stunning. I agree with the poster who says if you radiate how happy you are, it will warm everyone at your wedding!

 

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it looks great on you!  I do agree that the size 12 boob area looks a bit loose on you but I don’t see why they can’t just take that area in a bit.

Post # 23
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49 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Alterations can me magical! I ordered a dress online and it fit horribly, a trip to a highly recommended seamstress (for WAY less than a bridal store would have charged) and wallah my dress fits like a glove and makes me feel great. So if your worried about the price of the alterations ask around for an experienced seamstress, it seems like you just need a tiny change in the top. Your moh is right too so just keep the positive/loving vibes up and you’ll feel great!

Post # 24
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3218 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I wanted to agree that people not in-the-know about weddings will have no clue that this dress is so popular.  even my closest girlfriends don’t know dress names!  plus, in a few years you won’t know who wore what dress, you’ll just have wonderful wedding photos!

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You look gorgeous in that dress!  The top should definitely be taken in but other than that it looks amazing!  If you really do have a problem with the sash, there is another solution:  Find a larger sash and cover it.  If you don’t want the bow in the back you could always have it sewn on.  I actually tried that dress on and loved it, but I wanted poofy so it just wasn’t me.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

aww..this dress looks great on you. I tried it on but it really didn’t look as good on me as it did on you. yes, it’s a popular dress, but hell…why do you think it is? it’s gorgeous! Everyone wants so badly for me to get a dress like this one. I chose something else and felt weird after finding almost no bees who got my dress even though it was fall 2011…and then finding out it was discontinued. I defiently had second thoughts about the dress, but also every descision I’ve made throughout my wedding. Just the other day I found a video posted by the knot of the fall 2011 dress highlights and my dress was one of them featured. It looked so dead and lifeless on that boney model…which made me feel much better. I’m getting more and more excited about wearing it for the wedding each day. I think it’s normal to feel a scared about your dress. It is after all the most important thing we will ever wear…ever…and when we find it, it almost never happens how we think it will. I didn’t cry when I got my dress. I did get slightly weepy in the dressing room but I’m not sure if it was the dress or the song that was playing over the sound system…i just got emotional for a second. I still tossed and turned over wether I made the right descion.

I don’t think you look top heavy…I think the top could fit you better and maybe it needs some adjusting. Good luck. I hope you fall back in love with your dress. She’s lovely!

Post # 27
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1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think you look beautiful!  I do agree that the top looks a bit big on the size 12.  It looks like it can be corrected with alterations, though!  Otherwise, I think you’re being too hard on yourself– you look great! 

Post # 28
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4012 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Girl, youre crazy. You look STUNNING in the dress! I dont care if 2,478,389,985 people have it, you look golden!! Its worth a little alterations costs to tighten the bodice though so you wont be so critical of yourself when the photos come back!

Post # 29
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2583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It looks like the cup area needs to be pulled in, but otherwise I think you look stunning! I wish I had your figure. I’m not seeing any fat waist at all.

Post # 30
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1991 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think the best way to stop dress regret is to STOP looking at any other dresses at all (I even stopped watching say yes to the dres, which I’ve watched for years, to avoid this) and just think about all of the reasons you liked it in the first place.  And by the way, i think it is a beautiful dress, and if your family loved it on you then there way obviously a reason.  They won’t let you walk down that aisle looking frumpy.

Post # 31
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1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It flattes you. If it is making you feel so bad then you should spend the money on the alterations IMO. I spent way too much money on my dress and i plan to spend more on alterations. It does give you an hour glass figure;)

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