(Closed) Dresses! Did you go simple or all-out?

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Post # 63
4134 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Aww thanks!

Post # 65
6 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

@futuremrs1986: I think it’s all about which dress you feel the most beautiful in! Trying on different types of dresses is critical, even some that don’t appeal to you on the hanger or online, because you never really know what they will look like on your body. Some may surprise you. πŸ™‚ As for “all out” gowns (or any gown, really), IMO, it doesn’t matter how tall/short/petite/non-petite you are if you feel gorgeous and own it.

I always knew deep down that I would end up in a drama-rama dress because that’s my usual style (I can never just buy two-inch heels, they have to be six-inch heels, etc). But I tried on quite a few that qualified as understated and elegant. They were gorgeous, they fit well, and my friends gushed, but I actually felt uncomfortable and knew I would regret not getting something a little over the top.

However, I swore up and down I would NEVER (!!!!!) wear a ballgown or a corset lace-up back. And then, surprise, this weekend I purchased a dramatic, dreamy drop-waist ballgown with a lace-up back. To quote the salon owner, “Darling, don’t be afraid to be fabulous.”

@cemetree:We are dress twins! You looked radiant. I would love to see more pictures!

Post # 66
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I decided to go all out because, like someone said before, it’s the type of dress that I will only wear once in a lifetime πŸ˜€

Post # 67
1044 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@futuremrs1986:  what’s that quote from Apple/Steve Jobs? “Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication” I think it is.

I had the EXACT same feelings as you!!! I wanted a wow dress but a lot of the typical dresses you expect wow from did feel like costumes to me being as small as we are (i’m 5’4″ 00 street size). At the same time, the LAST thing i wanted was to look ordinary, average, or worst of all boring.

i felt that some of the more intricate, dramatic dresses i found so beautiful just overpowered me completely. I just couldn’t pull it off! So, out of that was born my goal of achieving “WOW” without having to use a ton of detail or embellsiments or whatnot. This is what I ended up with.

In this picture, it is still not finished in that it still needs to be shortened in the front, so the skirt isnt falling quite right. It’s also still pinned up at the sides because it needs to be taken in still more. It’s also in need of a good steam. I included a runway model pic so you can see what the skirt will actually look like once it’s finished (this week!!).


and the runway:

It’s unique in that I rarely ever see another bride in it or even anything quite like it, and that it embodies bothe chic and elegant but with a bit of a punch in the dramatic, tailored lines and tiered skirt in the back. I had the tulle in the back added custom. It’s tough to satisfy both your desires (as i said, i felt the same way) but it’s possible. At least in my mind im satisfied. πŸ™‚

Post # 68
1044 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@sillysillybee:  I love this!! very classy and elegant but also totally stare worthy!

Post # 69
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hi there,

I am actually a Vera Wang Gemma dress Bride myself πŸ™‚ …

I say…if you truly love the dress, GO FOR IT… whether it’s simple or all-out.  If money is the issue, then you would have to make a compromise.  You are right, go for the same “style” or silhouette, but at a much lesser value.  Of course, you won’t find one that’s exactly the same as the Gemma.   (At least I haven’t seen any.)

I loved the VW Gemma dress, the first time I laid my eyes on it.  I tried to find a dress that matched to its “level” , but none of the dresses just made it… sooo, I thought, “you know what, I might as well go all out, for this dream dress especially I am only getting married once (HOPEFULLY!) !! Might as well.. wear it!” 
I didn’t want to be wearing another dress on my wedding day, and I’d be thinking “Darn, i should’ve gotten what I wanted.”

One dress that I ALMOST bought because it was somewhat similar to the Gemma, was the Mikaella 1551 …here is a pic of me wearing it… (you can also find more pics in google images)

I liked that it was a trumpet style mermaid… with rouching just like the Gemma…it looked great with a belt… but the bottom part was way too simple for me, and the bottom/train part of the dress was non comparable to Gemma’s VAVAVOOM train.  With that being said, I wanted to go all-out.

I found other Mikaella dresses that are quite similar to Gemma, and they are Mikaella 1663 and 1612.

In the end, I just could not take my mind/heart off from Gemma…therefore I had to say yes to the VW dress!

Here are some pics:



Honestly, I do not regret buying the Gemma at all, even though it was way more expensive than the others…  you just have to try and see if the dresses that are similar to Gemma will meet your standards… if not, I suggest trying something new like a flowy/lacey dress. πŸ™‚ You never know, you may love them even more than the Gemma.

Best of luck! :)”

PS = if you love dancing, I don’t think Gemma is the right dress to move around in… honestly, it was pretty hard to dance in, as it was pretty constrained in the area above the knee… just fyi πŸ˜›

Post # 70
7 posts
  • Wedding: March 2014

@polyblonde Your dress is gorgeous, I’ve never seen anything like it! Who is the designer?

Post # 71
42 posts
  • Wedding: January 2014

Did anyone go with a less structured look but still flattering?  I will be getting married on the beach and the last thing I want is a lot of heavy fabric around me making me sweat.  But I am on the thin/lanky side so I still need a good fit so I don’t look like I’m a ghost or wearing a nightgown.  For the ladies that have already done some looking, any ideas? 

Post # 72
1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@polyblonde:  Thank you!! Your dress is out of this world gorgeous on you. Love it, especially the added tulle.

Post # 73
1874 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I thought I was going to go with a more dramatic gown with lots of detail and bling like the maggie sottero sabelle but I ended up falling head over heels for more of a simple gown. It really brought out my shape and really let MY beauty show:

Thought I would have a dress like this (maggie sottero sabelle):


And here’s my dress (from DB):

Post # 74
1094 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Mine is half and half. The bottom is simple and has a few sparkles on it, the top is COMPLETELY sparkles! This is totally me. I love shinies and I have a huge personality, but I am also subdued and enough of a tomboy that I couldn’t do an all out explosion in sparkles, tulle, lace, etc.

Post # 75
1775 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I thought I wanted simple, but I tried on simple dresses and they did nothing for me. I ended up with this one:

Post # 76
5136 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I guess you would say I went all out? When I started looking for dresses, I alway pictured myself in a big ball gown…I tried on what I thought was my “dream dress” and was extremely disappointed. The ballgowns looked like they were wearing me and not the other way around. The best advice I can give you, and this is the same advice the woman who helped me buy my dress said “try on all the style dresses there are to see what looks best on you. If you don’t like, you try on another dress. But try it on. THe dresses are made to be worn not for the hanger.” When I went shopping the woman looked at me and said with her heavy Italian accent, why you want a big big dress? you have beautiful shape, show it off. Now I am thinking me? beautiful shape? Is she bananas. She pulled this dress for me and I was like “eh” She said try, it, you no like, we keep looking. I tried it on, and then tried on the other dresses she pulled. I tried on the first one she liked and bam. THats when it hit me. This was a dress that made me feel like I had no flaws. I felt perfect and beautiful for once in my life. Its an amazing feeling. I hope every bride has that experience when they find “the dress”


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